I am an Amazing Woman!

I am an Amazing Woman!

Each and every one is us is an absolutely amazing person with unlimited value.

Unfortunatetly, our beauty, gifts, love, worthiness and true value get hidden under our conditioning, enculturation and negative life experiences.  

This misidentification takes a toll on our health and well-being.  When our gifts and true amazing inherent beauty cannot be seen and expressed, it is painful to the soul.  

This pain reflects in the body, in our emotions and our minds.   It interferes with our enjoyment of life. 

There is a solution.  You can awaken from the layers of conditioning and become reaquainted with your true beauty, value and worth.  

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Acknowledging Positive Changes

Acknowledging Positive Changes

Part of rebuilding our health is making different choices.

These choices can include dietary changes, exercise, in how you think, how you feel, the hours you work, making time for self-care and others.  This might feel overwhelming and undoable, but if done in the right way, it is very possible.

Making lifestyle changes is a journey, not an event.

The journey can be fun and easy if we choose to make it that way.  It is not about perfection.  Don’t feel like you have to make all of the changes today or tomorrow.  Taking small steps each week will make the journey easy and you will be amazed at the results you achieve over time.

Let go of the notion that you need to deprive yourself.

Bring your focus to what you can eat and what you can do . . . not what you have to give up.  Implementing changes doesn’t have to be hard work.  It is important to implement healthy choices at a pace that works for you and doesn’t cause undue stress.  

Self acceptance is an important part of the journey.

Changes made from a place of self acceptance are more powerful and longer lasting than changes made from self judgment.  For example, attempting to avoid sweets because you think you are unattractive because you are overweight is different from choosing healthy foods because they make you feel better physically, mentally and emotionally.  Read these statements a few times and notice how you feel inside as you read each one.

  • I am choosing to eat a healthy food because I feel better physically, mentally and emotionally.
  • I am avoiding sweets because I am unattractive and overweight.

Which one will motivate you more?  Which one makes you feel more positive and uplifted?

 

Acknowledge the positive changes you have made and the results of those changes.

Say you have simply chosen to eat a healthy breakfast 2 days a week.  Acknowledge that and also acknowledge how you feel on the days that you eat the healthy breakfast.  Whatever you focus on is what will grow.  By acknowledging the positive change you have made and the positive impact that has on you, it will grow.  Grumbling about what you haven’t done only leads to discouragement and ultimately will sabotage your progress.

Keep your focus on the journey with all the baby steps you are taking along with your ultimate vision of yourself as a happy, healthy fulfilled person and you will achieve your vision.

Use the following introspection to acknowledge the changes you have made:

  1. List all the changes you have made to rebuild your health.
  2. Make a list of the positive changes you have noticed in your health, happiness and wellness.
  3. Make some positive affirmations out of the lists your have just made.
  4. Notice how each affirmation makes you FEEL; only keep the ones that make you feel good.
  5. Write the affirmations on index cards.
  6. Post the index cards where you will see them . . . on your refrigerator . . . your bathroom mirror . . . or another place where you will see them on a regular basis.
  7. Read the affirmation on a regular basis and as you do so, imagine breathing the feeling of the affirmation into your body. 

Use this introspection to bring a positive focus to the areas where you are challenged?

It is also important to notice areas where you are criticizing yourself and diffuse the self criticism.  Otherwise it could subconsciously undermine your progress.

  1. Notice if there are areas where you are criticizing yourself for not doing as well as you think you should be doing. If so, write these down.
  2. Reflect on your expectations and notice if they are realistic or not.
  3. If your expectations are not realistic, feel free to change them:
    • Break down your expectations in this area into baby steps.
    • Set new more realistic goals
  4. Find a way to focus on this area of challenge in a positive way.
  5. If you feel inclined, share with a supportive friend or with this group. 

Ask for support when you need it.  Sometimes we will feel stuck when trying to implement changes.  At those times, ask for assistance in identifying and moving beyond whatever is blocking your progress.  You don’t have to do it alone.  Support is available. 

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Paradoxes of Prayer

Paradoxes of Prayer

When I was in my worst phases of fibromyalgia, I came across thie prayer. 

I hated it and yet I would read it.

I hated it because I didn’t yet want it to be true.  I still wanted the strength, health, riches, and power.  I wanted to be happy and healthy.  I didn’t want to be sick and weak and desperate. 

Now when I read it, it is still disturbing, but I realize how true it is.  

