Freedom from Trapped Emotions

Freedom from Trapped Emotions

We are taught in our society to suppress our emotions. 

That is a huge travesty.  

Often depression and chronic anxiety is caused by not feeling our emotions.  The habit of suppressing our emotions creates a backlog.  That backlog of unfelt emotions can feel very overwhelming.  When we suppress our negative emotions, we also suppress our ability to feel positive emotions.  By becoming more aware of our emotions, and allowing ourselves to feel them, we can reduce the backlog and move towards emotional freedom. 

What if much of what you feel is from your past?

What if much of the anxiety you feel has nothing to do with your present?  What if much of the sadness that you feel is trapped emotions from your past?  When you encounter experiences in your present that remind you of the past experience, the emotion comes up. 

The emotional hamster wheel 

When an emotion comes up, we can spend years, trying to change our outer circumstance so that we don’t feel the emotion.  That is a hamster wheel that never ends.  And it creates its own stress.  

We have all kinds of defense mechanisms that we use to avoid feeling our emotions.  Over thinking, creating a story about it, analyzing, obsessing, blaming others, blaming ourselves, isolating ourselves, going to numerous practitioners, trying to change our circumstances, taking masses of supplements, etc.   

Freeing ourself from trapped emotions 

The only way to free yourself from an emotion is to feel it.  Emotion stands for energy in motion.  When you do not feel an emotion, it does not move through you and it gets stuck.  When it gets stuck in your energy field, it continually sends a signal to your nervous system which contributes to insomnia.  It also blocks the flow of energy in your meridians and interferes with the functioning of the body and organs. 

A suggested practice to help you feel emotions 

Here is a practice that can help you to feel your emotions and release them.  When you feel an emotion coming on:

  1. Deepen your breath.
  2. Feel the emotion whether it be sadness, anger, fear, etc.
  3. Avoid getting into an internal dialogue about the emotion.
  4. Remind yourself that you don’t need to act on the emotion.
  5. Keep saying, “this is only an energy that is moving through me. I am willing to feel it and let it go”
  6. Try this for 5 minutes.
  7. Notice if there is a difference. 

Afterwards, take some time to reflect on your experience.  Did this help?  Were you able to do it?  Did it feel to scary to feel an emotion?  

Let go of any self-judgments that might have come up.  This takes time and practice.    Post in the “I Want to be Healthy” Facebook page any questions about your experience.  We are in this together. 

May you be happy, may you be peaceful, may you be free. 


6 Steps to Enhance Spiritual Connection

6 Steps to Enhance Spiritual Connection

Connection to Spirit

The spirit, or spiritual essence, is the core of who we are. It has been said that we are spiritual beings having a human experience. Our spirit is the unseen essence within us that activates, guides, and directs us in our lives here on earth.

Spirit is the energetic essence of all life, of all existence, of which we are a part. It is ever-present and unchangeable. It is the creator of life and the destroyer of life. It is the yin and yang, positive and negative, love and fear. It is subtle and beyond description and words. Like me in this moment, many have attempted to put it into words, but the most that words can do is point to an experience beyond words or thought.

Within each one of us, there is an inherent longing to be connected to this inner essence. We each experience our connection with our inner essence in our own unique way. For some it is stillness, for some it is activity, some it is connection through nature. There are as many paths to the reconnection and remembrance of who we as there are stars in the sky.

The Problem

Many of us have forgotten or lost the true authentic connection with our spiritual essence. Inherent in each of us is a longing to reconnect with or remember who we really are. We feel the inner longing whether we know it or not.

When we are not connected with our inner spirit, this longing can be interpreted as a need for more from the world around us. The problem is that nothing in our external world can fulfill the inner longing to reconnect with our spirit. If we misunderstand this longing for more, we can spend precious time and energy “looking for love in all the wrong places,” so to speak.

Imbalance in the physical, mental, and emotional dimensions cause static in the energy field and makes the connection with our  spiritual self more difficult. It is as if a cloud is passing over the sun, obscuring the light. The more balance in the other dimensions, the more light is allowed through. In order to accentuate our connection with our Divine Nature, balance in all dimensions is needed.  The 6 steps below will assist you in strengthening your connection with your spirit.

6 Steps to enhance our connection to Spirit:

1.  Understanding.

An understanding of our spiritual nature and the human journey is helpful to get the mind on board with the journey. The mind is a powerful tool that can be used to enhance the spiritual connection or sever it.

2.  Acceptance.

Acceptance is a major aspect of the spiritual journey. If all is Consciousness, then all is One. In that understanding, everything is an expression of Love. Everything we experience is the “play of consciousness.” One step in connecting with spirit is developing the art of equanimity, seeing the divine hand at play in all situations and experiences.

3.  Awareness.

Awareness is a key ingredient in connection with our Divine Nature. if we focus on increasing our awarness of each moment.  We can feel our body, notice our breath, become aware of our emotions, notice sights, sounds and smells as we go through our day.   Increasing our awareness of what is happening in the moment allow our awareness naturally expands so that we see more and have greater insight. 

4.  Balance.

Balance in all dimensions helps to reduce the static that clouds our awareness. When our mind is busy, our emotions antagonized, our bodies in pain or fatigued, our awarness is dimmed.  When we balance our body, emotions and mind, they become quieter and in greater hamony with each other and awareness of the more subtle spiritual increases.  As our awareness expands, we realize that our spiritual essence is always there if only we have the eyes to see it. 

5.  Connection.

Taking time on a regular basis to consciously reconnect with our spiritual essence speeds up the journey. It can be as simple as pausing for a few breaths or as involved in a daily practice of meditation. What do you do that helps you to feel greater peace within?  What is important is the connection, not the tool.   

6.  Sharing.

We are one. What we give is what we receive. Sharing our authentic self with others empowers our journey and theirs. Being truthful with our self helps us to create an inner connection, sharing that with others enhances it.  Sharing creates an upward spiral flow that uplifts all of life. 

