Transform Negative Situations with Kindness

Transform Negative Situations with Kindness

The Transformation of Negativity with Kindness

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” —Ian Maclaren

There are times in life when you are stressed, frustrated or angry with yourself, someone or a situation. You may end up annoyed, rude and sending out negative emotions. Learning how to manage your negative reactions in stressful situations with kindness is key to staying centered and balanced.

Begin with Kindness toward Yourself

First and foremost, forgive yourself for being human.  Acknowledge what you are feeling and accept that as part of being human.  It is simply what you are feeling in the moment.

Acknowledge and Accept Your own Emotions. 

What are your feeling?  Anger, sadness, fear, worry, frustration? Emotion is short for energy in motion.  Once you are aware of your own emotions, allow yourself to slow down and deepen your breath.  Experiment with feeling the emotion without needing to suppress it or act outward with it.  See it as an energy moving through you.  Your only need is to feel it and experience it.

Inquire into the Emotion

What is creating the stress and negative emotions? Are you overwhelmed at work? Is it a person that is triggering the emotion? Discovering what is triggering  the emotion can assist in transforming it.  Sometimes simply feeling the emotion and inquiring into it will defuse the emotion.

Often, under an emotion is an unmet need.  Perhaps you don’t feel heard.  Perhaps you feel slighted or disrespected.  Maybe you feel unloved or unaccepted.  Maybe you feel threatened or attacked.  Maybe you feel left out or disconnected.  By understanding the unmet need, you can more clearly understand what you need.

Ask yourself what you need.

Do you need to feel love, valued, appreciated, respected?  Perhaps you need to feel safe or secure.  Maybe you need more space or freedom.  Maybe you need to feel included and heard.  By understanding what you need, you can explore ways to get that need met.

Listen to hear what the other person needs.

While it is important to feel our emotions and understand our triggers and needs.  It is also important to understand what the other person feels and needs.  When we understand both, we can work together with the other person(s) to find a win/win resolution. 

Ask, what can I do to take care of myself.

Sometime the need can be met from within.  By accepting yourself even when another is criticizing you.  By, taking a walk and giving yourself some breathing room.  By speaking your voice, sharing your perspective or opinion.  Listening to the other person, perhaps drawing them out with questions.  Maybe by removing yourself from an unsafe situation.  The choices are unlimited.  Your inner self will be able to guide you.

Change What You Can

If an external change needs to happen take action.  Speak your voice, walk out of the room, go for a walk.  Once you find the root cause, take action to change it. If it cannot be changed, can it be cut from your life? While making changes, cut out other stress triggers as much as possible. Change negative thought and communication patterns into more positive ones.

Incorporate Healthy Outlets

Regular exercise can give you an emotional lift and an outlet for negative emotions. Physical movement helps to clear emotions from you body.  Take a warm bath.  Meditation can help to calm the mind and get a better perspective.  Volunteering and helping others may help see things with a different perspective.

Respond to Negativity with Kindness

By responding to negativity with kindness, you can diffuse a potentially negative outcome.  Here are some tips to try:  

1.  Don’t mirror others negative actions and thoughts. Treat them kindly. This could mean apologizing if it’s appropriate. Acknowledge other’s points of view without judging.

2.  Speak in a pleasant, friendly voice as if you were talking to a friend. Keep your voice controlled and without anger.

3.  Keep an open and relaxed body posture. Don’t roll your eyes, sigh or make other negative body language movements.

4.  Breathe! Take a few long, slow, deep breaths in through your nose, pause slightly, then let your breath out. Deep breathing relaxes you and re-centers your emotions.  It puts you and others at ease.

5.  Distract yourself by engaging in something pleasant or helping someone else.

In Summary

Just because you are stressed doesn’t mean you need to react negatively to others. Instead, act in a way that is kind and considerate of the feelings of all involved.  Seek to understand your needs and the needs of others concerned.  Dialogue in a way that communicates your needs and also be able to hear the needs of the others involved.  Work towards a win/win solution.  

