6 Steps to Enhance Spiritual Connection

6 Steps to Enhance Spiritual Connection

Connection to Spirit

The spirit, or spiritual essence, is the core of who we are. It has been said that we are spiritual beings having a human experience. Our spirit is the unseen essence within us that activates, guides, and directs us in our lives here on earth.

Spirit is the energetic essence of all life, of all existence, of which we are a part. It is ever-present and unchangeable. It is the creator of life and the destroyer of life. It is the yin and yang, positive and negative, love and fear. It is subtle and beyond description and words. Like me in this moment, many have attempted to put it into words, but the most that words can do is point to an experience beyond words or thought.

Within each one of us, there is an inherent longing to be connected to this inner essence. We each experience our connection with our inner essence in our own unique way. For some it is stillness, for some it is activity, some it is connection through nature. There are as many paths to the reconnection and remembrance of who we as there are stars in the sky.

The Problem

Many of us have forgotten or lost the true authentic connection with our spiritual essence. Inherent in each of us is a longing to reconnect with or remember who we really are. We feel the inner longing whether we know it or not.

When we are not connected with our inner spirit, this longing can be interpreted as a need for more from the world around us. The problem is that nothing in our external world can fulfill the inner longing to reconnect with our spirit. If we misunderstand this longing for more, we can spend precious time and energy “looking for love in all the wrong places,” so to speak.

Imbalance in the physical, mental, and emotional dimensions cause static in the energy field and makes the connection with our  spiritual self more difficult. It is as if a cloud is passing over the sun, obscuring the light. The more balance in the other dimensions, the more light is allowed through. In order to accentuate our connection with our Divine Nature, balance in all dimensions is needed.  The 6 steps below will assist you in strengthening your connection with your spirit.

6 Steps to enhance our connection to Spirit:

1.  Understanding.

An understanding of our spiritual nature and the human journey is helpful to get the mind on board with the journey. The mind is a powerful tool that can be used to enhance the spiritual connection or sever it.

2.  Acceptance.

Acceptance is a major aspect of the spiritual journey. If all is Consciousness, then all is One. In that understanding, everything is an expression of Love. Everything we experience is the “play of consciousness.” One step in connecting with spirit is developing the art of equanimity, seeing the divine hand at play in all situations and experiences.

3.  Awareness.

Awareness is a key ingredient in connection with our Divine Nature. if we focus on increasing our awarness of each moment.  We can feel our body, notice our breath, become aware of our emotions, notice sights, sounds and smells as we go through our day.   Increasing our awareness of what is happening in the moment allow our awareness naturally expands so that we see more and have greater insight. 

4.  Balance.

Balance in all dimensions helps to reduce the static that clouds our awareness. When our mind is busy, our emotions antagonized, our bodies in pain or fatigued, our awarness is dimmed.  When we balance our body, emotions and mind, they become quieter and in greater hamony with each other and awareness of the more subtle spiritual increases.  As our awareness expands, we realize that our spiritual essence is always there if only we have the eyes to see it. 

5.  Connection.

Taking time on a regular basis to consciously reconnect with our spiritual essence speeds up the journey. It can be as simple as pausing for a few breaths or as involved in a daily practice of meditation. What do you do that helps you to feel greater peace within?  What is important is the connection, not the tool.   

6.  Sharing.

We are one. What we give is what we receive. Sharing our authentic self with others empowers our journey and theirs. Being truthful with our self helps us to create an inner connection, sharing that with others enhances it.  Sharing creates an upward spiral flow that uplifts all of life. 

In Summary

Our spiritual essence lives at the core of our being.  When connected with this inner self, a deep sense of well-being occurs.  When the body, emotions and mind are imbalanced, this deeper sense of self can be obscured.  By bringing balance to the denser dimensions, we eliminate some of the “noise” and disturbance, making the spiritual dimension more available to our experience.

Through intention and honing our skill of sensing our spiritual self, we make it more available to us. We experience this inner self, we connect to a sense of inner peace.   When our sense of inner peace is disturbed, we know when we are out of connection and can make choices to restore our inner peace. Ultimately, that becomes your primary interest. Everything else is secondary and yet everything else falls into place once the spiritual connection is strong and consistent.