In Summary

Our spiritual essence lives at the core of our being.  When connected with this inner self, a deep sense of well-being occurs.  When the body, emotions and mind are imbalanced, this deeper sense of self can be obscured.  By bringing balance to the denser dimensions, we eliminate some of the “noise” and disturbance, making the spiritual dimension more available to our experience.

Through intention and honing our skill of sensing our spiritual self, we make it more available to us. We experience this inner self, we connect to a sense of inner peace.   When our sense of inner peace is disturbed, we know when we are out of connection and can make choices to restore our inner peace. Ultimately, that becomes your primary interest. Everything else is secondary and yet everything else falls into place once the spiritual connection is strong and consistent.

May you connect within and embrace inner peace.


10 Steps to Enhance Your Expression

10 Steps to Enhance Your Expression

 Enhance Your Expression 

The Beyond Fibromyalgia program is a comprehensive system of healing and balancing all aspects of who we are, including our body, emotions, mind, expression, spirit and energy all built on enduring core principles.  I call this the art of Integrative Wholeness™

In this article, we are going to explore ways to enhance our Expression as part of the whole and thereby enhance our enjoyment of life and provide our gifts to the world.

These ­10 steps will enable you to enhance your expression to achieve the optimal fulfillment in life.

  1. Own your power.
  2. Know yourself
  3. Create your vision and personal mission statement
  4. Effectively manage your life.
  5. Conscious Creation.
  6. Creating successful relationships (work, family, friends)
  7. Communicate from the Heart
  8. Express your life purpose.
  9. Share your abundance with others
  10. Serve Humanity


1.  Own your power.

We are the creator of our own experience.  On some level of our being, we have created everything that we are experiencing.  As the creator, we can also choose to create something different.  We are not a victim to our past, to our karma, to our family upbringing, to our ancestry, or to our genes.

We live in a society where we are inundated with information and dogma; from our family, religious organizations, governments, television, books, and the list goes on.  We are told what we need to do to be successful, to be loved, to be accepted by society.  If we aren’t, then we are bad, wrong, or unacceptable.

What if our future were a clean slate?  What if we could write our own script, make our own standards, chose the life we would like to live.  What if we could live the life of our dreams?  I believe that we can do exactly that.  I believe that our dreams are planted in our consciousness by our soul.  They are there to guide us.  It is only our limited thinking and energetic patterns that get in the way.  We can reclaim our power and create the life we were destined to live.

2.  Know yourself

The first step to owning your power is to get to know yourself.  Who and what is the authentic you buried under your belief systems, emotional patterns and physical imbalances?  What makes your heart sing, gives you energy and excites your creativity?  What lowers your energy, blocks your creativity and dampens your spirit.  What fills you with a deep sense of satisfaction and fulfillment?  What are your dreams, desires and goals?  What does your heart say yes to?  What values bring you to a sense of coming home within yourself?  What brings you true joy?

Often, our true essence gets lost in all the conditioning that we have accepted.  We forget who we are.  We forget our dreams.  We believe our goals are unattainable and we have given up on them.  We don’t even know what brings us true joy.  We look for satisfaction outside of ourselves.

As we work through the previous sections on the physical, emotional and mental reclaiming, we begin to through off the old snake skin and our true essence begins to shine through.   We feel more alive and excited about life.  Contentment, peace and a natural flow replaces stress and tension. 

3.  Create your vision and personal mission statement

When we are connected with our authentic self our dreams and desires realign with our original soul imbued blue print.  It is from this place that we can document our core values, our vision for ourselves and our personal mission statement.  This becomes the guiding light in our life, our lighthouse on the distant shore, which keeps us coming back again and again to what is truly important to us.

Without our core values, vision and mission statement, we attempt to place our security or sense of wellbeing in things outside of us such as family, religion, work/career, or substances.  The problem with this is that many things in these external arenas are outside of our control or influence.  We then live with a need to control the things external to us to maintain our sense of safety.  As that isn’t possible, be live in constant fear or endeavor to control the uncontrollable.

Once we have identified our core values, vision and mission statement, they become our safety and security.  We intuitively know that as long as we make our choices and decisions with them at the center, whatever happens, we know where to come back to.

4.  Effectively manage your life.

Now that you are the creator of your life, know yourself, and have identified your personal core values, vision and mission statement, these become the center from which you manage your life.  With these in mind, you have a foundation from which to make decisions in your life.  If part of your vision is to have a healthy and balanced body, your meal planning, scheduling and finances would include time and money for buying shopping and cooking healthy foods.   Scheduling your time, managing your finances and what you expend your energy on will be guided by your map.  Important also is to consistently check in with your inner compass which we will discuss more in the article on Energy.

Without your map, it can be difficult to make decision and direct your time, money and energy into the external things, people and situations that will create the greatest satisfaction, joy and fulfillment in your life.  You might be working very hard to reach a goal, but once you get there, you are still left filling unfulfilled and dissatisfied.  You are left like a life boat floating on a very large ocean without knowing what direction to go and at the mercy of the currents, weather and such.  Your decision may be directed by others or trying to navigate the latest drama or crisis in your life.

With your personal map you can easily manage your life with inner confidence and true power. 

5.  The Art of Conscious Creation.

We are now ready to consciously create our vision.  As in step one, we have acknowledged (or at least open to) the idea that we are the creators of our life.   Keeping our vision and map in our minds, we can now focus on consciously creating our future.

We are creating all the time.  By looking at our life, we can easily see what we are creating.  Most of our creation is unconscious.  That is why it is difficult for us to “own” our creation.  But until we own our current creation and take responsibility for it, we will be blocked from creating our vision.

Creating our vision is the most powerful when all of our dimensions are balanced an in alignment with each other.  We are balanced and health on the physical level, our emotions are stable and manageable, our mind is focused and clear, we are connected with our spiritual dimensions. 