By holding the intention to create a positive outcome, negative situations can be transformed into a co-creation and positive situation for all concerned.  

As Mother Teresa’s poem titled Anyway, states:

“People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered; forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; be kind anyway.”

Contemplation for this week:

1. Create and intention be more aware of your thoughts and emotions in a difficult situation.

2.  Experiment with inquiring inwardly to understand your underlying needs. 

3. Listen more fully to others with and intention of listening for their underlying need. 

4.  Experiment with some of the suggestions in this article for transforming negativity into something positive.  


Wishing you peace,


Personal Benefits of Kindness

Personal Benefits of Kindness

Personal Benefits of Kindness

The benefits from kindness are more than just feeling good. Kindness affects both our emotional and physical body in different ways.  Here are some of the benefits of being and showing kindness to others.

  • Kindness slows down the aging process. People who volunteer tend to experience less aches and pains than others. Kindness and helping others will protect your health in the same way aspirin helps against heart disease.
  • It improves our relationships and connections with others. Kindness helps us relate to other people and have more positive relationships with everyone we encounter.
  • Kindness increases happiness. In a study by The Journal of Social Psychology, who practiced an act of kindness or tried something new each day enjoyed a higher level of happiness than those who didn’t make any changes.
  • The release of feel-good hormones happens from acts of kindness. Doing nice things for others can increase your serotonin levels. These are the neurotransmitters responsible for our feelings of satisfaction and well-being. Kindness also releases the endorphins known as the “helper’s high”.
  • Kindness improves our own self-respect and self-love. It makes us happier and in a better mood more often by doing kind acts often. Buy someone coffee or lunch, help someone in need or volunteer your time to get the pick-me-up you need.
  • Kindness helps prevent illnesses caused from inflammation. These health problems include diabetes, cancer, chronic pain, obesity and migraines. Volunteering seems to lower the levels of inflammation. Oxytocin is released, even from small acts of kindness, which in turn reduces inflammation. Share a smile, make a donation, help others in some small to feel the effects of kindness.
  • Kindness eases your anxiety, whether it’s mild nervousness or you’re having severe panic. Being nice to others is one of the easiest and most inexpensive ways to fight of anxiety. Look for ways to help others when you are feeling anxious. Smile at someone, call a friend or lend your time to an organization.
  • It is good for your heart. Kindness not only makes your heart feel good; it also affects the actual chemical balance of your heart. It releases the hormone oxytocin which reduces blood pressure thereby protecting the heart.
  • Kindness helps reduce stress. Helping others lets you move away from your own worries and problems.

For those of us with fibromyalgia, taking on extra responsibilities may be daunting or impossible.  If that is the case, begin at home.  Begin where you are.  How can you offer simple acts of kindness in your everyday life?  A smile, a kind word, a compliment.  Holding back on an unkind word.  

Remember yourself among those you are kind to.  Compliment yourself.  Remind yourself of the things that you are strong in.  Counter an inner criticism with a compliment.  Stop a moment to take a breath or gaze at a flower.   

Incorporate the smallest acts of kindness every day. You’ll notice changes in how it affects your life and begin to see the ripple effects on other people as well.


May you experience kindness in your heart.

Until next week,


Power of Kindness on You and the World

Power of Kindness on You and the World

 Our societal norm has become “me first”

The type of society we live in has become known as “me first”. We’re taught early on to look out for ourselves first, and many do that. We’re self-focused, self-possessed and find it difficult to see beyond ourselves at those around us. We often don’t see how our actions affect others.

But our actions do affect others, sometimes in large ways and sometimes in small ways that create a wave of actions. The Butterfly Effect in Chaos Theory states that on tiny event in one area of the globe can have a substantial effect somewhere else. The same is true with small acts of kindness.

Every time kindness is performed it creates a ripple effect.

