I Wish You Enough!

I Wish You Enough!

Today, I came across this story and thought I would share it with you.  Enjoy!

Recently I overheard a mother and daughter in their last moments together at the airport. They had announced the departure. Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the mother said “I love you and I wish you enough.” 

The daughter replied, “Mom, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Mom.” They kissed and the daughter left. 

The mother walked over to the window where I was seated. Standing there I could see she wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on her privacy but she welcomed me in by asking “Did you ever say good-bye to someone knowing it would be forever?” 

“Yes, I have,” I replied. “Forgive me for asking but why is this is a forever good-bye?” 

“I am old and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is the next trip back will be for my funeral” she said. 

“When you were saying good-bye, I heard you say ‘I wish you enough’. May I ask what that means?” 

She began to smile. “That’s a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone”. 

She paused a moment and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail and she smiled even more. “When we said ‘I wish you enough’ we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with enough good things to sustain them”. Then turning toward me she shared the following as if she were reciting it from memory: 

I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.

I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.

I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.

I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.

I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.

I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.

I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye.

She then began to cry and walked away. 

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them. 

                                                                                    Author Unknown

May You Always Have Enough!

 

❤ Bindu

Stay Tuned – Beginning July 1

I have been doing some great work getting materials created for this. I look forward to sharing them with you. My hope is to have all ready to go by July 1 or sooner. 

Designed for fibromyalgia and beneficial to everyone. Revitalize your body, calm your mind, embrace your heart, discover inner peace. Includes: 

Integrative Movement – yoga, tai chi chi gong, inner dance, joint freeing and more. 

Relax, Meditate and Rejuvenate – guided relaxation, breath work, and meditation.

The Power of Awareness

The Power of Awareness

A lot of what I teach is awareness. Perhaps it would be helpful for me to describe what I mean by awareness and why it is so important.

What is Awareness?

We are very complex beings. We are multi-dimensional. By multi-dimensional, I mean that we have a physical body, emotional body, mental body, energetic body and a spiritual body. Within each of these dimensions are many energies and processes that function to give us the experience we have. Most of these processes and functions go on behind the scene and beyond our conscious awareness.

That is part of the grand design of a human being. Our heart beats without us needing to do anything. Our lungs breath without us knowing how this happens. We feel things, emotionally and energetically. Our mind thinks without our volition. We have cellular memories of our past that are subtle images playing continuously. All this and more is going on in the background creating what we experience moment to moment. Most of this we are not consciously aware of.

When we build awareness, we are choosing to bring into awareness some of these “programs” running in the background. We become more aware of our thoughts, emotions, physical sensations, energies, memories and soul.

 

Why is Awareness Important?

Awareness is important because it is these background happenings that create our experience of life. By becoming more aware of what is going on behind the scene, we can and will change the experience of our life. We can become the co-creator of our experience rather than the victims of our past and our conditioning.

Does this sound intriguing? Interesting? In my experience, becoming more aware has been a wonderful experience for me. I have changed and evolved in many ways that I could never have imagined. With increased awareness, we can impact our physical health, improve our relationships with others, improve our mood, get better sleep, enjoy life and more. We will experience a fullness of life that isn’t possible without increased awareness.

That is all I will say for today. But I will continue with this in future posts.

May your awareness grow,

❤️Bindu

Stay Tuned – Coming Soon

Designed for fibromyalgia and beneficial to everyone. Revitalize your body, calm your mind, embrace your heart, discover inner peace. Includes: 

Integrative Movement – yoga, tai chi chi gong, inner dance, joint freeing and more. 

Relax, Meditate and Rejuvenate – guided relaxation, breath work, and meditation.

Is your food making you sick?

Is your food making you sick?

Fibromyalgia is a very complex syndrome.  I have lived with it for many years and explored many various treatments, and approaches to healing.  One of the factors I have found to be very important in reducing fibromyalgia symptoms is the food we put into our mouths.  What we eat can help our bodies to heal or to exacerbate or cause symptoms. 