6.  Creating successful relationships (work, family, friends)

We are the center of our life.  However, we don’t live in a void and relationships give us the opportunity to express our unique self, contribute our unique gifts to a co-creative project or endeavor and derive pleasure from the company and companionship of others.  A successful relationship is that which empowers all parties, celebrates each person’s individuality and uniqueness, and creates a synergy that is more than the sum of the parts.

Often in our relationships, we are looking for someone to fill a weakness within our self or an emptiness that we sense.  As this is mostly unconscious, we see the other person as the blame for not getting our needs met.  This type of relationship will usually be the source of conflict as no one can fulfill another person.  That has to come from within.

Successful relationships don’t just happen; they are created with awareness, integrity and skill.  Once in place they offer expansion and growth for all parties.

7.  Communicate from the Heart

An important component in creating healthy relationships and enhancing our expression is communication.  Communication can either create separation and conflict or connection and synergy.   When we communicate from a place of wholeness within ourselves, we are grounded in our authentic self and at the same time open to the ideas and suggestions of others.  We listen from an open empathic place.  We hear and take in others fully and completely.  We are able to speak our truth fully without hesitation.  We communicate in a way that opens and uplifts ourselves and others.  We work with others in a way that win/win outcomes are possible.

If we are not grounded in our authenticity and our core values, we may become fixated on the idea that in order to be right, others must be wrong.  From that place, we guard and become defensive and endeavor to convince others that we are right and they are wrong.  If those we are attempting to communicate with are coming from the same place, we generally reach an impasse.  Neither person is truly hearing the other.  Each person is convinced that the other must change before harmony can come between them.  A win/win solution is not achievable.

Communication is at the heart of success in all endeavors with others.

8.  Express your life purpose.

Each of us is here with a purpose to fulfill.  That purpose may be as simple as being a wonderful mother to her children and a wife to her husband.  It may be as complex as being a world famous figure.  Perhaps you are a simple person, leading a very normal looking life and enjoy spending time connecting with nature.  The important thing in understanding and expressing your life purpose is that is resonates with you inside and brings you fulfillment and joy.  The physical manifestation of that is as diverse as the leave on the trees and as unique as each individual snowflake.  You are the only one who can live your purpose.  Without your voice, the orchestra of life is missing a note or a melody that would only enhance the beauty of the whole.

Sometimes, we forget our purpose and focus instead on making money or fulfilling another person’s expectations.   When we do this, our heart aches and our soul calls out to us to bring us back to our path.

Following the steps in the Integrative Wholeness program brings you back to yourself, to your true vision and to your soul purpose.  It gives you the awareness, inner strength and tools to express your unique self in the world and make the world a better place for all to enjoy.

9.  Share your abundance with others

As we follow the path of Integrative Wholeness, our awareness of the abundance that we are and that surrounds us naturally grows and expands.  That is the nature of abundance.  We will naturally share our abundance with the world, just as a flower naturally shares its beauty with others through its visual beauty and delightful aroma.   As we share our abundance with others, it naturally increases and unfolds exponentially.  Our light becomes brighter with each passing day.

Sharing our abundance with others is a natural byproduct of Integrative Wholeness.  It is not something that we do; it is something that we are.  It is our Beingness that we share through our gifts to the world.

10.  Serve humanity.

Serving humanity is the natural outcome of the previous steps.  We are grounded and centered within our authentic self, we are connected with our soul self, we are operating from our heart space.  We are filled with such abundance that it flows over into others through our beingness, our actions, our words, our thoughts, and our feelings.  We lift up the rest of the world with our expression and make the planet a better place to live for all.

The external expression of our service is once again unique to each individual and guided by the heart and soul.  Each individual expression complements and enhances the whole. 

In Summary:

Enhancing our expression is a journey not an event.  For me, this is a road-map of where I want to go and who I want to become.  I am still on the journey myself, but this acts as a light house beacon that guides my choices and helps me to reset my course if I am drifting away from my highest good. 

My hope is that it will instill in you what is possible.  Years ago, when I was in the worst part of my experience with fibromyalgia, I wouldn’t have thought this was possible.  Yet, at the same time, I had an inner desire to express my self and create my life in a bigger, better and more satisfying way than I was experiencing then.  I am on my way.  I hope you will join me. 

It inspires me.  I hope it will inspire you too.  


8 Steps to Harness the Mind

8 Steps to Harness the Mind

Beyond Fibromyalgia – Harness the Mind

Beyond Fibromyalgia is a comprehensive system of healing and balancing all aspects of who we are, including our body, emotions, mind, expression, spirit and energy.

The mind is a powerful tool when aligned with the heart and the soul.  But without this connection, it can become a deficit rather than an asset.

We have positive thoughts and negative thoughts. The thoughts we repeatedly think influence our emotions, our body, and our life experiences. There has been much talk in the world these days about positive thinking. By balancing the mind with the heart and the spirit, it can can uplift us and enable us to become more healthy, productive and fulfille.

Here are 8 steps to re-engage the mind as part of the whole.

  1. Hold the mind in the right perspective.
  2. Implement the steps to heal the body.
  3. Implement the steps to heal the heart.
  4. Gain awareness of your mental patterns
  5. Feed your mind healthy and nutritious foods.
  6. Shift negative mental patterns to positive life affirming mental patterns.
  7. Discover your innate core values
  8. Align your thinking, words and actions with your innate core values.


1.  Hold the mind in the right perspective.

The mind is a powerful tool for the heart and the spirit.  It is designed to take in, store, organize, and analyze information.  Through this process it can also offer solutions to challenges based on the data it has stored.   The mind does not in and of itself access the higher wisdom on the heart, spirit and divine wisdom.  That information needs to be accessed by the spirit and heart and fed to the mind.   If the mind is used as a tool managed by and in harmony with the heart and the spirit, it can be very resourceful and valuable tool.  But if the mind loses touch with the heart and spirit, it can become a fearful or demanding tyrant, standing in the way of all that your heart and spirit need to truly soar.