My soul had a journey for me.  My ego wasn’t on board, but got drug along for the ride.

Now I am grateful for the person I have become.  

My ego and my soul are becoming integrated into a harmonious whole.  

I wouldn’t be who I am today without the challenges that I have encountered and overcome in my life.

I like who I am.  I am an amazing loving, compassionate, caring, powerful woman.  

I am most richly blessed.  

Self Reflection and Rebuilding Your Health

Self Reflection and Rebuilding Your Health

Self reflection is an important tool in the journey of rebuilding your health. 

Self-Reflection is a way to empower yourself to make your own decisions, based on knowledge, awareness, compassion and accessing your inner knowing.  Self Inquiry can be used to develop awareness, compassion, self-confidence and self love. 

The process of self-reflection is a powerful way to get to know yourself.  To become aware of your inner world of thought, emotions, beliefs, values, judgments, joys, fears, and much more.  It is an opportunity to meet yourself with compassion and caring.  By using self-reflection, you can become your own best friend.   You live with yourself 24/7.  No one on this planet can ever know you as deeply as you know yourself.  No one can ever love you as deeply as you can love yourself. 

Are you looking for love? 

The first place is to look within.  When you meet parts of yourself that you judge or push away, is an opportunity to embrace the part of yourself with compassion and acceptance.  By doing that, you will be giving yourself what you want and need most . . .  to be heard, seen and loved.  When you become your own champion, criticism from outside cannot harm you.  You will begin to draw to you love as a reflection of your own self-love.  

Developing self love reduces the stress that you feel every day.  Hidden judgments and self criticism create stress in the body.  This is an important hidden stressor that can keep your nervous system in a state of alert and alarm.  By developing self love, your nervous system can calm down return to balance. Anxiety and depression can be released; rest and sleep can be resorted.  

Self reflection can be done in many ways. 

Some people like to journal; some prefer silent contemplation and others deepen their own awareness through dialogue with a conscious listening partner.  Some people draw or use art, while others use music.  You can experiment with these techniques to see what works for you.  The most common is journaling and silent contemplation.

Self reflection through journaling. 

To experiment with journaling, get yourself a spiral notebook or, if you prefer, a nice journal.  Set aside some time each day where you will be undisturbed.  It can be as little as 15 minutes or as much as 30 minutes or longer.  Sit quietly for a few minutes and slow down and deepen your breath.  You can begin with a question or just write down whatever comes into your mind.  If you begin with a question, write down the question and then just jot down anything that comes to mind as you consider the question.  Do not hamper or edit the flow of your thoughts by throwing out anything, just write down whatever comes to mind.  Sometimes the most insightful and wisest thoughts are those that we might dismiss and being unimportant or silly or irrelevant.  Treasure each and every thought.  After a while of writing, you can go back through what you have written to see the treasures your consciousness has unveiled. 

Self Reflection through silent contemplation. 

This is my personal favorite.  You can begin by setting aside some time each day and finding a place where you will be undisturbed.  Sit quietly and slow down and deepen your breath.  In this method, you simply sit and watch the flow of your thoughts.  If you like, you can ask a question for direction and notice what thoughts come up.  You can deepen the inquiry by inquiring into the thoughts that come up.  Notice if you are judging the thoughts that come up.  If so, endeavor to let the judgments go and simply observe.  In this way, you are getting to know your inner self a bit more each day and by letting go of judgments, you are developing self acceptance and love. 

Self reflection through conscious dialogue with a partner. 

Conscious dialogue with a partner is also very effective.  In this technique, it is important that both parties are committed and aware of the process we are engaging in.  Find quiet place and a time where you will be undisturbed.  Slow down and deepen the breath.  Each person will take a turn sharing.  It is important that the listener not interrupt, share personal stories, or give advice.  Their role is simply to listen and if requested to feed back to the speaker what is being heard.  You can set a timer so that each person has a set amount of time to speak or be more free flowing. 

Enjoying the benefits of self reflection.  

You can use any of the methods above or devise one of your own.  You will find a wealth of knowledge and wisdom within through self reflection.  If you need help embracing yourself and would like assistance to discover the true beauty of who you are, reach out.  I am an expert in helping people to discover and embrace their inner beauty. 

Enjoy!

Bindu

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The Right Use of Positive Thinking

The Right Use of Positive Thinking

  • Do you struggle with negative thinking?
  • Does the invitation to think positively seem like a hopeless endeavor?
  • Does positive thinking become another thing that you just can’t do right?

