10 Steps to Enhance Your Expression

10 Steps to Enhance Your Expression

 Enhance Your Expression 

The Beyond Fibromyalgia program is a comprehensive system of healing and balancing all aspects of who we are, including our body, emotions, mind, expression, spirit and energy all built on enduring core principles.  I call this the art of Integrative Wholeness™

In this article, we are going to explore ways to enhance our Expression as part of the whole and thereby enhance our enjoyment of life and provide our gifts to the world.

These ­10 steps will enable you to enhance your expression to achieve the optimal fulfillment in life.

  1. Own your power.
  2. Know yourself
  3. Create your vision and personal mission statement
  4. Effectively manage your life.
  5. Conscious Creation.
  6. Creating successful relationships (work, family, friends)
  7. Communicate from the Heart
  8. Express your life purpose.
  9. Share your abundance with others
  10. Serve Humanity

 

1.  Own your power.

We are the creator of our own experience.  On some level of our being, we have created everything that we are experiencing.  As the creator, we can also choose to create something different.  We are not a victim to our past, to our karma, to our family upbringing, to our ancestry, or to our genes.

We live in a society where we are inundated with information and dogma; from our family, religious organizations, governments, television, books, and the list goes on.  We are told what we need to do to be successful, to be loved, to be accepted by society.  If we aren’t, then we are bad, wrong, or unacceptable.

What if our future were a clean slate?  What if we could write our own script, make our own standards, chose the life we would like to live.  What if we could live the life of our dreams?  I believe that we can do exactly that.  I believe that our dreams are planted in our consciousness by our soul.  They are there to guide us.  It is only our limited thinking and energetic patterns that get in the way.  We can reclaim our power and create the life we were destined to live.

2.  Know yourself

The first step to owning your power is to get to know yourself.  Who and what is the authentic you buried under your belief systems, emotional patterns and physical imbalances?  What makes your heart sing, gives you energy and excites your creativity?  What lowers your energy, blocks your creativity and dampens your spirit.  What fills you with a deep sense of satisfaction and fulfillment?  What are your dreams, desires and goals?  What does your heart say yes to?  What values bring you to a sense of coming home within yourself?  What brings you true joy?

Often, our true essence gets lost in all the conditioning that we have accepted.  We forget who we are.  We forget our dreams.  We believe our goals are unattainable and we have given up on them.  We don’t even know what brings us true joy.  We look for satisfaction outside of ourselves.

As we work through the previous sections on the physical, emotional and mental reclaiming, we begin to through off the old snake skin and our true essence begins to shine through.   We feel more alive and excited about life.  Contentment, peace and a natural flow replaces stress and tension. 

3.  Create your vision and personal mission statement

When we are connected with our authentic self our dreams and desires realign with our original soul imbued blue print.  It is from this place that we can document our core values, our vision for ourselves and our personal mission statement.  This becomes the guiding light in our life, our lighthouse on the distant shore, which keeps us coming back again and again to what is truly important to us.

Without our core values, vision and mission statement, we attempt to place our security or sense of wellbeing in things outside of us such as family, religion, work/career, or substances.  The problem with this is that many things in these external arenas are outside of our control or influence.  We then live with a need to control the things external to us to maintain our sense of safety.  As that isn’t possible, be live in constant fear or endeavor to control the uncontrollable.

Once we have identified our core values, vision and mission statement, they become our safety and security.  We intuitively know that as long as we make our choices and decisions with them at the center, whatever happens, we know where to come back to.

4.  Effectively manage your life.

Now that you are the creator of your life, know yourself, and have identified your personal core values, vision and mission statement, these become the center from which you manage your life.  With these in mind, you have a foundation from which to make decisions in your life.  If part of your vision is to have a healthy and balanced body, your meal planning, scheduling and finances would include time and money for buying shopping and cooking healthy foods.   Scheduling your time, managing your finances and what you expend your energy on will be guided by your map.  Important also is to consistently check in with your inner compass which we will discuss more in the article on Energy.

Without your map, it can be difficult to make decision and direct your time, money and energy into the external things, people and situations that will create the greatest satisfaction, joy and fulfillment in your life.  You might be working very hard to reach a goal, but once you get there, you are still left filling unfulfilled and dissatisfied.  You are left like a life boat floating on a very large ocean without knowing what direction to go and at the mercy of the currents, weather and such.  Your decision may be directed by others or trying to navigate the latest drama or crisis in your life.

With your personal map you can easily manage your life with inner confidence and true power. 

5.  The Art of Conscious Creation.

We are now ready to consciously create our vision.  As in step one, we have acknowledged (or at least open to) the idea that we are the creators of our life.   Keeping our vision and map in our minds, we can now focus on consciously creating our future.

We are creating all the time.  By looking at our life, we can easily see what we are creating.  Most of our creation is unconscious.  That is why it is difficult for us to “own” our creation.  But until we own our current creation and take responsibility for it, we will be blocked from creating our vision.

Creating our vision is the most powerful when all of our dimensions are balanced an in alignment with each other.  We are balanced and health on the physical level, our emotions are stable and manageable, our mind is focused and clear, we are connected with our spiritual dimensions. 