In our society, we tend to give the mind a higher accord than we do the wisdom of the heart and the spirit.  When we do that, we are missing part of the picture and are operating on the mind alone.  The mind will always base its advice on past experience whether good or bad.  The mind is also more closely linked to the ego and can easily see itself as a separate being and have difficulty seeing and taking in other perspectives and will even need to defend itself and its perspective.  We need to understand the true purpose, strengths and weaknesses of the mind to most effectively utilize its gifts to us.

Developing the ability to detach from the mind and witness it from the perspective of the heart and soul is the first step in truly harnessing the power of the mind.

2.  Implement the steps to heal the body.

If the foods that we feed our body are in harmony with our bio-individuality, our body chemistry is balance and the brain and body is receiving the nutrients that it needs to function properly.   Then the mind will be clear, focused and able to carry out its duties efficiently and effectively.   

If the bio-chemistry of the body is imbalanced through improper diet, poor exercise and other negative lifestyle habits, then the mind can be confused, cloudy, unsure, inefficient and ineffective.  Positive thinking will be challenging, connecting with guidance of the emotional and spiritual dimensions with be hampered.

Healing the body is an important step in healing the mind.

3.  Implement the steps to heal the heart.

The mind is subtly aware of the feelings and images stored in the heart.  When the emotional dimension is filled with negative cellular memories, the mind is impacted by these and tends to create stories to rationalize the feelings and actions generated by the negative cellular memories.  These stories get in the way of seeing a situation clearly and even thinking in a positive life affirmative way.

By healing the heart, we are also freeing the mind from the impact of the negative cellular memories.  When the emotional dimension is open and free and the energy in the body is moving freely, the mind is also more open, alert and in the present moment.   The mind can better hear and follow the messages of the heart and spirit when the heart is free and clear of static from suppressed emotions and negative cellular memories.

Healing the heart simultaneously supports healing the mind.

4.  Gain awareness of you mental patterns and beliefs

The mind and your beliefs are part of the lens through which we perceive the world.   Our thoughts and beliefs also direct the interpretation of the events, people and situations in our lives.  Those perceptions and interpretations impact the quality of our experience of life.  If we have a trusting positive perspective of life, we will have a positive experience of life.  If we have a negative untrusting perspective of life, we will have a negative experience of life.

We can use positive affirmation to assist in changing our perspective, but until we are fully aware of the underlying beliefs.  Saying affirmation can be like putting icing on a pile of shit.  It still doesn’t smell or taste so good.

Through introspection, journaling and meditation, we can become very familiar with our minds and our thought processes.  Through non-judgmental observation of our mind and the experience it creates for us, we can begin to understand the connection between the thoughts and beliefs and the impact of them on our life experience.  From disassociation with the mind, we can be free to be in a position to let go of the thoughts and beliefs that no longer serve us.  From this perspective, we can then begin to consciously choose our thoughts and belief systems.

5.  Feed your mind healthy and nutritious foods.

Just as there is healthy food for the physical body and the emotional body, there is healthy and unhealthy food for the mind.   Imagine spending your time engaging in uplifting, life affirmative positive activities and thought processed.  You have just fed your mind healthy food.

If we are constantly feeding our mind negative thoughts and images, we are fueling the negative beliefs and thoughts within ourselves.  If we feed our minds positive uplifting thoughts and images we are feeding the positive thoughts and beliefs within ourselves.

What we are feeding the mind with come back to us in our experience.  Just as if you sew the seed of a dandelion, you will get a dandelion.  If you sew the seed of a rose, you will get a rose.

We need to use discrimination not only on what we open ourselves to, but also in evaluation of what we see and hear.  We need to consciously decide if that is something that we want to believe in or not.  We actually do have that choice.  We can choose what we believe and what we do not believe.

6.  Shift negative mental patterns to positive life affirming mental patterns.

So far we have set a stable foundation through holding the mind in the right perspective, balancing our bio-chemistry, healing the heart issues, gaining awareness of our mental patterns and beliefs, and using discrimination on what we feed our minds.  With this foundation in place, our work with the next step will be more fruitful and enduring.

Awareness is a key factor in shifting our mental patterns.  We have been building that awareness through the first 5 steps; awareness of our thoughts and how they impact how we feel and what we experience in our lives.  Discrimination is another key factor.  Through awareness, we are able to begin to build the power of discrimination.

We use awareness and discrimination to evaluate our experience, our feelings and our belief systems.  We use choice to decide what to expose ourselves to and what thoughts and beliefs that we want do adopt.  We can begin to explore different ways of thinking and seeing how they feel to us.  We can begin to crowd out negative thoughts and beliefs with positive ones.

7.  Discover your innate core values

You innate core values are those that are in alignment with your Heart and Soul and with your Purpose or mission here on earth.

Discovering your innate core values is a result of the previous steps.  As you move through the first 6 steps, you will begin to naturally align your thinking with the thoughts and belief systems that are in alignment with your heart and soul.  You will feel when you are out of alignment with your Self, your heart and your soul.  You will begin to naturally be drawn to thoughts, values and beliefs that are in alignment with your heart and soul and purpose on earth.

8.  Align your thinking, words and actions with your innate core values.

Once you have gotten in touch with your innate core values, you will be drawn into alignment with those values on all levels, body, emotions, mind, expression and spirit.  Your thoughts, actions, feelings and expression with naturally come into harmony and alignment.

This is a large piece of what I term as Integrative Wholeness.  No longer are your thoughts in conflict with your feelings, words and actions.  “Everyone’(meaning the different aspects of you) is on the same page and working together harmoniously to manifest the life of your dreams and fulfillment in all areas of your life.

Benefits of harnesing the mind.

When we harness the power of the mind and align it with the wisdom of the heart and the soul, the mind becomes a powerful tool for good in our lives and in the world.  When you have this alignment, you become a very powerful individual and can begin to manifest your heart and soul centered desires that bring peace and fulfillment on all levels.

