The Power of Meditation

The Power of Meditation

What is meditation?

The word meditation likely brings up many images or ideas about what that word means.  The truth is that it means different things to different people.  With that in mind, let’s take a look at meditation.

When most of us think of meditation, we think of stopping the mind, a meditation technique (such as watching a flame or repeating a mantra or watching the breath), or of a state of constant bliss.  In truth, these things are part of meditation, but they are not the whole picture.

For me, the goal of meditation is awareness; awareness of our thoughts, our bodies, our emotions, and our spiritual essence.  Meditation is a practice that builds and enhances awareness.  That is its true purpose, to build and enhance awareness.  And that is exactly what it does.

Meditation is not connected to or owned by any religious or spiritual group although many religious and spiritual groups include meditation in their practices.  Therefore, meditation, in and of itself is non-denominational.

Meditation is a balancing tool.

Meditation is particularly helpful in balancing the mind.  Think of thoughts as activity in the mind.  Then think of no thought as inactivity of the mind.  As you go through your day, your mind thinks thousands of thoughts.  Some of these are conscious and chosen, but many are unconscious and habitual.  Some thoughts are positive and life enhancing; some are negative and work to lower the quality of your life.   As most of our thoughts are unconscious, habitual and negative thoughts, so we need to bring more focus to chosen thoughts, a chosen focus and/or positive thoughts.  If we want to create balance between activity and inactivity we need to focus on inactivity.

How many of you have tried to stop the mind?  It really doesn’t work.  The mind is like any other organ in the body.  It has a job to do and its job is to think, just as the heart’s job is to pump blood and oxygen through our body 24/7.  So, to try to stop the mind is a losing endeavor and we can become caught up in fighting with the mind, which is not helpful when “meditating.”

That is where a meditation technique comes in.

A meditation technique initially allows us to redirect our focus away from the thoughts in the mind to the meditation technique, thereby breaking up the chain of thoughts. This helps us to become more detached from our thoughts.  Initially when we sit to meditate, we will often lose our focus very quickly.  At this point, most of us berate ourselves for losing our focus.  But not to worry, losing your focus is part of the process.  The important thing is that as soon as you notice that you have lost your focus, you simply bring your focus back to the technique.  It is as simple as that.  This has a twofold purpose.  Becoming aware that you are thinking again and have lost your focus builds awareness.  Bringing your focus back to your technique begins to balance the mind.

What is the best meditation technique?

There are many meditation techniques and you may wonder which the best technique is.  We are going to bring our idea of bio-individuality to meditation just as we have with all the other topics we have discussed.  The perfect meditation technique for you will be the one that works the best for you.  Period.

But, where to start?  What meditation technique will work the best for you?  Consider how you process life.  Are you more visually oriented, mentally oriented or tactile (sensation) oriented?  If you are visually oriented, you might want to choose a visual meditation technique such as gazing at a candle flame or imagining a particular image.  If you are mentally oriented, you might choose a word, affirmation, or mantra that resonates with you.  If you are tactile oriented, you might want to choose a sensation such as feeling the breath moving in the body or other sensations in the body.

Experiment with different techniques and see which one works the best for you.  How do you know if it works?  You will notice an increased sense of relaxation or calmness or balance.  As you continue your practice, you will notice periods of stillness or quietness followed by periods of activity.  The periods of stillness or quietness increase, you will notice a detachment from your thoughts and even from the meditation technique.

Transcending the technique.

Once you can remain the detached witness, the meditation technique becomes less important. You can use it as a tool to get you to the place of detachment, stillness and quietness.  Once there, simply enjoy that state as long as it lasts.  When you lose it, employ your meditation technique until you are again detached.  This will lead to a greater and greater sense of witness consciousness, where you are aware of the thoughts, sensations and feelings oscillating with periods of stillness or inactivity. 

At this point, you are aware of the polarities of activity and inactivity.  You become more aware of the stillness that exists within you at all times, a stillness that is there throughout the cycles of activity and inactivity.  And eventually you realize that the stillness is your spiritual essence.  That it is always with you, has always been with you and will always be with you.  It is you.  Then activity and inactivity doesn’t matter.  It isn’t you.  You can simply watch it play out from a detached perspective.

Letting go of control; reclaiming conscious choice.

This might seem like losing control and in a way it is.  You stop trying to control things in your life.  You have greater awareness of your thoughts, emotions, sensations, and spiritual essence.  As your awareness increases, you have the ability to consciously choose rather than to unconsciously react to happenings within you and in your world.  You become more aware of how your thoughts, feelings, words and actions impact you and the world around you.  As that awareness increases, you begin to make more and more choices that will bring you back to a place of balance, calmness, relaxation, peace and harmony.  Once you have tasted balance, peace and harmony, you will want more of it.  It will become more important to you than other things that you thought were important that actually pull you away from inner peace.  It is a journey, not an event.