May you connect within and embrace inner peace.

Bindu

Self Reflection and Rebuilding Your Health

Self Reflection and Rebuilding Your Health

Self reflection is an important tool in the journey of rebuilding your health. 

Self-Reflection is a way to empower yourself to make your own decisions, based on knowledge, awareness, compassion and accessing your inner knowing.  Self Inquiry can be used to develop awareness, compassion, self-confidence and self love. 

The process of self-reflection is a powerful way to get to know yourself.  To become aware of your inner world of thought, emotions, beliefs, values, judgments, joys, fears, and much more.  It is an opportunity to meet yourself with compassion and caring.  By using self-reflection, you can become your own best friend.   You live with yourself 24/7.  No one on this planet can ever know you as deeply as you know yourself.  No one can ever love you as deeply as you can love yourself. 

Are you looking for love? 

The first place is to look within.  When you meet parts of yourself that you judge or push away, is an opportunity to embrace the part of yourself with compassion and acceptance.  By doing that, you will be giving yourself what you want and need most . . .  to be heard, seen and loved.  When you become your own champion, criticism from outside cannot harm you.  You will begin to draw to you love as a reflection of your own self-love.  

Developing self love reduces the stress that you feel every day.  Hidden judgments and self criticism create stress in the body.  This is an important hidden stressor that can keep your nervous system in a state of alert and alarm.  By developing self love, your nervous system can calm down return to balance. Anxiety and depression can be released; rest and sleep can be resorted.  

Self reflection can be done in many ways. 

Some people like to journal; some prefer silent contemplation and others deepen their own awareness through dialogue with a conscious listening partner.  Some people draw or use art, while others use music.  You can experiment with these techniques to see what works for you.  The most common is journaling and silent contemplation.

Self reflection through journaling. 

To experiment with journaling, get yourself a spiral notebook or, if you prefer, a nice journal.  Set aside some time each day where you will be undisturbed.  It can be as little as 15 minutes or as much as 30 minutes or longer.  Sit quietly for a few minutes and slow down and deepen your breath.  You can begin with a question or just write down whatever comes into your mind.  If you begin with a question, write down the question and then just jot down anything that comes to mind as you consider the question.  Do not hamper or edit the flow of your thoughts by throwing out anything, just write down whatever comes to mind.  Sometimes the most insightful and wisest thoughts are those that we might dismiss and being unimportant or silly or irrelevant.  Treasure each and every thought.  After a while of writing, you can go back through what you have written to see the treasures your consciousness has unveiled. 

Self Reflection through silent contemplation. 

This is my personal favorite.  You can begin by setting aside some time each day and finding a place where you will be undisturbed.  Sit quietly and slow down and deepen your breath.  In this method, you simply sit and watch the flow of your thoughts.  If you like, you can ask a question for direction and notice what thoughts come up.  You can deepen the inquiry by inquiring into the thoughts that come up.  Notice if you are judging the thoughts that come up.  If so, endeavor to let the judgments go and simply observe.  In this way, you are getting to know your inner self a bit more each day and by letting go of judgments, you are developing self acceptance and love. 

Self reflection through conscious dialogue with a partner. 

Conscious dialogue with a partner is also very effective.  In this technique, it is important that both parties are committed and aware of the process we are engaging in.  Find quiet place and a time where you will be undisturbed.  Slow down and deepen the breath.  Each person will take a turn sharing.  It is important that the listener not interrupt, share personal stories, or give advice.  Their role is simply to listen and if requested to feed back to the speaker what is being heard.  You can set a timer so that each person has a set amount of time to speak or be more free flowing. 

Enjoying the benefits of self reflection.  

You can use any of the methods above or devise one of your own.  You will find a wealth of knowledge and wisdom within through self reflection.  If you need help embracing yourself and would like assistance to discover the true beauty of who you are, reach out.  I am an expert in helping people to discover and embrace their inner beauty. 

Enjoy!

Bindu

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Be the One You Love this Valentines Day

Be the One You Love this Valentines Day

I wrote this poem when I was a child.