Enjoy your exploration of the mind. Until we meet again, may your thoughts reflect your inner beauty.


10 Steps to Open the Heart

10 Steps to Open the Heart

Healing the Emotional Body 

The Beyond Fibromyalgia program is a comprehensive system of healing and balancing all aspects of who we are, including our body, emotions, mind, expression and spirit.  The emotional dimension is our heart and the center of our feelings and emotions.  It is linked to our soul.  It provides the power to move us forward in our lives, adds flavor to our experiences and connects us to our soul wisdom. 

In this article, we are going to introduce 10 steps to support in healing your heart as part of your overall wellness program.  The steps will find their way to you and that may not be linear.  As you read the steps below, listen for the ones that resonate with you at this time and honor that.  

  1. Feel and Honor your emotions
  2. Release stored emotional energy
  3. Heal unresolved negative memories
  4. Develop compassion
  5. Love yourself
  6. Forgive yourself and others
  7. Flow positive emotions
  8. Develop your heart energies
  9. Touch others with gentleness and kindness
  10. Allow your emotions/feelings to guide you

1.  Feel and honor your emotions

Contrary to popular thought, emotions are not bad.  Imagine that.  Our emotions are the quality that brings life and feeling to our experience.  E-motion stands for energy in motion; energy that was designed to move.  Think about the expression that we were ‘moved’ by something.  Yep, that is your emotions speaking to you.  Our emotions add vibrancy, aliveness and color to each moment.  Our emotions can range from unbridled joy to absolute terror with everything in between.  Our emotions are a gift from the Creator to assist us in navigating our experience on earth.  Positive feelings let us know we are going in the right direction; negative feelings are a message to pause and reassess.  They are a thing to be appreciated, enjoyed and celebrated. 

For the most part, we have been taught to ignore and suppress our emotions.  We try to hang on to the positive ones and push away the negative ones.  We are afraid to feel our emotions, both positive and negative.  We particularly are afraid of the negative emotions.  We have been told “big girls don’t cry” and other such non-sense.  When emotions are ignored, belittled and suppressed, the energy is not allowed to move as intended.  And this stuck energy builds up in our system and can contribute to physical pain, insomnia, and other physical symptoms.  

To begin the process of healing the emotional dimension simply be more aware of and notice your emotional landscape.  

2.  Release stored emotional energy

When emotional energy is felt and allowed, the landscape constantly changes and we feel vibrant and alive.  Each moment is new and fresh.  This is why people are so drawn to babies.  They have not suppressed their emotional energy.  They feel it all and allow it to move and flow.  That is why there is an aliveness in babies and small children that we are drawn to.  We want to feel that aliveness within ourselves.  

When we ignore and suppress our emotional energy, our senses are diminished and our aliveness is dulled. The energy gets ‘stuck’ inside and forms a cyclical pattern attempting to move and resolve itself.  It will attract situations to it to assist it in getting unstuck.  Do you ever wonder why you keep attracting the same negative situations to you again and again?  A part of you is attracting situations to you to ‘move’ the stuck energy and thereby free you from the cyclical pattern.  Or, do you over react to situations?  The over reaction is the stored energy trying to move.  Another problem with suppressing emotions is that when you don’t allow yourself to feel the negative emotions, you are also blocking your ability to feel the positive emotions and joy and love are not able to be felt.  Along with physical problems, the stuck emotional energy also contributes to negative mental patterns and a disconnection with our spiritual essence.  

Step 2 of healing the emotional dimension is to release the buildup of stored emotional energy in a healthy way and regain your aliveness.  

3.  Heal unresolved negative memories

Our true nature is one of love, peace and joy.  We were made in the likeness and image of God.   We are powerful creators.  We each have a purpose for being on this earth and an authenticity that wants to be expressed.  Our conscious mind may say that we want to experience love, joy, peace, contentment and empowerment.  But our experience does not reflect this.  Why is this so? 

As humans, we have a conscious mind and a sub and unconscious mind.   We are a bit like an iceberg.  The conscious mind is like the tip of the iceberg that we can see.  The sub and unconscious minds are like the bulk of the iceberg that lies beneath the surface.  All of our memories in this life time as well as memories from our ancestors and other time space dimensions are stored in the sub and unconscious mind.  Some of these memories are positive and life affirmative, some are negative and life destructive.  These memories are stored as images in the cells of our body.  These ‘memories’ have more control on our choices and actions than our conscious mind does.  That is why will power does not always work or may only work temporarily.  That is why you don’t always get what you think that you want.  That is why the power of positive thinking doesn’t always work.  

Until we bring to the surface and heal or neutralize these memories, they will always interfere with our dreams, goals and desires.  So step 3 in healing the emotional dimension is to heal or neutralize the negative cellular memories.  

4.  Develop compassion

In the journey of healing our emotional dimension, compassion is essential.  Compassion is the quality of complete acceptance of ourselves, others or an event along with a healing flow of love.  From a place of compassion, we can be neutral in our evaluation and choose our actions with clarity and purpose.  

On the journey of healing our emotional dimension, we will be confronted with aspects of ourselves and mental and emotional memories that we have judged as bad or wrong.  We will need to feel the emotional pain that we have suppressed in order to survive in the world.  Part of the process of healing is allowing those emotions and memories to surface without judgment or releasing judgment as it surfaces.  Only in acknowledging releasing the judgment, can we allow the memories and emotions to surface and be healed.  In our relationships with others releasing judgment and having compassion towards other is key in creating lasting healthy, happy, intimate relationships. 

5.   Love Yourself

To love yourself means to absolutely and unconditionally accept yourself including all the wonderful, beautiful and amazing things about yourself and all of the horrible and unacceptable things and idiosyncrasies that you detest about yourself.  You are perfect just as you are.  You are a wonderful beautiful expression of the divine.  Nothing less, bet possibly even more.  