It spreads from person to person, continuing endlessly. You could say kindness is contagious, like a disease in which the outcome is beautiful.

Kindness keeps us from being short tempered with others when we’re stressed and frustrated. It helps people realize we’re all on the same team.

Jamil Zaki, Professor of Psychology at Stanford University and Director of the Stanford Social Neuroscience Lab conducted a series of studies observing how witnessing kindness inspires kindness, saying it causes it to spread like a virus.

Zaki says, “We find that people imitate not only the particulars of positive actions, but also the spirit underlying them. This implies is that kindness itself is contagious, and that that it can cascade across people, taking on new forms along the way. 

When we were to look at how important an act of kindness can help someone in need, we realize how it can empower both ourselves and others.

Today, we are bombarded with social media and news media that focuses on the negative interactions that affect us.  It’s seen in the victims of bullying, of abuse, and of those who abuse their power.  Even our entertainment is often riddled with abusive comments and negative actions.

Helping the disabled person who is struggling to gather items out their reach can change the course of their day. By giving a hungry person something to eat or helping a homeless person find shelter can change their outlook on life. Helping an elderly neighbor carry in groceries, mow their yard or just check on them occasionally, can help them feel less lonely. If you say thank you, please, and hello to others who are serving you, you brighten their day.


If you perform even the smallest act of kindness, you have the potential to change the course of persons life, even if only for a short period of time.

But kindness not only effects the one you are performing it for. It has a positive effect on you as well.

  • When you are kind to someone, your body gets a surge in serotonin, feel-good endorphins and oxytocin, all hormones that promote a natural high.
  • These hormones reduce pain and lower bread pressure, helping you feel relaxed and loved.
  • The person you are kind to will experience this surge in hormones too. And anyone who witnesses the act of kindness will feel the same feel-good effects.

Kindness fuels curiosity to know each other better. It helps us hear each other without putting up any pretenses. It’s considering other people and what they experience and their concerns and how you can make their lives easier.


Kindness is contagious.

It ripples and grows, effecting the unsuspecting and the observing. One act of kindness can change thousands of lives.

In the words of Maya Angelou, “People will forget what you did, they will forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.”

For those of us with fibromyalgia, simple acts of kindness can contribute to rebuilding our health.

Simple acts of kindness remind us that we have something to offer others and the world.  When we offer kindness to another, we feel that kindness within our own heart, which helps to heal any hurt that we carry within.  The ripple effect not only impacts others, but our own heart. 


Contemplation for this week:

Become more aware of the balance of selfishness and kindness in your world.  What brings selfishness into your world?  What brings kindness into your world?  What can you do to tip the balance toward the kindness side?  Remember to include yourself in your acts of kindness!



May kindness fill your heart, mind and soul,


The Power of Kindness

The Power of Kindness

The Power of Kindness 

“Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind.” – Henry James

Can you remember the last time somebody was kind to you? Or when you were kind to someone else? Do you remember their reaction?

Kindness leaves a lasting impression on both the user and the experiencer.

Kindness isn’t one of those things we think about every day. And rarely do we think about it having profound effect on the world around us. Kindness is in fact, often underrated and disregarded. This is in part because people who are kind are often viewed as “enablers” or “suckers” by the cynical.

In this fast-paced world, kindness and compassion often takes a back seat. Selfies, self-interest and interacting through the online world only keeps us from being kind.

Many people today are so absorbed in their own life that they often forget how powerful being kind to others can be. Most don’t expect others to go out of their way and do something for them and not expect any reward or recognition in return.

Kindness is one of the essentials to our existence. From birth we are nurtured in kindness. Therefore, kindness is a part of our DNA. 

What is kindness, anyway?

According to Psychology Today, “Kindness means a behavioral response of compassion and actions that are selfless; or a mindset that places compassion for others before one’s own interests.”