In truth, meditation is very simple, but not always easy.  It is helpful to have a teacher or group to assist you on the journey.  Believe me, the mind will draw you away and it is helpful to have someone or a group to pull you back. 

Contemplation for this week.  Be aware of the following this week:

  1. Are my thought primarily negative or positive?
  2. How busy is my mind . . . just notice the busy-ness.
  3. Am I able to redirect my mind to thoughts of my choosing?
  4. How do I naturally relate to the world? Visually, mental, or sensory?
  5. Try sitting for 5 minutes each day just watching your breath.  What happens?

Please post questions or comments below or on Facebook.

Emotional Freedom and Fibromyalgia

Emotional Freedom and Fibromyalgia

Emotions and Fibromyalgia

The emotional experience for women with fibromyalgia is very challenging.  Often, we experience depression, anxiety and a host of other unpleasant emotions.   Part of rebuilding your health means creating a healthy relationship with your emotions or your emotional body.

The impact of our emotional history

As children, we were often raised in an emotionally toxic environment.  Sometimes filled with fear, anger, sadness and everything in between.  As children, we unknowingly absorb the emotions we are exposed to.  This is especially true if we are empaths; many women with fibromyalgia are empaths.

We are often trained to suppress our emotions.  We were told as children that what we were feeling wasn’t ok or that it wasn’t ok for us to express it. Were you ever told that “big girls don’t cry” or “be a man (or big boy) and don’t cry” or “you have to be strong” or “you have nothing to cry about”?  Sometimes our parents simply taught us to suppress our emotions by not being able to feel their own emotions.

Our emotions are a valuable part of who we are.

In truth, our emotions are a valuable part of who we are.  They empower us when we know how to relate to them in a healthy way.  Blocking, ignoring or suppressing our emotions is never helpful.  To create a healthy relationship with our emotional dimension, we need to feel, honor, respect and listen to our emotions.

If you have a loss, it is important to let yourself grieve and that often includes feeling sad and allowing yourself to cry.   If you feel sad all the time, chances are that there is some suppressed sadness from your past that wants to be felt.  If someone has treated you unfairly or abusively, your anger may be your emotional dimension’s way of communicating this to you.  You anger is telling you that you need to take you power back.   This doesn’t mean being mean back.  It doesn’t mean creating a power struggle.  But it might mean saying no, leaving the situation or communicating in a way that preserves your dignity, integrity and safety.  If you feel frightened, you will want to inquire into the fear to understand if there is a real and current threat or if you are just re-experiencing a painful memory from your past.  Once you know this, then you can respond or adjust accordingly.

Suppressing our emotions impacts our health and happiness

Allowing ourselves to feel our emotions and letting them move through us is always helpful.  Think of an emotion as energy in motion.  If you block it, that energy gets stuck within you and will create a block in your energy flow and can create problems down the road.

These energetic blocks not only block the negative emotion that you don’t want to feel, but also block positive emotions, such as joy and happiness.  If you suppress an emotion, it will continually want to be felt, which give rise to the ongoing experience of sadness or anxiety.  Until you feel the emotion and let the energy move, it will be a drain your energy.  Depression often is simply the experience of a build up of blocked emotions.

Blocked emotions also impact the functioning of our physical body.  When there is a blocked emotion, it also blocks the flow of energy in the physical body, which results in compromised function of the organs in that same area of the body.  Have you every heard of someone having a broken heart and then experiencing heart problems?  If a person can adequately feel and release the grief, the heart problem can also resolve.

The art of feeling emotions in a positive way

Feeling an emotion doesn’t mean acting out on it.  It simply means feeling it and letting it go.  Once the emotion/feeling/energy has moved through you, you will have more clarity as to how to address the situation.  Once the energy has moved through you, you might not need to do anything. Situations sometimes magically resolve themselves.  You might need to communicate to another person or take a particular action.  But that communication or action will come from self love rather than from anger . . . and that is a huge difference.

Another way to bring more balance to the emotional dimension is to practice flowing positive emotions.  You can do this at any time at any place.  One great way to flow positive emotion is to simply smile.  Give it a try right now and notice how it changes how you feel inside.  You can bring to mind a pleasant memory or think of a loved one or a pet that brings you a positive feeling.  Pay another person a genuine compliment or give a small gift to someone.  Feeling and expressing gratitude is a very powerful way to flow positive emotions.