We have been brought up to believe that we have to show up in a certain way to be loved and accepted.  We have been taught that who we truly are, our authentic self, is somehow less than lovable and acceptable.  In order to attempt to be loved, we have put on many masks and costumes and personalities.  All the time, our true authentic self lives within and is dying to express herself.  

Part of healing is to release the mask, costumes and personalities that we have taken on to be accepted by others and rediscover our authentic self that lives within and then allow her to shine into the world.  In order to release the masks, costumes and personalities, we have to be able to see, feel and hear them at a deep level without judgment.  

6.  Forgive

Forgiveness is the act of compassion in action.  It takes the compassion and the self-love that we have developed and directs it inward and outward.  Forgiveness frees our self from the chains that bind us to resentment, negative events and negative people in our history.   It allows us to move forward unfettered into the life we dream of.  It frees our body and mind from stress and anxiety.  It allows us to see the beauty within ourselves and others.  It opens us up to the reality of personal responsibility. 

We sometimes think that by holding on to a grudge, we are protecting ourselves from being hurt again.  In reality, holding a grudge is like pulling off the scab of a wound again and again never allowing the wound to heal.  It is like twisting the knife shoved in the gut rather than pulling out the knife and discarding it.  Forgiveness does not mean that we are accepting the actions of another person.  It simply means that we are willing to acknowledge that they were doing the best they could and that we are willing to release them and move forward with our life. 

When we forgive, we let go of the injustice, the wounds and the pain.  We free ourselves, God, and others to move to a more empowered expression of the next grandest expression of our divinity.  

7.  Flow positive emotions

When we are flowing positive emotions outward to others or even objects, we are the first recipient of that emotion/energy.  Positive emotions are healing and pleasant. They are the fuel that assist us in manifesting our dreams more quickly and ensure the positive quality of the manifestation of that dream.  We all like feeling love, peace, contentment, joy.  The truth is that we have the capacity to generate those feelings within ourselves and express them outward into our world.  

We often look outside of ourselves for the experience of positive emotions.  If someone else loves us, we can feel love.  If the circumstances of our life is just so or we have the right job, we will feel safe and secure and at peace.  We look to vacations to feel a sense of relaxation or exciting adventures to feel alive.  This keeps us caught in the hamster wheel of constantly trying to control the externals of our life or seeking situations to give us the inner experience that we crave.  This is a hit and miss situation at best.  We can never control the external world all the time and our endless searching outside of our self for an experience is costly and takes us in the wrong direction. 

We can develop the ability to generate the feelings we want to feel within our self.  That way, we are not a victim of our circumstances; we are self-sufficient, and empowered from within.  And our experience is more of what we want to experience; peace, love, joy, and empowerment or whatever you choose.  

8.  Develop Positive Heart Energies 

When I talk about the heart, I am talking about the energetic heart within each of us.  Each experience we have is an opportunity to express a heart energy.  If someone is mean to you, it gives you the opportunity to express understanding and compassion.  If you experience an ongoing challenge in your life, it gives you the opportunity to express persistence and determination.  If someone or something leaves you, it is an opportunity to express opportunity.  

Often, we focus on pushing away the negative experience, not wanting to feel it.  That just keeps us stuck in the same old experience.  Rather than pushing away the negative, we have the opportunity to fully feel it and then bring in the missing heart/positive energy.  We have the opportunity to bring compassion, love, peace, patience, generosity, understanding or many other positive qualities to the situation.  As we invite the positive energy into the situation, we grow our capacity and connection with that energy.  It becomes stronger in us and more natural to express in our daily life. 

9.  Touch others with gentleness and kindness

‘The meek shall inherit the earth’ is a quote from the Bible.  It is so true.  Those who love will become strong.  Those who express understanding, gentleness and kindness carry a strength that nothing can conquer.  Love, gentleness and kindness are akin to our true nature.  Our true nature is an expression of the divinity within us.  Nothing can harm or destroy that divinity.   

Many of us have been raised in an environment of fear and competition.  There is not enough.  I have to fight for or take what I need or I will be left without or behind.  Being gentle and kind does not mean to roll over and let someone stomp on you.  It means being strong within yourself, energetically stronger than your challenges or seeming adversaries.  We all have everything that we need within ourselves.  Once we touch that deep well, we do not need to argue or defend ourselves.  We can allow others to be as they are and ourselves to be as we are.  This is true freedom. 

10.  Allow your emotions/feelings to guide you

As I said in the beginning, our emotions are a gift from the Creator to assist us in navigating our experience on earth.  Positive feelings let us know we are going in the right direction; negative feelings are a message to pause and reassess.  They are a thing to be appreciated, enjoyed and celebrated.  Subtle positive and negative feelings replace the gross emotions of fear, hate, joy, love.  

As we feel our emotions, clean out the negative repressed emotions and heal unresolved negative cellular memories, we become lighter and more clear.  It is like cleaning the grime off of a window.  We can see through the window for the first time.  As we develop compassion, self love and forgiveness, we envelop ourselves with a cloak of love and positive energy.  As we flow positive emotions, express heart energies, and touch others with kindness and gentleness, we are expressing the love that we are into the world. 

The final step happens naturally and spontaneously.  We become attuned to the vibration of love.  We are very aware of any energies that are clouding or in opposition to that energy.  We understand that love is the well that nurture and fills us with life.  As we make choices in our life, we will naturally move toward the choice that is full of light and love and away from choices that bring a negative feeling.  The heart is then healed and can truthfully guide us as it was intended to do.

A open heart provides us energy and enthusiasm for life

The heart is the part of us that is most ignored in many healing, spiritual and holistic traditions.  We attempt to heal the body, to think positive thought and to connect with spirit.  Body, Mind, Spirit is a well-known trinity.  But without healing the heart, the trinity is incomplete.  The electromagnetic charge of the heart is 50 times more powerful than the brain.  If the heart contains unhealed negative cellular memories, the mind will need to create negative stories to try to understand this experience, the body will suffer from the stress created by the memories, and the connection to spirit will be diminished by the fog just as the sun is covered by a cloud.    Healing the emotional dimension has a healing effect on the entire energy field that is you.