6.  Creating successful relationships (work, family, friends)

We are the center of our life.  However, we don’t live in a void and relationships give us the opportunity to express our unique self, contribute our unique gifts to a co-creative project or endeavor and derive pleasure from the company and companionship of others.  A successful relationship is that which empowers all parties, celebrates each person’s individuality and uniqueness, and creates a synergy that is more than the sum of the parts.

Often in our relationships, we are looking for someone to fill a weakness within our self or an emptiness that we sense.  As this is mostly unconscious, we see the other person as the blame for not getting our needs met.  This type of relationship will usually be the source of conflict as no one can fulfill another person.  That has to come from within.

Successful relationships don’t just happen; they are created with awareness, integrity and skill.  Once in place they offer expansion and growth for all parties.

7.  Communicate from the Heart

An important component in creating healthy relationships and enhancing our expression is communication.  Communication can either create separation and conflict or connection and synergy.   When we communicate from a place of wholeness within ourselves, we are grounded in our authentic self and at the same time open to the ideas and suggestions of others.  We listen from an open empathic place.  We hear and take in others fully and completely.  We are able to speak our truth fully without hesitation.  We communicate in a way that opens and uplifts ourselves and others.  We work with others in a way that win/win outcomes are possible.

If we are not grounded in our authenticity and our core values, we may become fixated on the idea that in order to be right, others must be wrong.  From that place, we guard and become defensive and endeavor to convince others that we are right and they are wrong.  If those we are attempting to communicate with are coming from the same place, we generally reach an impasse.  Neither person is truly hearing the other.  Each person is convinced that the other must change before harmony can come between them.  A win/win solution is not achievable.

Communication is at the heart of success in all endeavors with others.

8.  Express your life purpose.

Each of us is here with a purpose to fulfill.  That purpose may be as simple as being a wonderful mother to her children and a wife to her husband.  It may be as complex as being a world famous figure.  Perhaps you are a simple person, leading a very normal looking life and enjoy spending time connecting with nature.  The important thing in understanding and expressing your life purpose is that is resonates with you inside and brings you fulfillment and joy.  The physical manifestation of that is as diverse as the leave on the trees and as unique as each individual snowflake.  You are the only one who can live your purpose.  Without your voice, the orchestra of life is missing a note or a melody that would only enhance the beauty of the whole.

Sometimes, we forget our purpose and focus instead on making money or fulfilling another person’s expectations.   When we do this, our heart aches and our soul calls out to us to bring us back to our path.

Following the steps in the Integrative Wholeness program brings you back to yourself, to your true vision and to your soul purpose.  It gives you the awareness, inner strength and tools to express your unique self in the world and make the world a better place for all to enjoy.

9.  Share your abundance with others

As we follow the path of Integrative Wholeness, our awareness of the abundance that we are and that surrounds us naturally grows and expands.  That is the nature of abundance.  We will naturally share our abundance with the world, just as a flower naturally shares its beauty with others through its visual beauty and delightful aroma.   As we share our abundance with others, it naturally increases and unfolds exponentially.  Our light becomes brighter with each passing day.

Sharing our abundance with others is a natural byproduct of Integrative Wholeness.  It is not something that we do; it is something that we are.  It is our Beingness that we share through our gifts to the world.

10.  Serve humanity.

Serving humanity is the natural outcome of the previous steps.  We are grounded and centered within our authentic self, we are connected with our soul self, we are operating from our heart space.  We are filled with such abundance that it flows over into others through our beingness, our actions, our words, our thoughts, and our feelings.  We lift up the rest of the world with our expression and make the planet a better place to live for all.

The external expression of our service is once again unique to each individual and guided by the heart and soul.  Each individual expression complements and enhances the whole. 

In Summary:

Enhancing our expression is a journey not an event.  For me, this is a road-map of where I want to go and who I want to become.  I am still on the journey myself, but this acts as a light house beacon that guides my choices and helps me to reset my course if I am drifting away from my highest good. 

My hope is that it will instill in you what is possible.  Years ago, when I was in the worst part of my experience with fibromyalgia, I wouldn’t have thought this was possible.  Yet, at the same time, I had an inner desire to express my self and create my life in a bigger, better and more satisfying way than I was experiencing then.  I am on my way.  I hope you will join me. 

It inspires me.  I hope it will inspire you too.  

Bindu  

Happy Ending!

Happy Ending!

Do you believe that it is possible to recover from fibromyalgia?  

Are you willing to be open to the possibility that you can reclaim your health?  

Are you open to the possibility that for that to occur you will be changed . . . for the better?

Are you open to the possibility that you can have a life that is better than you ever imagined?  

Are you willing to hold this as a possibility, even though you may have doubts?  

Courage

Courage

Each day of living with fibromyalgia builds my courage.

Each moment I embrace myself with love builds my courage.  

I am blessed. 

“Every situation is an opportunity for growth and development.

Everything that happens supports my learning process

and brings me back to my Real Self.  

The challenges I face are always in line with my ability to meet them.

Challenge strengthens my faith in myself and God.”

