For women with fibromyalgia, the present moment can be painful and miserable.
I think we are the strongest people on the planet to bear the pain and suffering that comes with fibromyalgia.
And yet, being in the present moment, can help you to heal, transform and rebuild your health.
May you find peace, 💗Bindu
As I have continued to grow, evolve and heal
I realize that I am an amazing woman.
I have pushed away the best parts of myself.
Now I can reclaim them and celebrate my wholeness.
May you reclaim your amazing authentic self.
💗Bindu
For the last several weeks, we have been talking about trauma and how it impacts us, our body, our emotions, and our mind.
Today, we will explore some ways that we can rediscover and ground our self in a calm grounded center. There are many ways to do this. As we are all unique, we must find what works for us.
Over the last few weeks, I have offered a breath technique, the hug, and placing your hand on your heart. This is a wonderful starting place. Today, I’ll share another possibility.
Another way to nurture a calm grounded center is to remember memories from your past where you felt loved, safe, secure, heard, respected. And the list could go on, but I think you get my drift. It could be anything that leaves you with a pleasant feeling inside.
1. Who is a person or pet that you feel welcomed and/or safe with?
I have my three beloved cats who surround me with their love. And some close friends that I feel very safe with and can share my heart.
2. Is there an object that helps you to feel safe?
This could be a piece of jewelry, a teddy bear, maybe a warm cup of tea. Let your creativity have some fun with discovering an object that would help you to feel safe.
3. Is there an action or activity that grounds you or brings you into a pleasant or calm state of body and mind.
I love working in my yard and planting beautiful plants and watching them grow. I like to go for walks and appreciate nature around me or listen to an uplifting song or podcast.
4. Is there a place where you feel welcome and content?
I love my home. I feel safe within my home. Being in nature helps me to feel grounded and content. And I love teaching my yoga classes which brings me great joy and connection with others.
5. What words can you say to yourself that give you comfort? Is there something that you can say to your inner child to reassure yourself? What did you most want and need to hear as a child? Can you say those words to yourself.
This is just a very short list of the possible external places, people, events and activities that can assist in returning to a balanced state. Use your creativity to discover what works for you. As you discover what works for you, consider how you can integrate them into your life.
I understand that overcoming trauma is a long-term process. Many times, it may feel like you are not making any progress. Yet every kind word, grounding breath or hug takes us one step closer to recovery.
May you feel welcome, safe, and loved, 💕Bindu
Thanks for your patience.
I am having a challenge in getting the time together to finalize the program.
First and foremost:
Shame and self-doubt causes the biggest challenge for trauma survivors. Strong feelings of shame and strong tendencies toward self-doubt keep us paralyzed and can keep us from moving forward. We can feel like we cannot trust ourselves and don’t know what’s safe and what isn’t safe.
Psychological and behavioral issues related to trauma include:
You may have a few of these, or many, or even none. These symptoms aren’t proof of having a traumatic experience in your past, but if you’re carrying unprocessed trauma, most likely, you’re going to be showing one or more of these psychological symptoms and signs.
We have to live with the symptoms until we can process the trauma. Carrying a load of unprocessed trauma taxes our body, our health, and limits how much we can be active and engaged and confident in our own lives.
The Breath
Notice your breath. Breath in for 2 counts and out for 4 counts. Or in for 3 counts and out for 6 counts. The idea here is to have the exhalation be twice as long as the inhalation. it’s ok if the exhalation isn’t twice as long. Just let it be longer than the inhalation.
The Heart
Simply placing your hand on your heart and feel the connection between your hand and your heart. You can increase the effectiveness of this by saying something kind to yourself. Even something as simple as “I hear you.”
The Hug
Place you right hand under your left armpit. And your right hand on your left upper arm. Gently squeeze . . . giving yourself a hug.
Can you commit to 10 minutes per day to use these simple tools? Play around with them and notice how your body responds. Which works for you? You can combine them as well, using the Breath with the Heart and the Hug.
You can begin to bring your nervous system back into balance. The results may be subtle or obvious. With consistent practice over a period of months you will notice a difference. What have you got to lose?
May you reclaim your heart. 💗Bindu
Can we find that little girl within.
The one who was vibrant and joyful.
Who loved the mystery of life.
Who is the essence of our aliveness.
Seek and ye shall find.
💗Bindu