May your heart open and fill you with bliss,


12 Steps to Balance the Body

12 Steps to Balance the Body

Beyond Fibromyalgia – Balance the Body

The Beyond Fibromyalgia program is a comprehensive system of healing and balancing all aspects of who we are, including our body, emotions, mind, expression, spirit, and energy.  The body is the foundation and connects with all other dimensions.

In this article, we are going to introduce 12 steps to support your body in rebuilding wellness.

Steps 1-8 talk about the basics to becoming and staying healthy.  Steps 9-12, give us an opportunity to go to a deeper level of healing and well-being.

  1. Listen to your body
  2. Eat Real Food
  3. Drink Water
  4. Move your body
  5. Breathe
  6. Get adequate sleep
  7. Honor your bio-individuality
  8. Manage Stress
  9. Uncover and eliminate food sensitivities
  10. Detox Your Home
  11. Detox your body.
  12. Identifying imbalances and malfunctions and rebalance and restore the body and its systems.

 1.  Listen to your body

Your body communicates to you all the time.  It tells you what foods support health and healing and what foods don’t.  It tells you when you need to rest and when you need to move your body.  It tells you when you have too much stress in your life.  Your body tells you when something in your body or life is out of balance.  Your body is your friend and if you learn to listen to and interpret its signals, it will become a trusted guide in your healing process.

We have cut ourselves off from the communication from our body.  We ignore the body’s signals, we take pills and potions to silence the signals, and we do not know how to interpret the messages that our body is trying to send to us.   Step one of the healing process is to reestablish communication with the body.

2.  Eat Whole Food

The fuel for your body is whole foods, including vegetables, fruits, grains, dairy, meat, and fats.  Just as nature created your body, nature created the perfect food for your body.  Each food that we eat provides our body with unique and irreplaceable nutrients in the proper balance for our bodies.  Our bodies know how to use the foods created by Mother Nature to keep our bodies healthy and in balance and the systems in our body functioning at maximum efficiency.

In the world today, our food supply is being tainted with highly process, modified and even manufactured “food.”    Eating processed, modified and manufactured foods does not give our bodies the proper nutrition in the proper balance so in essence we become malnourished.  As our bodies are not getting the proper fuel, our systems begin suffer and malfunction.  Our body does not have the right fuel to heal and support itself.  Plus the body cannot keep up with eliminating the on slot of chemicals that it needs to dispose of.  The result includes faster aging, aches and pains, poor sleep, fatigue.  Our body also sends us signals to let us know what nutrients we are missing from our diet in the form of food cravings.

Step two of the healing process is to return to eating whole foods as close to its natural source as possible.

3.  Drink Pure Water

Your body is somewhere around 50-75% water.  Water performs many vital functions in the body.  Your brain needs water to function, your body needs water to flush out toxins and cellular wastes from the body, and your blood is primarily water and works to bring oxygen throughout the body.  These are just a few examples of the importance of water.  The quality of water is also important.  Filtered or spring water are the best options.

We often replace water in our diet with coffee, teas, sports drinks and sodas.  These types of beverages often contribute to dehydration rather than to hydration and are filled with unhealthy chemicals or stimulants.  Sometimes we simply don’t drink enough liquids of any kind.  By the time you feel thirsty, your body is already dehydrated.

Step three of the healing process is to drink adequate high quality water.

4.  Move Your Body

The human body was designed to move.  Movement of the body keeps the body healthy and strong.  Moving the body keeps the muscles toned and strong, the heart healthy, the joints lubricated and healthy, and assists the organs in fulfilling their functions.  Movement assists the body in detoxifying cellular wastes and helps to transport nutrients and oxygen throughout the body.  Movement also gets you where you want to go in life.  A variety of movement is needed to include strengthening, cardiovascular, flexibility, and ease.

For many of us our lives are more sedentary than they have been in the past.  We have compensated with gyms and numerous forms of exercise.  Some of us exercise too little, some too much.  Yes, you can over exercise as well as under exercise.  Some focus too much on one category such as strengthening or cardiovascular rather than a balanced routing including all categories.  Exercise can be fun activities such as dancing or playing a sport.

Step four of the healing process is to include a balanced exercise routine in your regular schedule.

5.  Breathe

The most important nutrient that we take in every minute of every day is air.  Breath is life.  Your life begins with the first breath in and ends with your last breath out.  Without breath/air/oxygen, you would cease to be alive in 3-4 minutes.  You can live for up to 3-4 months without food and up to a week without water, but you cannot even live 5 minutes without air.  The breath brings the important nutrient of oxygen into your body and rids the body of metabolic and cellular wastes.  The breath also fosters self-awareness, assists you in listening to your body, and can help to manage stress.

For many of us, our breaths are shallow, we do not use the full capacity of our lungs and we do not exhale fully to empty our lungs before taking in the next breath.  The busier we get, the less breath we take in.  It is a simple yet very valuable process to take a few minutes each day to simply watch the breath and then slow down and deepen the breath.  In addition to this simple process, there are breathing techniques that we can learn and use to support health and balance in the body, emotions, mind and spirit.

Step 5 is learning to breathe more fully and completely.

6.  Get adequate sleep

Sleep time is the part of our day where we allow the body, mind, emotions and spirit to rest and rejuvenate.  The body needs this time to repair and replenish itself so that it can continue day after day.  Likewise, the mind needs down time.  We need time where we can sink into the deepest recesses of our being and reconnect with our source.  This rhythm aligns us with the rhythm of the earth and keeps the cycle of life strong.  The number of hours that we sleep, the quality of our sleep and the rhythm of our sleep cycles are all important factors in getting adequate sleep.

In our busy lifestyles, we lose this natural rhythm.  We compromise our sleep by cutting down the hours available for sleep, by staying awake late into the night (or early morning hours) and by compromising the quality of our sleep.  Good dietary and exercise routines are important in insuring a good night sleep.  A balanced schedule with adequate time for sleep that is in harmony with nature is important as well as managing the level of stress in our lives.