I am inspired to write this today because of a flare up of symptoms that I had not experienced in years. I was very baffled about what was happening.  It took me a few months to realize what was happening.  I had became too lax in my diet and began including foods that I have previously expelled from my diet.  With the removal of the foods, my symptoms quickly resolved.  That completely reaffirmed my belief that diet is a MAJOR factor in fibromyalgia. 

There are 4 major components to consider when considering diet:

  1. Eating whole, unrefined foods free from additives and preservatives.
  2. Eating the right foods for your unique body type
  3. Eating from a place of gratitude and presence.
  4. Identifying and eliminating foods that your body reacts to. 

 

Symptoms that can be caused by the wrong diet include (but not limited to):

  • Physical tension, aches, and pains.
  • Burning, itching on the skin and internally.
  • IBS, crones, constipation, diarrhea
  • Depression and anxiety.
  • Fatigue
  • Insomnia
  • obesity

 

Eating whole, unrefined foods free from additives and preservatives.

Fresh fruits, vegetables, animal foods, nuts, seeds, grains, and oils are the foundation of a healthy diet.  Dairy if your body can tolerate it, some bodies cannot tolerate dairy.    These foods provide the body with important nutrient to build, repair, provide energy, enhance cellular communication, hydrate, and nourish cells, balance hormone activity and more. 

Refined foods are often loaded with chemical preservatives to extend the shelf life and additives to give it back some flavor that is destroyed in the refining process.  The refining process destroys important nutrient that the body needs to thrive and heal and can add empty calories (calories deficient of nutrition) that can lead to weight gain and malnourishment.  The added chemicals can build toxicity in the body and interfere with the body’s natural chemical processes. 

 Animal food free from hormones, antibiotics, and other chemicals are preferable.  The added chemicals can impact your hormone levels, create a desensitization to antibiotics when truly needed, and create imbalances and toxicity in the body. 

Organic vegetables are preferable but start where your feet are, and your budget can handle.  Fresh vegetables are preferable, then frozen and lastly canned (which are the most deficient in nutrients)

 

Eating the right foods for your unique body type

Just as different plants have different needs such as amount of sun and water, temperature, the Ph level, and the right blend of soil and fertilizer, our human bodies have unique needs.  If you place a pansy on a hot dry area with direct sun in the middle of the summer, it will shrivel up and die.  But if planted in the fall it can thrive all winter.  If you give a geranium a lot of water it won’t do well, but many philodendrons love water.   

Some people do well on a high protein, high fat diet.  Some people do better on a high carb, low protein diet.    If you discover the right diet for your type, you will feel a greater sense of well being and balance, reduce food cravings, have a steady flow of energy, and maintain a stable weight. 

Different body types do well with different vegetables, fats, and protein as well. 

 

Eating from a place of gratitude and presence

Taking time to eat in a quiet space and chewing your food improves the digestion and assimilation of the food.  It allows for full digestion and improves elimination as well.   Focusing on the taste of the food and the process of eating assist the body in digestion.  Eating in a rush or while multi-tasking reduces the benefit of food and creates digestive issues.  It also creates a tendency to overeat as you are unaware of when you body is signaling that it is full, which leads to obesity and further insults the digestive system.

 

Identifying and eliminating foods that your body reacts to

This aspect of diet is more difficult to identify.  Different bodies react strongly to certain foods.  Here are some common intolerances: Dairy, gluten, gluten free grains, eggs, corn, soy, Legumes, tree nuts, citrus fruits, and night shade vegetables, shellfish, and coffee.   There are also categories of food that contain high levels of natural chemicals in foods that can cause reactions. These include salicylates, amines, sulfites, fructose, oxalates. 

 

Steps improve your diet to enhance your health.