Kindness is the ways both big and small, that we express compassion, concern, consideration and care for ourselves and others. Kindness transcends race, religion, social class and language barriers.

Being kind has a big impact on the world around us and on ourselves in ways that most don’t realize. It has many benefits including increasing our happiness and helping us have a healthy heart.

You probably don’t realize you’re performing many kindnesses every day. Simple things like smiling and greeting others in a friendly way, complimenting someone about their hair, clothes, laugh or something they do are acts of kindness.

Helping someone in some way, opening a door or saying thank you, please or excuse me are kind acts. It shows kindness when you don’t gossip, find fault in others or make negative judgments either.

This Week’s Contemplation: 

This week, pay more attention to the role of kindness in your life.  Ask yourself the following questions.  Remember that there is not right or wrong.  This is simply an exercise in awareness.  

  1. What does kindness mean to you?
  2. Do others treat you with kindness? 
  3. Do you treat others with kindness? 
  4. How do you see that in your life?   

By contemplating these questions, you will be increasing the awareness of kindness in your life.  Again, there is no right or wrong.  This is an exercise in awareness.   



Freedom from Trapped Emotions

Freedom from Trapped Emotions

We are taught in our society to suppress our emotions. 

That is a huge travesty.  

Often depression and chronic anxiety is caused by not feeling our emotions.  The habit of suppressing our emotions creates a backlog.  That backlog of unfelt emotions can feel very overwhelming.  When we suppress our negative emotions, we also suppress our ability to feel positive emotions.  By becoming more aware of our emotions, and allowing ourselves to feel them, we can reduce the backlog and move towards emotional freedom. 

What if much of what you feel is from your past?

What if much of the anxiety you feel has nothing to do with your present?  What if much of the sadness that you feel is trapped emotions from your past?  When you encounter experiences in your present that remind you of the past experience, the emotion comes up. 

The emotional hamster wheel 

When an emotion comes up, we can spend years, trying to change our outer circumstance so that we don’t feel the emotion.  That is a hamster wheel that never ends.  And it creates its own stress.  

We have all kinds of defense mechanisms that we use to avoid feeling our emotions.  Over thinking, creating a story about it, analyzing, obsessing, blaming others, blaming ourselves, isolating ourselves, going to numerous practitioners, trying to change our circumstances, taking masses of supplements, etc.   

Freeing ourself from trapped emotions 

The only way to free yourself from an emotion is to feel it.  Emotion stands for energy in motion.  When you do not feel an emotion, it does not move through you and it gets stuck.  When it gets stuck in your energy field, it continually sends a signal to your nervous system which contributes to insomnia.  It also blocks the flow of energy in your meridians and interferes with the functioning of the body and organs. 

A suggested practice to help you feel emotions 

Here is a practice that can help you to feel your emotions and release them.  When you feel an emotion coming on:

  1. Deepen your breath.
  2. Feel the emotion whether it be sadness, anger, fear, etc.
  3. Avoid getting into an internal dialogue about the emotion.
  4. Remind yourself that you don’t need to act on the emotion.
  5. Keep saying, “this is only an energy that is moving through me. I am willing to feel it and let it go”
  6. Try this for 5 minutes.
  7. Notice if there is a difference. 

Afterwards, take some time to reflect on your experience.  Did this help?  Were you able to do it?  Did it feel to scary to feel an emotion?  

Let go of any self-judgments that might have come up.  This takes time and practice.    Post in the “I Want to be Healthy” Facebook page any questions about your experience.  We are in this together. 

May you be happy, may you be peaceful, may you be free. 


10 Steps to Open the Heart

10 Steps to Open the Heart

Healing the Emotional Body 

The Beyond Fibromyalgia program is a comprehensive system of healing and balancing all aspects of who we are, including our body, emotions, mind, expression and spirit.  The emotional dimension is our heart and the center of our feelings and emotions.  It is linked to our soul.  It provides the power to move us forward in our lives, adds flavor to our experiences and connects us to our soul wisdom. 