 

Tips on how to use positive thinking in a helpful way.   

Shortly after the movies “What the Bleep Do We Know” and “The Secret” came out, I was in the worst phase of my experience with fibromyalgia.  I was inundated with negative thoughts, feelings, fatigue and pain.

 

It isn’t helpful to use positive thinking against yourself.

It was around that time, that positive thinking was becoming popular.  It was said that my thinking created my illness.  People would use that against me in regard to having fibromyalgia.  Like somehow it was my thoughts that created it.  I felt blamed and criticized for having fibromyalgia.  That wasn’t the truth.  I could not think my way out of having fibromyalgia.  It had a power of its own, beyond the power of my mind.

 

You can’t make negative thinking go away with positive thinking.

There were times when my mind was very negative, and I would try to think positively.  But I just couldn’t do it.  It often became a war within myself that was very stressful, and I would judge myself for being so negative.  I found that by surrendering to negative episodes, having a pity party, and comforting myself, would help the negativity to pass more quickly.

And yet, it was too painful to allow the negative thinking and feelings to completely take me over.  I would read inspiring things and practice being kind to myself and balance my negative thinking with positive thinking.

 

The real power of positive thinking is to balance the negative thoughts.

I think balance is the real power of positive thinking.  Positive thoughts may never replace all the negative thoughts that come into our mind, but it can help to balance the negative thoughts with a positive perspective.  I had a teacher that said that positive thinking balances the negative thinking and leads to stillness of the mind.  That made sense to me.  I began to notice if I was obsessing negatively about something, if I would focus on something positive, it would lessen and sometimes neutralize the negative runaway train that I was on.  At other times, I had to surrender to the negative thoughts knowing that it would pass.

 

Use Self Inquiry

Sometimes it is helpful to understand where the negative thoughts are coming from.  Perhaps a parent, teacher or sibling said something negative about you. At the time, you adopted that thought as true.  You can now reevaluate that choice and ask yourself if you truly want to believe that about yourself.  You can choose what you believe.  You can chose to think positively about yourself and let go of the negative beliefs that you adopted as a child.

 

Be more aware of your thoughts.

Creating the intention to think positively also helps us to become more aware of our thoughts and . . . especially our negative thoughts.  That can be painful.  Especially when we just want the negative thoughts to stop.  It has been said that our negative thoughts and feelings are simply our old conditioning coming out.  By becoming more aware of our negative thoughts, we have a greater choice in how we think.   The negative thoughts might come up, but you have the choice as to whether or not to believe them.  To not believe them might feel difficult at first, but over time it becomes easier.  By just acknowledging them, they lose power over you.  

Think of a glass filled with water right up to the top.  The water represents the negative thoughts stored in your ‘data base’.  Then you drop a pebble, which represents a positive thought, in the glass and a negative thought spills out.  As you drop in each pebble/positive thought another negative thought/water spills out.  Eventually the positive thoughts outweigh the negative thoughts.

 

Choose your positive thoughts consciously. 

When practicing positive thinking it helps to consciously choose positive thoughts that feel true to you.  You might not be able to go from thinking that you don’t like yourself to I love myself in one fell swoop.  But you could each day, make a list of 1 thing that you like about yourself, one thing that you did really well, and one thing that you appreciate about someone else.  If you practice that each day, you will be adding weight to the positive side and feel good in the process.  It will also teach your mind to look for the good.  Which might be a new healthy habit!

 

In Summary

Don’t use positive thinking as a weapon against yourself.  But use it as a tool, to help balance the negative experiences, feelings and thoughts.  Use it as a way to rescript your old beliefs into new beliefs.  Always be compassionate with yourself and understand it is a process, not an event.  In that way, it can become a tool for growth and evolution.

 

Suggested contemplation for this week. 

  1. Watch your mind this week.
  2. What is the percentage of negative thoughts vs positive thoughts?
  3. Notice if you are judging yourself for your negative thoughts.
  4. Find some positive quotes or sayings that help you to feel uplifted. Read them a few times each day.
  5. Each night think of one thing that you appreciate about yourself, one thing that you did well during the day and one thing that you appreciate about someone else.
  6. Practice self-compassion for being human and learning a new skill.
  7. Notice if this helps balance the negative thoughts without going to war with them.
  8. Share your questions and experiences with this if you like.

 

 

May you find balance and inner peace.

 

Bindu