Step 6 is getting adequate good quality sleep.

7.  Honor your bio-individuality

Each person on this planet is as unique as each individual snowflake.  This individuality extends beyond the color of our hair and eyes.  It impacts our personality, our water needs, our exercise choices and our food choices.  Just as some plants like more sun or more water or different types of soil, the needs of our bodies differ from person to person.  Have you ever wondered why some people never gain weight no matter what they eat or some people can lose weight on a high protein diet when another person would gain weight on that same diet?  Why do different people like different foods?

This is all about bio-individuality.  If you are eating foods that suits your unique bio-chemical needs, you can eat all you want with no issues around weight gain or loss.  You will have a stable and abundant supply of energy from morning until night fall.  You will have less aches and pains.  Your mind will be clear and focused.  Your hormones and emotions will be more stable.  Your food cravings will diminish.

In our world today, we get an abundance of conflicting information on diet and exercise.  How do we know what is right for us?  We are taught to not listen to our bodies, but to follow someone else’s idea of what our bodies need.

By learning about your unique bio-individuality and adjusting your diet and exercise to align with that, you will be supporting your body in moving towards health and balance.

8.  Manage Stress

Stress is a part of our lives and always will be.  Stress is that which moves us forward into creating new solutions to the challenges that we face in our lives.  Stress helps us to evolve beyond limiting beliefs and who we think we are into the next grander vision of ourselves.

Stress in the body also helps us to become aware when something is out of balance and gives us notice that we need to pay attention and take action to bring ourselves back into balance.  Stress can be found on the physical, emotional, mental and expression levels of our existence.  And stress in one area impacts stress in the other areas, so it is important to become aware of and address the stress in a timely manner.  If stress is unaddressed, it leaves a negative imprint in the body and can cascade into numerous challenges on all levels.

The steps included in this article are ways to reduce stress on the physical level.  Each phase of the Beyond Fibromyalgia program is intended to bring balance to a different dimension of ourselves and thereby reduce stress on the physical body.   Watch for upcoming blogs . . .

9.  Uncover and eliminate food sensitivities

A healthy food for your body is a food that your body can digest and utilize to provide your body with proper nourishment.  Along with our bio-individuality, there are some foods that agree with your body and some foods that may not agree with your body.

Maybe you love a food, but after eating it, you don’t feel so good.  You may even say, “I like that food, but my body doesn’t.”   You might feel sluggish or get a stomach ache or heart burn or diarrhea or fuzzy minded or overly emotional.  If so, these are foods that are contributing to ill health rather than good health.

Some of these foods are easy to identify because the results are immediate and noticeable.  Sometimes the effects of these foods are more subtle and take time to impact the body.  These are the foods that need some detective work to uncover.  Identifying and eliminating foods that your body reacts negatively to is an important step in creating a strong and healthy body.  Watch future blogs for ways to identify and eliminate food sensitivities.

10.  Detox your home.

Keeping your home clean and uncluttered is another way to support your health.  Cleanliness provides a safe, healthy and comfortable place to live and thrive.  A place to rest, work and play.  A physically clean environment contributes to improved health.

Just as our food supply has been inundated with unhealthy foods, the cleaning products and personal care products you use can provide a constant source of toxicity that the body has to deal with.   This creates additional stress on the body and forces the body to use its resources to deal with the onslaught of toxins.  Using cleaning products and personal care products that are made using natural and bio-degradable ingredients will go a long way to improve your health.

11.  Detoxify your body

The body is designed to naturally eliminate toxins from our external environment and those created by our internal metabolic processes in order to keep the body clean and healthy.  Sort of like an internal bath.  Eating unhealthy foods and living an unhealthy lifestyle over time results in toxicity in the body above and beyond what our body can naturally eliminate.  These toxins create stress on the body, interfere with the normal functioning of the body, stress the immune system and contribute to pain and other illnesses. As you upgrade your food and lifestyle, doing a targeted cleanses can assist your body in more quickly eliminating the toxicity.  It is also a good idea to integrate some detoxification protocols in your lifestyle on an ongoing basis.   In this way, your body will achieve and maintain maximum health.  Watch for future blogs on how to detoxify your body.

12.  Re-balance and repair the body and its systems

The body is designed to maintain balance and health with all systems working at maximum efficiency.  This would include the immune, digestive, detoxification, elimination and hormonal systems among others.  In order to maintain excellent health all of these systems need to be functioning and in balance with each other.  Eating a poor diet and living an unhealthy lifestyle can push the body beyond its ability to stay in balance.

As you change your diet and upgrade your lifestyle, it is important to identify imbalances and compromised functioning within the body.  Once these are identified, targeted protocols can be implemented that will assist the body in returning to full balance and optimal functioning resulting in improved health.   See future blogs on how to re-balance and repair the body.

In Closing

As you can see, rebuilding your health is a process, not an event.  It does take intention and commitment.  Taking baby steps, choosing one thing at a time, implementing it and sticking with that until it feels natural.  Then take another baby step.  With this focus, over the course of time, you will be adopting a healthy lifestyle and improving your health.  

Help is available.  I work one on with with clients who want support in making and sticking with lifestyle and dietary changes.  If you are interested in this, you can schedule a Complimentary Discovery session with me.   By next year, I will be offering group programs so that more people can receive coaching at an affordable price.  

If this isn’t in your budget, keep reading my blogs.  I will be offering ongoing information on how to take the baby steps.  Also, join the online Kaleidoscope Healing Circle.  This is a place for us to come together as a community to support healing, compassion and empowerment.  

Above all, be kind and compassionate with yourself.   An action done with love, love for yourself,  is more powerful than anything else.  You are a beautiful, amazing woman.  You deserve to be healthy and have a fulfilling life filled with love.  Allow that to be your motivation.

Much love to you,


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