In this article, we are going to introduce 10 steps to support in healing your heart as part of your overall wellness program.  The steps will find their way to you and that may not be linear.  As you read the steps below, listen for the ones that resonate with you at this time and honor that.  

  1. Feel and Honor your emotions
  2. Release stored emotional energy
  3. Heal unresolved negative memories
  4. Develop compassion
  5. Love yourself
  6. Forgive yourself and others
  7. Flow positive emotions
  8. Develop your heart energies
  9. Touch others with gentleness and kindness
  10. Allow your emotions/feelings to guide you

1.  Feel and honor your emotions

Contrary to popular thought, emotions are not bad.  Imagine that.  Our emotions are the quality that brings life and feeling to our experience.  E-motion stands for energy in motion; energy that was designed to move.  Think about the expression that we were ‘moved’ by something.  Yep, that is your emotions speaking to you.  Our emotions add vibrancy, aliveness and color to each moment.  Our emotions can range from unbridled joy to absolute terror with everything in between.  Our emotions are a gift from the Creator to assist us in navigating our experience on earth.  Positive feelings let us know we are going in the right direction; negative feelings are a message to pause and reassess.  They are a thing to be appreciated, enjoyed and celebrated. 

For the most part, we have been taught to ignore and suppress our emotions.  We try to hang on to the positive ones and push away the negative ones.  We are afraid to feel our emotions, both positive and negative.  We particularly are afraid of the negative emotions.  We have been told “big girls don’t cry” and other such non-sense.  When emotions are ignored, belittled and suppressed, the energy is not allowed to move as intended.  And this stuck energy builds up in our system and can contribute to physical pain, insomnia, and other physical symptoms.  

To begin the process of healing the emotional dimension simply be more aware of and notice your emotional landscape.  

2.  Release stored emotional energy

When emotional energy is felt and allowed, the landscape constantly changes and we feel vibrant and alive.  Each moment is new and fresh.  This is why people are so drawn to babies.  They have not suppressed their emotional energy.  They feel it all and allow it to move and flow.  That is why there is an aliveness in babies and small children that we are drawn to.  We want to feel that aliveness within ourselves.  

When we ignore and suppress our emotional energy, our senses are diminished and our aliveness is dulled. The energy gets ‘stuck’ inside and forms a cyclical pattern attempting to move and resolve itself.  It will attract situations to it to assist it in getting unstuck.  Do you ever wonder why you keep attracting the same negative situations to you again and again?  A part of you is attracting situations to you to ‘move’ the stuck energy and thereby free you from the cyclical pattern.  Or, do you over react to situations?  The over reaction is the stored energy trying to move.  Another problem with suppressing emotions is that when you don’t allow yourself to feel the negative emotions, you are also blocking your ability to feel the positive emotions and joy and love are not able to be felt.  Along with physical problems, the stuck emotional energy also contributes to negative mental patterns and a disconnection with our spiritual essence.  

Step 2 of healing the emotional dimension is to release the buildup of stored emotional energy in a healthy way and regain your aliveness.  

3.  Heal unresolved negative memories

Our true nature is one of love, peace and joy.  We were made in the likeness and image of God.   We are powerful creators.  We each have a purpose for being on this earth and an authenticity that wants to be expressed.  Our conscious mind may say that we want to experience love, joy, peace, contentment and empowerment.  But our experience does not reflect this.  Why is this so? 

As humans, we have a conscious mind and a sub and unconscious mind.   We are a bit like an iceberg.  The conscious mind is like the tip of the iceberg that we can see.  The sub and unconscious minds are like the bulk of the iceberg that lies beneath the surface.  All of our memories in this life time as well as memories from our ancestors and other time space dimensions are stored in the sub and unconscious mind.  Some of these memories are positive and life affirmative, some are negative and life destructive.  These memories are stored as images in the cells of our body.  These ‘memories’ have more control on our choices and actions than our conscious mind does.  That is why will power does not always work or may only work temporarily.  That is why you don’t always get what you think that you want.  That is why the power of positive thinking doesn’t always work.  