Self Inquiry to understand your current relationship with emotions

The first step in creating a healthy relationship with our emotions is understanding where we are now.  Take some time this week, to reflect on your relationship with your emotions.  Do you suffer from depression?  Do you have high anxiety?  Do your emotions frighten you?  Do you feel joy?  Are you in an environment where it is safe to feel and express your emotions?

You can post comments and questions below or on the Facebook page.

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Happy Healing.   Bindu

I am an Amazing Woman!

I am an Amazing Woman!

Each and every one is us is an absolutely amazing person with unlimited value.

Unfortunatetly, our beauty, gifts, love, worthiness and true value get hidden under our conditioning, enculturation and negative life experiences.  

This misidentification takes a toll on our health and well-being.  When our gifts and true amazing inherent beauty cannot be seen and expressed, it is painful to the soul.  

This pain reflects in the body, in our emotions and our minds.   It interferes with our enjoyment of life. 

There is a solution.  You can awaken from the layers of conditioning and become reaquainted with your true beauty, value and worth.  

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Acknowledging Positive Changes

Acknowledging Positive Changes

Part of rebuilding our health is making different choices.

These choices can include dietary changes, exercise, in how you think, how you feel, the hours you work, making time for self-care and others.  This might feel overwhelming and undoable, but if done in the right way, it is very possible.

Making lifestyle changes is a journey, not an event.

The journey can be fun and easy if we choose to make it that way.  It is not about perfection.  Don’t feel like you have to make all of the changes today or tomorrow.  Taking small steps each week will make the journey easy and you will be amazed at the results you achieve over time.

Let go of the notion that you need to deprive yourself.

Bring your focus to what you can eat and what you can do . . . not what you have to give up.  Implementing changes doesn’t have to be hard work.  It is important to implement healthy choices at a pace that works for you and doesn’t cause undue stress.  

Self acceptance is an important part of the journey.

Changes made from a place of self acceptance are more powerful and longer lasting than changes made from self judgment.  For example, attempting to avoid sweets because you think you are unattractive because you are overweight is different from choosing healthy foods because they make you feel better physically, mentally and emotionally.  Read these statements a few times and notice how you feel inside as you read each one.

  • I am choosing to eat a healthy food because I feel better physically, mentally and emotionally.
  • I am avoiding sweets because I am unattractive and overweight.

Which one will motivate you more?  Which one makes you feel more positive and uplifted?

 

Acknowledge the positive changes you have made and the results of those changes.

Say you have simply chosen to eat a healthy breakfast 2 days a week.  Acknowledge that and also acknowledge how you feel on the days that you eat the healthy breakfast.  Whatever you focus on is what will grow.  By acknowledging the positive change you have made and the positive impact that has on you, it will grow.  Grumbling about what you haven’t done only leads to discouragement and ultimately will sabotage your progress.

Keep your focus on the journey with all the baby steps you are taking along with your ultimate vision of yourself as a happy, healthy fulfilled person and you will achieve your vision.

Use the following introspection to acknowledge the changes you have made:

  1. List all the changes you have made to rebuild your health.
  2. Make a list of the positive changes you have noticed in your health, happiness and wellness.
  3. Make some positive affirmations out of the lists your have just made.
  4. Notice how each affirmation makes you FEEL; only keep the ones that make you feel good.
  5. Write the affirmations on index cards.
  6. Post the index cards where you will see them . . . on your refrigerator . . . your bathroom mirror . . . or another place where you will see them on a regular basis.
  7. Read the affirmation on a regular basis and as you do so, imagine breathing the feeling of the affirmation into your body. 

Use this introspection to bring a positive focus to the areas where you are challenged?

It is also important to notice areas where you are criticizing yourself and diffuse the self criticism.  Otherwise it could subconsciously undermine your progress.

  1. Notice if there are areas where you are criticizing yourself for not doing as well as you think you should be doing. If so, write these down.
  2. Reflect on your expectations and notice if they are realistic or not.
  3. If your expectations are not realistic, feel free to change them:
    • Break down your expectations in this area into baby steps.
    • Set new more realistic goals
  4. Find a way to focus on this area of challenge in a positive way.
  5. If you feel inclined, share with a supportive friend or with this group. 

Ask for support when you need it.  Sometimes we will feel stuck when trying to implement changes.  At those times, ask for assistance in identifying and moving beyond whatever is blocking your progress.  You don’t have to do it alone.  Support is available. 

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Paradoxes of Prayer

Paradoxes of Prayer

When I was in my worst phases of fibromyalgia, I came across thie prayer. 