  1. Improve the quality of your diet by transitioning toward whole foods and away from processed foods. Moving towards organic foods rather than conventional and factory farming.  Improve the quality of the animal foods you ingest by finding meats that are free from added hormones and antibiotics.  Then discovering animals’ foods that include a healthy environment for the animals as they grow.  
  2. Set aside a time and place for eating that provides a calm and nurturing environment in which to eat and enjoy the process of nurturing your body. Focus on the experience of eating.  Tasting the foods, chewing well, savoring the flavor, eating slowly and consciously.  This will enhance digestion and can be a mini meditation away from the busyness and concerns of your daily life.  Expressing gratitude for the food you ingest, feeds you the emotion of gratitude along with the nurturing foods. 
  3. Discover your unique body type. There forms of body typing that focus on different aspects of our physiology.  I have explored many different types of body typing and I find the Metabolic Typing Diet by Bill Wolcott is the most inclusive.  His book, the Metabolic Typing Diet is a good place to start.  The book educates you as to the importance of body typing, provides a questionnaire to identify your oxidative type, how to implement, and instructions as to what foods to eat and how to refine your diet.  He has an advanced questionnaire that offers a more complete assessment by including nervous system type, blood type and hormonal type that is available through a certified practitioner.  (If you are interested in that, you can contact me.)
  4. Explore food intolerances and sensitivities. Educate yourself.  There are many good articles on the internet about food sensitivities that include lists and instructions.  You can experiment with your own body.  Remove one offending food for a week, notice if you feel a difference.  Then put the food back in and notice how you feel.  This is a very powerful way to use your body to discover exactly what does not work for it.  There are blood tests that can identify food sensitivities.  (If you are interested in this, contact me). 

 

Learning to feel your body and listening to it is very powerful. 

Your body knows what it needs and does not need.  By tuning in and listening to your body, you will create a very powerful alliance with your body.  It can become your guide and friend, rather than an enemy that is causing you pain.  Remember, your body is also suffering.  It does not want to be in pain.  It also wants to be healthy and can guide you in that direction. 

 

May you discover the healing properties of food,

 

Bindu

Why Willpower Doesn’t Work . . . And What Does!

Why Willpower Doesn’t Work . . . And What Does!

Why Willpower does not work . . .  and what does!

 

We all have habits, mental patterns, emotional patterns that we dislike.  How often have you tried to change those habits and patterns only to fail?  Maybe it worked temporarily, then the pattern reemerged.  Or perhaps it just never worked.

Have you been called weak for not being about to change a pattern or habit?  Have you criticized yourself for being weak willed?  Have you given up on trying to change and accept status quo, yet still find an underlying desire for the change you envisioned?

 

Why do we fail?

Most of the time, when we attempt to change patterns or habits, we are working on the level of the conscious mind and trying to change from the outside in.  We give little or no credence to our subconscious mind, which in truth runs the show.

Our subconscious mind holds the memories of our positive life experiences, negative life experiences and traumas.  Out of these experiences, we develop beliefs and protections based on our experiences.  Our self-defeating patterns are fueled by these subconscious memories.  These memories will win in the battle between the mind and the subconscious memories.

In my work in assisting my clients in unraveling their subconscious pattern, I am again and again amazed at the power of the subconscious.  Often the need to for safety, security, life, and love, held in the subconscious, is at the root of these patterns.  They are not going to go away until getting these needs met is reasonable assured.  This is not logical.  It is deeply held in the limbic brain which is driven by the emotional feeling body.

Give yourself a break.  It is not your fault that your efforts have failed.  You just did not have the right tools to work with.

 

What does work? 

The primary ingredients in being able to unravel negative patterns is Awareness, Acceptance and Compassion.

Awareness.  As we become more aware of our body, mind, and emotions, we can begin to see the underlying components of the pattern.  The emotions we do not want to feel.  The negative beliefs about ourselves and others to escape from feeling our emotions.  The protective habits we have normalized to the point that we do not even question them . . . and assume that is just who we are.

Acceptance.  Acceptance is the ability to greet that which arises will acceptance.  This can be a difficult step as we are often our own self-critic.  That is one of the patterns that we need to dismantle.  Yet, if we can accept all that arises, even our own self critic, we can begin to discover deeper motivations for our self-defeating actions and beliefs.

By greeting our inner parts with an attitude of curiosity rather than an attitude of criticism, we can begin to understand how the underlying parts fueling the negative beliefs and habits, have our best interest in mind.  Yet the beliefs and habits might be outdated, not really needed anymore, and sabotage our health and happiness.

Compassion   Compassion allows us to hold our self with understanding rather than blame.  Compassion is the ability to be present with painful experiences and emotions without turning away from our self.  Compassion is our ability to greet all our parts, positive and negative, with understanding and forgiveness.  It is the ability to give to our self the love and acceptance that was previously withheld.