Until we bring to the surface and heal or neutralize these memories, they will always interfere with our dreams, goals and desires.  So step 3 in healing the emotional dimension is to heal or neutralize the negative cellular memories.  

4.  Develop compassion

In the journey of healing our emotional dimension, compassion is essential.  Compassion is the quality of complete acceptance of ourselves, others or an event along with a healing flow of love.  From a place of compassion, we can be neutral in our evaluation and choose our actions with clarity and purpose.  

On the journey of healing our emotional dimension, we will be confronted with aspects of ourselves and mental and emotional memories that we have judged as bad or wrong.  We will need to feel the emotional pain that we have suppressed in order to survive in the world.  Part of the process of healing is allowing those emotions and memories to surface without judgment or releasing judgment as it surfaces.  Only in acknowledging releasing the judgment, can we allow the memories and emotions to surface and be healed.  In our relationships with others releasing judgment and having compassion towards other is key in creating lasting healthy, happy, intimate relationships. 

5.   Love Yourself

To love yourself means to absolutely and unconditionally accept yourself including all the wonderful, beautiful and amazing things about yourself and all of the horrible and unacceptable things and idiosyncrasies that you detest about yourself.  You are perfect just as you are.  You are a wonderful beautiful expression of the divine.  Nothing less, bet possibly even more.  

We have been brought up to believe that we have to show up in a certain way to be loved and accepted.  We have been taught that who we truly are, our authentic self, is somehow less than lovable and acceptable.  In order to attempt to be loved, we have put on many masks and costumes and personalities.  All the time, our true authentic self lives within and is dying to express herself.  

Part of healing is to release the mask, costumes and personalities that we have taken on to be accepted by others and rediscover our authentic self that lives within and then allow her to shine into the world.  In order to release the masks, costumes and personalities, we have to be able to see, feel and hear them at a deep level without judgment.  

6.  Forgive

Forgiveness is the act of compassion in action.  It takes the compassion and the self-love that we have developed and directs it inward and outward.  Forgiveness frees our self from the chains that bind us to resentment, negative events and negative people in our history.   It allows us to move forward unfettered into the life we dream of.  It frees our body and mind from stress and anxiety.  It allows us to see the beauty within ourselves and others.  It opens us up to the reality of personal responsibility. 

We sometimes think that by holding on to a grudge, we are protecting ourselves from being hurt again.  In reality, holding a grudge is like pulling off the scab of a wound again and again never allowing the wound to heal.  It is like twisting the knife shoved in the gut rather than pulling out the knife and discarding it.  Forgiveness does not mean that we are accepting the actions of another person.  It simply means that we are willing to acknowledge that they were doing the best they could and that we are willing to release them and move forward with our life. 

When we forgive, we let go of the injustice, the wounds and the pain.  We free ourselves, God, and others to move to a more empowered expression of the next grandest expression of our divinity.  

7.  Flow positive emotions

When we are flowing positive emotions outward to others or even objects, we are the first recipient of that emotion/energy.  Positive emotions are healing and pleasant. They are the fuel that assist us in manifesting our dreams more quickly and ensure the positive quality of the manifestation of that dream.  We all like feeling love, peace, contentment, joy.  The truth is that we have the capacity to generate those feelings within ourselves and express them outward into our world.  

We often look outside of ourselves for the experience of positive emotions.  If someone else loves us, we can feel love.  If the circumstances of our life is just so or we have the right job, we will feel safe and secure and at peace.  We look to vacations to feel a sense of relaxation or exciting adventures to feel alive.  This keeps us caught in the hamster wheel of constantly trying to control the externals of our life or seeking situations to give us the inner experience that we crave.  This is a hit and miss situation at best.  We can never control the external world all the time and our endless searching outside of our self for an experience is costly and takes us in the wrong direction. 