                                                                                       Nogah Lord

Release Self Doubt; Discover Your Awesome Self

Release Self Doubt; Discover Your Awesome Self

This weekend, I was listening to a talk by one of my favorite teachers.  He really hit the nail on the head when he talked about how we block ourselves, simply because of self doubt.

This hit me right in the heart.  I saw the truth of what he was saying.  I saw how I hold back and do not express what I know in my heart simply because I doubt myself.

As I coach people, I can see that the primary cause of the challenges in their life is self doubt or self devaluation.  Each of my clients are very awesome people.   I can see their beauty and power.    They see their self doubt and their negative beliefs and their heart wounds.  

My job in coaching is to see their beauty, hold the space for them to see that also and support them releasing negative beliefs, healing heart wounds and seeing and expressing their own truth.  

There is nothing more satisfying in watching a person come out of their shell and standing in their truth.  

Food for thought:

  • What is your truth that you hold back?
  • What is the beauty wanting to be expressed in the world through you?
  • Who are you deep within, that you are afraid to let the world see?  

Share your insights with me.  I would love to hear them.

Bindu

Please Hear My Pain Pt 4

Please Hear My Pain Pt 4

Please Hear My Pain Pt 4

The last few weeks, we have been exploring the need raised by women with fibromyalgia in relation to feeling heard.  We have addressed these 3 areas:

  1. We have looked at why other people cannot understand our experience as they don’t know it experientially.
  2. We have looked at how to tune into our bodies and listen to our own inner voice that may be calling for your attention.
  3. We have looked at the kinds of messages you inner knowing might be sending you.

Today, we are going to look at how to communicate in a way that we will be heard and will be able to get our needs met.  Which perhaps is the whole point of being heard.

I am a fan of Marshall Rosenberg’s books and training on Nonviolent communication.  He is brilliant at helping us to identify what we feel and what we are truly needing.  By identifying out feeling and our need, we can more clearly ask for what we want and get our needs met.

His process identifies four steps in communication:

  1. What I observe; what happened.
  2. What I felt
  3. What I need
  4. Request

Mastering the process takes some self-inquiry to get to the root of what we need and how to request it.   Often we are asking for help, but not clearly understand what we need.   Nonviolent communication lays out a process of self-inquiry that helps us get in touch with our feelings and the unmet need under what we are feeling.

Learning this process changed my life.  I am now better able to get my needs met.  Sometimes, I realize that I can fulfill that need myself.  Other times, I am able to communicate to others in a way that I get heard and my request is received and fulfilled.  If one person cannot fulfill my request, I can always find other ways to get the need met.

Learning Nonviolent communication was a process, not an event.  After I read the book and began trying to put it into practice, more often that not, I missed the mark.  With continued practice, I got better and now it feels natural to me and the harmony in my relationships and the ability to get my needs heard and met reflects that.

I invite you to explore this further.   Here are links to specific products that can get you started in learning Nonviolent Communication.

Getting started.  Book, workbook, audio book and CD Training course options. 

Additional resources:  Using Nonviolent Communication with specific situations and circumstances.

Enjoy.

Bindu

From the Heart

From the Heart

Is Fibromyalgia a Wake up Call from Your Soul?

Last week, I began speaking about the connection between fibromyalgia and negative life experiences.  For the past 40 years, I have been exploring this area of health and well-being.  I have been guided to take many trainings with this as a central theme and have worked with this in my own life and healing process.  It is an area that is near and dear to my heart.  It is an area that is often not talked about.  And sometimes it is talked about in ways that is not helpful and can appear accusing and judgmental.

My Own Journey with Fibromyalgia

My own journey with fibromyalgia has been long and arduous.  I have alluded to my challenges with fibromyalgia and spoken about pieces of it but haven’t gone into depth about it.  The reason for that is my story is one that would fill a book.  And I suspect one day I will write that book when the timing is right.   In the meantime, I will share it with you in my writing and programs as it naturally flows out of me.

At the Core of Rebuilding Health

What I do know is that this area is at the core of the experience of rebuilding health.  Our conditioning as a child, negative life experiences and any traumas we have experienced leave an energetic mark on us.  Those energetic marks become part of who we think we are.  Those energetic marks cover the truth of who we truly are.  It places a shroud over our authenticity, our joy, our abundance, our creativity and our gifts.  We become just a shadow of who we truly are.

Fibromyalgia is a Wake Up Call

I have often thought that fibromyalgia is simply a wake-up call.  It is our soul screaming at us to wake up out of the illusion and to open ourselves to the magnificence of who were truly are.  That is certainly what it was for me.   I imagine that the millions of women with fibromyalgia are an army of angels who are ready to wake up and express their magnificence in the world.  We hold within us the love and wisdom of the divine feminine that our planet surely needs at this time.

My Intention

My intention is to work with women with fibromyalgia who dare to wake up from the illusion and are ready to embrace the magnificence of who they truly are.  The Inner Transformation work that I do is designed for this.  

My next several blogs will be focusing on this process from different perspectives.  I hope it will be helpful.  

With Love, Bindu

 

PS.  If you haven’t already, sign up for my free mini-course 6 Steps to Resolve Hidden Stressors to Enhance Your Health.  It begins the process.