I found it years later after I had been practicing meditation for 20 years.  I was stunned. I obviously had experiences of stillness and silence as a child to write something like this.

Then I realized that the most effective meditation for me is to sit and watch my mind and my breath. I find it fascinating and deeply relaxing. I have the pleasure of getting to know myself. It is true for me that silence is my favorite companion. That is my inner being, my center, my home. It is me in the fullest sense of the word.  

Don’t try to stop the mind.

If you try to stop your mind, most often your meditation practice becomes a battle with your mind. That is counterproductive. The mind is a thinking organ, just like the heart pumps blood throughout your body. Trying to stop the mind is a fruitless endeavor. It simply aggravates the mind, which winds it up. Watching the mind allows the mind to unwind and then it will naturally slow down and you will have periods of stillness between the thoughts. It is something that happens naturally without force. Over time, the spaces increase in frequency and duration. 

There are many meditation techniques.

Meditation techniques are designed to focus the mind on an object whether it be the breath, a word, a candle or something else. By focusing the mind, it brings concentration and allows a break from the constant flow of thoughts. We begin to see that there is more to our inner landscape than our thoughts. 

The purpose of the focus is to move you into a state of witness conscious, where you can watch the mind from a detached perspective. Once you experience that, the object of focus can be relinquished and the meditation becomes watching the activity of the mind, body and emotions. If you loose your ‘witness consciousness’ perspective, then you can engage the focus again. Even a moment of stillness between the thoughts is enough to change your perception of life and begin the journey to watching the mind and beyond.

Meditation is a powerful tool

Meditation is a powerful way to reduce your stress and become more aware of yourself and the world around you. You get to know yourself and re-integrate all the parts of yourself that you have pushed away. Making friends with those parts, is a component of self love. When you make friends with them, they integrate back into you and no longer sabotage your success.

Experiment with an object of focus that you feel drawn to and that makes meditation easy without creating a battle with your own mind. Let the mind become the entertaining focus of your meditation.

Everyone is unique

What works for one person, doesn’t work for everybody. So discover what works for you and let that be your guide. If you are visual, you may want to watch a candle or create an inner image to focus on. If you are auditory, you might do best saying an affirmative statement or a mantra or listen to some music. If you are kinesthetic, you may want to try watching the breath, feeling the breath move in and out of your body at the nostril or in the rise and fall of the belly with the breath.

Allowing meditation to progress naturally is the way to find inner peace.

Meditation is about letting go of goals and being present in the moment.  To become goal oriented about meditation defeats the purpose . . . unless of course, you can watch your mind trying to goal set and be amazed and amused at it’s tenacity. Yet, even that is a goal. See how tricky the mind is.  

One of the greatest comments I ever heard about meditation:

“Some days my meditation is like a refreshing, cooling drink on a hot day. Other days, I feel like I am locked in a very small room with a crazy person.”

Yep. That’s the mind . . . the ‘crazy’ person. As you detach from the mind as you sit, that detachment will creep into all areas of your life.  That allows you to be present in life without reacting (or at least not acting on your reactions) and make clear decisions from a place of love while remaining grounded and centered.

Home Practice

This week, set aside 10 minutes a day to set and do nothing with your eyes either open or closed. Choose a focus if you like or simply watch the wall in front of you. At the end of the 10 minutes go about your day. Be aware of what you notice during the ‘meditation’ or in your life. Let me know how it goes.  

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All Healing Begins with Self Love

All Healing Begins with Self Love

All Healing Begins with Self Love

I would suspect that you have, like me, had many people say to you that your symptoms are all in your head.  Perhaps insinuating that you have control over what is happening to your body. Or that all people have pain, so what’s the big deal.  Or recommending this or that supplement or modality to cure you.

Perhaps you have run yourself ragged trying medication, supplements, dietary changes, lifestyle changes, stress reduction, meditation, yoga, alternative therapies, or miracle cures.  Perhaps some or many of these have helped, but your health remains compromised and your functionality and happiness along with it.   Perhaps part of you wants to just give up, but that is a scary proposition as well.  So, you hang in there as a brave fibro warrior doing the best you can day to day, hoping for relief.