By participating in a cyclic process of awareness, acceptance, and compassion, we can unravel the underlying subconscious destructive cellular memories and trapped emotions that are fueling our self-defeating patterns.  As we become more aware of our underlying programming, the patterns begin to unravel themselves and we move closer to who we really are.

 

The Hidden Gift

While Awareness, Acceptance and Compassion may not be a quick fix, it will provide real and lasting changes.  More importantly, it will bring you into a healthy, loving, and compassionate relationship with your Self and all your parts.  That is a journey worth taking.  That is the treasure hidden within.  From a place of Self, you will discover deep the inner fulfillment that your soul craves.  That is priceless.   

 

Free Mini Course 

My free Mini Course, Six Steps to Resolve Hidden Stressors, provides a blueprint that can be help bring the subconscious in to awareness.  If you use this on a regular basis when you are struggling with a challenge in your life, you can get insights into the underlying factors in self-defeating patterns. 

If you do not have the Mini Course, click here to receive it.  If you have it, pull it out, dust it off and give it a try.  If you have questions about the Mini Course, join my Facebook Group, I Want to Be Healthy which was created to answer questions and provide a place for discussions about the Mini Course.  If you have not joined, you can do so by clicking on this link.

 

Awareness Practice

  1. Take an inventory of your challenges. Make a list of all the things that you complain about in your life.  Under each of these complaints is a hidden treasure.
  2. Use the worksheet in the Mini Course as a self-inquiry guide.
  3. Explore one challenge at a time.
  4. Become more aware of the emotions and beliefs underlying your areas of challenge.
  5. Notice your relationship with your emotions and explore ways to embrace your emotions.
  6. Create some truth focus statements to remind you of the experience you would like to have.
  7. Use the truth focus statements to remind you of your higher intention.

 

 May you discover the wealth of the Self within, 

Bindu

The Power of Intention

The Power of Intention

“Intention provides the template to a future not yet in manifestation”

 

For those of us with fibromyalgia and many other chronic illnesses, it can sometimes feel discouraging to work towards improved health.  We are told by the medical community that there is no cure, it is all in our heads, we need to learn to live with it, etc.

 

Set your intention

Years ago, my fibromyalgia was really bad.  It was so bad, that I could not imagine living my life this way.  I adopted the attitude that I could rebuild my health.  That attitude has been severely tested over the years.  At one point, I decided that I had to surrender to living with fibromyalgia for the rest of my life.  I thought I had tried everything.   Shortly after that, a friend suggested trying something and hadn’t heard about before.  It helped for a while, and more importantly, it opened a door for me.   I realized that new tools for healing were coming out every day and there was much that I did not know about.  I made a commitment to myself to always keep improving my health.  I am glad that I did as my health is greatly improved because of that.

By setting an intention to improve our health, we are telling God / Source / the Universe what we want to manifest.  We become co-creators with God / Source / The Universe, by setting the intention.  It can be amazing what shows up in one’s life after setting such an intention.

 

Asking the right questions

Along with setting an intention, is asking the right question.  How often do you ask the question, “Why do I feel so bad?” or “What’s wrong with me?” or “Why can’t I be healthy?”

What if instead you ask these questions, “How can I improve my health?”  or “Why is my health improving?” or “What’s new to learn about how to rebuild your health?”

If you only ask the questions about why you are not health, your will receive answers to those question, confirming that you are indeed unhealthy.  If you ask the question about how or why our health is improving, you will receive those answers.

 

“Ask and it shall be given”

 

Be conscious about what you ask, for that determines the answer you will be given.

 

Home Practice:

  1. Become conscious about your intentions. Are you thinking you will have fibromyalgia all your life and there is no way out of that?  Or are you willing to declare that it is your intention to rebuild your health?
  2. What questions do you ask? What kind of answers do you receive?
  3. Experiment with changing the questions and see what happens.

 

May your health and happiness grow,

Bindu

Fibromyalgia, Trauma, and the Five Elements

Fibromyalgia, Trauma, and the Five Elements

The 5-element theory from the ancient Chinese system of healing can add a further understanding of how trauma creates health problems in the physical body.