I hated it and yet I would read it.

I hated it because I didn’t yet want it to be true.  I still wanted the strength, health, riches, and power.  I wanted to be happy and healthy.  I didn’t want to be sick and weak and desperate. 

Now when I read it, it is still disturbing, but I realize how true it is.  

My soul had a journey for me.  My ego wasn’t on board, but got drug along for the ride.

Now I am grateful for the person I have become.  

My ego and my soul are becoming integrated into a harmonious whole.  

I wouldn’t be who I am today without the challenges that I have encountered and overcome in my life.

I like who I am.  I am an amazing loving, compassionate, caring, powerful woman.  

I am most richly blessed.  

Self Reflection and Rebuilding Your Health

Self Reflection and Rebuilding Your Health

Self reflection is an important tool in the journey of rebuilding your health. 

Self-Reflection is a way to empower yourself to make your own decisions, based on knowledge, awareness, compassion and accessing your inner knowing.  Self Inquiry can be used to develop awareness, compassion, self-confidence and self love. 

The process of self-reflection is a powerful way to get to know yourself.  To become aware of your inner world of thought, emotions, beliefs, values, judgments, joys, fears, and much more.  It is an opportunity to meet yourself with compassion and caring.  By using self-reflection, you can become your own best friend.   You live with yourself 24/7.  No one on this planet can ever know you as deeply as you know yourself.  No one can ever love you as deeply as you can love yourself. 

Are you looking for love? 

The first place is to look within.  When you meet parts of yourself that you judge or push away, is an opportunity to embrace the part of yourself with compassion and acceptance.  By doing that, you will be giving yourself what you want and need most . . .  to be heard, seen and loved.  When you become your own champion, criticism from outside cannot harm you.  You will begin to draw to you love as a reflection of your own self-love.  

Developing self love reduces the stress that you feel every day.  Hidden judgments and self criticism create stress in the body.  This is an important hidden stressor that can keep your nervous system in a state of alert and alarm.  By developing self love, your nervous system can calm down return to balance. Anxiety and depression can be released; rest and sleep can be resorted.  

Self reflection can be done in many ways. 

Some people like to journal; some prefer silent contemplation and others deepen their own awareness through dialogue with a conscious listening partner.  Some people draw or use art, while others use music.  You can experiment with these techniques to see what works for you.  The most common is journaling and silent contemplation.

Self reflection through journaling. 

To experiment with journaling, get yourself a spiral notebook or, if you prefer, a nice journal.  Set aside some time each day where you will be undisturbed.  It can be as little as 15 minutes or as much as 30 minutes or longer.  Sit quietly for a few minutes and slow down and deepen your breath.  You can begin with a question or just write down whatever comes into your mind.  If you begin with a question, write down the question and then just jot down anything that comes to mind as you consider the question.  Do not hamper or edit the flow of your thoughts by throwing out anything, just write down whatever comes to mind.  Sometimes the most insightful and wisest thoughts are those that we might dismiss and being unimportant or silly or irrelevant.  Treasure each and every thought.  After a while of writing, you can go back through what you have written to see the treasures your consciousness has unveiled. 

Self Reflection through silent contemplation. 

This is my personal favorite.  You can begin by setting aside some time each day and finding a place where you will be undisturbed.  Sit quietly and slow down and deepen your breath.  In this method, you simply sit and watch the flow of your thoughts.  If you like, you can ask a question for direction and notice what thoughts come up.  You can deepen the inquiry by inquiring into the thoughts that come up.  Notice if you are judging the thoughts that come up.  If so, endeavor to let the judgments go and simply observe.  In this way, you are getting to know your inner self a bit more each day and by letting go of judgments, you are developing self acceptance and love. 

Self reflection through conscious dialogue with a partner. 

Conscious dialogue with a partner is also very effective.  In this technique, it is important that both parties are committed and aware of the process we are engaging in.  Find quiet place and a time where you will be undisturbed.  Slow down and deepen the breath.  Each person will take a turn sharing.  It is important that the listener not interrupt, share personal stories, or give advice.  Their role is simply to listen and if requested to feed back to the speaker what is being heard.  You can set a timer so that each person has a set amount of time to speak or be more free flowing. 

Enjoying the benefits of self reflection.  

You can use any of the methods above or devise one of your own.  You will find a wealth of knowledge and wisdom within through self reflection.  If you need help embracing yourself and would like assistance to discover the true beauty of who you are, reach out.  I am an expert in helping people to discover and embrace their inner beauty. 

Enjoy!

Bindu

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