Take a moment to consider these questions:

  • Are you engaging with your fibromyalgia and your body as if it were the enemy?
  • Do you judge yourself for being ill; for not being able to keep up with the rest of the world?
  • Do you feel a sense of worthlessness as you struggle to keep going each day?
  • Do you feel a sense of rejection when other people tell you to “just get over it” or “try harder”?
  • Do you struggle to express yourself and your needs and desires?
  • Do you feel guilty when you need to say ‘no’ in order to take care of yourself?

These are all symptoms of a lack of self-love!

I didn’t know what the word love meant!

For many years, I didn’t even know what the word love meant.  It didn’t have a positive feeling for me.   It was a scary word.  After all, everyone who had told me that they loved me had been abusive to me.  Both as a child and as an adult.    I knew that I needed to re-frame my connection to the word love.

Lucky for me, I am a cat lover.

My cats taught me the true meaning of love.  Cats (dogs, too) love unconditionally.  When I would pet my cats, I would feel a gentle, peaceful feeling.  And I realized that the feeling was coming from me.  Wow, I thought.  This is what love is.  Yet, I still didn’t know how to generate that feeling towards myself, towards other people, towards my illness or towards life in general.  It seemed isolated to the connection between me and my cats.  But it was a starting place.

Intention is everything!

I began noticing when I was feeling peaceful and loving and when I was not.  I began asking myself, “how I could come to live more and more in that place of peace and love.”

As I continued my journey with that question in my mind, my life began to change.  I began to be able to embrace myself and my experience with an open heart.  I began to have greater compassion for myself and others.  I became less judgmental of myself and others.  I began to work in harmony with my body rather than railing against it for failing me.  As I created a healthier, more loving relationship with my body, I was able to access the wisdom and guidance from my body as to how to improve my health.  I could understand what the symptoms were telling me that they needed.  My body became my guide on to how to improve my health.  The improvement in my health gained speed and momentum.

Another aspect of self-love is in meeting our mind and emotions with openness and compassion.

Rather that judging myself for having negative thoughts and emotions, I could inquire into them and access the underlying wound that held the emotional and mental pattern in place.  Often discovering a part of myself that felt deprived, wounded, judged and pushed away out of a belief system that I needed to be a certain way to be loved.  What these parts of myself needed was to be loved rather than to be judged and fixed.  When I could hold these parts of myself with acceptance and respect, they began to heal and integrate into me and offer a positive contribution to my life.

Do you hold judgments against yourself and your body?

In working with clients, I see how they strive to heal their bodies, yet they hold judgments against themselves and their body.  They have unresolved negative life experiences that are secretly running in the background sabotaging their health and their life.  They hold the belief that once I my body is healed then my life will be better, and I will be happy.

Along with working on a physical level, we need to work on self-love.

We need to heal the inner wounds, feel the uncomfortable emotions and re-script the unhealthy beliefs.  This can be challenging work as we all have defense mechanism in place to protect our vulnerable self from harm.  These same defense systems can keep us locked in the pain of the past and interfere with a deeper healing of the whole self.  Yet on the other side of this, is freedom and love.

I am beginning to believe that the greatest stress in our lives is the lack of self-love.

If you have adrenal fatigue, chronic fatigue, insomnia or fibromyalgia, I suspect that the lack of self-love is an important part of the journey to improved health.

Creating self-love is an important aspect in my coaching.

It is the foundation upon which an individual will have greater success in making and sustaining healthy choices.  It will create a foundation upon which any other healing modality can build.  It will reduce the ongoing stress in the body that prevents the body from doing what it is designed to do: detox, rebuild and repair the body.

Introspection for the week:

  1. What are the parts of yourself that you judge as bad or wrong?
  2. What does love mean to you?
  3. What is one thing that you can do each day for yourself as an expression of self-love?

Group events coming later this year; stay tuned:

  • The Art of Self Love: Right relationship with body, mind, heart and spirit
  • Healing the Wounds of the Heart: An Online Group Healing Circle

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In this session, we will explore your health challenges, your goals and underlying stresses.  You will come away with a blue print of steps that you can take to rebuild your health.  Click here to sign up now.

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