 

A simple understanding of the 5 Element Theory

The Five Element Theory is the foundation of the ancient Chinese system of healing.  It includes awareness of the meridian system, 5 elements of life, emotions and the relationships between the organ systems and symptoms.

The five elements are Wind, Fire, Water, Metal and Earth.  Each of the elements relate to a pair of meridians, emotions, and organs.  All symptoms in the body will relate to one of these elements.

 

Here is an image showing the relationships between the elements, organs and emotions:

According to the Five Element Theory, the health of the organism / body is dependent upon the flow of the energy through the body via the meridians.  If a meridian is blocked or weak, the functionality of that organ or the related organs and give rise to symptoms in the body.

 

How this relates to trauma

A trauma can be defined as an experience that is overwhelming to the individual that cannot be fully felt, integrated, and released.  In other words, a part of the individual gets frozen in time and the flow of energy gets blocked.  As emotions are energy-in-motion, this translates into emotions being held within the body.

When you feel an emotion, you are simply feeling the flow of energy through your body.  If the emotions are blocked or repressed, the flow of the energy gets compromised and the related organ system become compromised leading to symptoms. The symptoms are the body’s way of signaling to you, that there is a problem that needs to be resolved.  Once the emotion is felt, the trauma is resolved, the energy moves, the flow of energy is restored, and symptoms can resolve.

A trauma does not have to be a huge event.  It can be a small incident.  Yet if many small incidents collect over time, the body can reach its toleration point and then one final event can break the camel’s back . . . so to speak.

 Ongoing stresses in your life can have the same impact as a trauma. Such as ongoing financial stress, work related stress, family stress, or relationship issues. When you are stressed about a situation,  you can contract physically, emotionally or energetically, which also leads to reduced flow of energy.  

 

Complimentary with other approaches

Our modern system of medicine looks at a symptom as something that needs to be gotten rid of.  It does not generally appreciate the symptom as a signal from the body that something needs to be resolved.  Medications are given that relieve symptoms, yet the underlying imbalance is often not resolved.

This can be very helpful for intense symptoms, yet, unless the underlying imbalance is resolved, the imbalance may lead to additional symptoms or worse symptoms.  Also, medications normally have side effects which can create additional problems.

Even dietary, exercise, lifestyle changes, herbs and supplements can be complimented by resolving trauma for the greatest results.  

 

The interrelationship of the organ systems 

Another factor to consider is the interconnected relationship between the organ systems.  For example, unresolved grief, impacting the lungs and large intestine, may lead to anger which impacts the liver and gall bladder.  The symptoms the show up may be related to the liver and gallbladder, but the underlying cause is the grief.

In the Chinese system, all spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical symptoms can be traced to one of the organ systems.  Stay tuned for additional blogs addressing this!

 

How this applies to Fibromyalgia 

In the case of fibromyalgia, there are often multiple traumas.  Often a build up over time of small traumas that eventually lead to a breakdown.

When we have traumas and suppressed emotions, our mind attempts to create a mental understanding of why we feel the way we do.  This can lead to unconscious beliefs, that block our happiness and health and undermine our authenticity, vitality, and passion.   The most commonly held underlying belief is, “there is something wrong with me” or some variation of that.

From my perspective a well-balanced treatment plan for fibromyalgia, would include a way to resolve the underlying trauma(s).   Resolving the traumas not only lead to a reduction in symptoms, but also a greater sense of inner peace, empowerment, and fulfillment.

I often get referrals from medical doctors and holistic practitioners to assist their patients with resolving the underlying emotional and psychological imbalances.   They deem this to be an important part of a patient’s treatment program.

It is rewarding to see that there is a growing awareness of the importance of healing the heart and emotional wounds in the field of fibromyalgia and other chronic health issues.

 

Assistance is available

If you would like some one on one help in this area, I offer a free Discovery Session to explore your situation and see if we would be a good fit.  You can request the Discovery Session via this link. All sessions can be done via phone, skype or zoom!

I will also be unveiling group programs sometime this year, so stay tuned!

 

May you grow in health and happiness.

Bindu