We can develop the ability to generate the feelings we want to feel within our self.  That way, we are not a victim of our circumstances; we are self-sufficient, and empowered from within.  And our experience is more of what we want to experience; peace, love, joy, and empowerment or whatever you choose.  

8.  Develop Positive Heart Energies 

When I talk about the heart, I am talking about the energetic heart within each of us.  Each experience we have is an opportunity to express a heart energy.  If someone is mean to you, it gives you the opportunity to express understanding and compassion.  If you experience an ongoing challenge in your life, it gives you the opportunity to express persistence and determination.  If someone or something leaves you, it is an opportunity to express opportunity.  

Often, we focus on pushing away the negative experience, not wanting to feel it.  That just keeps us stuck in the same old experience.  Rather than pushing away the negative, we have the opportunity to fully feel it and then bring in the missing heart/positive energy.  We have the opportunity to bring compassion, love, peace, patience, generosity, understanding or many other positive qualities to the situation.  As we invite the positive energy into the situation, we grow our capacity and connection with that energy.  It becomes stronger in us and more natural to express in our daily life. 

9.  Touch others with gentleness and kindness

‘The meek shall inherit the earth’ is a quote from the Bible.  It is so true.  Those who love will become strong.  Those who express understanding, gentleness and kindness carry a strength that nothing can conquer.  Love, gentleness and kindness are akin to our true nature.  Our true nature is an expression of the divinity within us.  Nothing can harm or destroy that divinity.   

Many of us have been raised in an environment of fear and competition.  There is not enough.  I have to fight for or take what I need or I will be left without or behind.  Being gentle and kind does not mean to roll over and let someone stomp on you.  It means being strong within yourself, energetically stronger than your challenges or seeming adversaries.  We all have everything that we need within ourselves.  Once we touch that deep well, we do not need to argue or defend ourselves.  We can allow others to be as they are and ourselves to be as we are.  This is true freedom. 

10.  Allow your emotions/feelings to guide you

As I said in the beginning, our emotions are a gift from the Creator to assist us in navigating our experience on earth.  Positive feelings let us know we are going in the right direction; negative feelings are a message to pause and reassess.  They are a thing to be appreciated, enjoyed and celebrated.  Subtle positive and negative feelings replace the gross emotions of fear, hate, joy, love.  

As we feel our emotions, clean out the negative repressed emotions and heal unresolved negative cellular memories, we become lighter and more clear.  It is like cleaning the grime off of a window.  We can see through the window for the first time.  As we develop compassion, self love and forgiveness, we envelop ourselves with a cloak of love and positive energy.  As we flow positive emotions, express heart energies, and touch others with kindness and gentleness, we are expressing the love that we are into the world. 

The final step happens naturally and spontaneously.  We become attuned to the vibration of love.  We are very aware of any energies that are clouding or in opposition to that energy.  We understand that love is the well that nurture and fills us with life.  As we make choices in our life, we will naturally move toward the choice that is full of light and love and away from choices that bring a negative feeling.  The heart is then healed and can truthfully guide us as it was intended to do.

A open heart provides us energy and enthusiasm for life

The heart is the part of us that is most ignored in many healing, spiritual and holistic traditions.  We attempt to heal the body, to think positive thought and to connect with spirit.  Body, Mind, Spirit is a well-known trinity.  But without healing the heart, the trinity is incomplete.  The electromagnetic charge of the heart is 50 times more powerful than the brain.  If the heart contains unhealed negative cellular memories, the mind will need to create negative stories to try to understand this experience, the body will suffer from the stress created by the memories, and the connection to spirit will be diminished by the fog just as the sun is covered by a cloud.    Healing the emotional dimension has a healing effect on the entire energy field that is you.

May your heart open and fill you with bliss,