I See You . . .
Remember . . .
You are not your fibromyalgia.
You are not your anxiety.
You are not your challenges.
You are a beloved child of God
You are beautiful in His eyes.
You are Blessed. You are Loved!
💗Bindu
14 Tips to Diffuse Anxiety
People with fibromyalgia struggle with anxiety. It is part of the fibromyalgia syndrome. Fibromyalgia makes every area in our life more difficult including finances, relationship, family, and career.
We have a lot to be concerned about, not only our health, but the impact it has on our lives. Add to that all the craziness on the planet right now leaves lots of space for worry and anxiety.
How can we manage or diffuse our anxiety?
Below are several suggestions that can help to diffuse anxiety.
Step 1: Breathe
Breathing might not seem like a big deal, but if you slow down and deepen your breath, you can connect to a calm inner presence and reduce your anxiety. Here is a great article on how deep breathing eases anxiety.
Step 2: Endeavor to witness the anxiety.
With any emotion that we feel we can watch or witness it rather than be taken over by it. Deep breathing from Step 1, helps us to witness the anxiety. Set that as an intention and see what happens. Intention is a powerful choice and can achieve unexpected results.
Step 3: Watch the mind
Our mind can be a great ally or a terrible naysayer. The mind can pull up all negative experiences from your past to protect you, but really, all that does is fuel your fear and anxiety. Deep breathing can help us to watch the mind rather than be taken over by it. Watching the mind allows us to evaluate our thoughts and then choose to believe them, challenge them or dismiss them.
Step 4: Accept this moment as it is.
Accepting this moment doesn’t mean that you need to like it. I am simply suggesting to fully get/see/understand what is happening in and around you. From that place, you can begin to create a new reality.
Fighting “what is” only feeds what you don’t want. Accepting what is, empowers you to create change.
Step 5: Write it out
I find that making a list of all the things I am worried about helps. Often, it doesn’t seem quite as big on paper. That is because the same frightening thoughts continue to circulate in your mind, making it seem bigger than it really is.
Step 6: Past, Present or Future?
Notice if your anxiety is about something that happened in the past or something that you are afraid will happen in the future or if it is a real problem in this moment. Mark each item on your list as past, present and future.
Step 7: Letting go of the past
If an anxiety is about something that happened in the past, you can discover ways to release the cellular memories and emotions causing the anxiety. Tools such as EFT and the Healing Codes are great tools you can use at home to release past traumas and negative life experiences. If they are deep and painful memories, you may want to seek out a professional who is trained in releasing trauma.
Step 8: Addressing or releasing the future.
Look at your future fears and do a reality check. For each fear about the future, ask yourself if that is a realistic concern or something isn’t likely to happen. If it is something that isn’t likely to happen, find some affirmation or truth focus statements that help you to shift your thought patterns. Write them out on paper and repeat them at least once a day or more. If it is a realistic concern, add it to your list of present concerns.
Step 9: Present concerns
Look at each present concern and ask yourself if it is something that you can do something about. If so, make an action plan of what you can do to address your concern. Even if it is a baby step in the right direction. If you cannot do anything about it, try the other steps in this article.
Step 10: Stop and look around your environment.
In this moment are you safe? Do you have a roof over your head? Do you have food and water? Is your environment free from violence or potential violence? If you answer yes to all of the questions, take a few moments to appreciate the safety of this moment. Afterall, this moment is really all there is.
If you answer no to the question of violence, get yourself to a safe space. Then take it from there. If you answered no to some of the other questions, apply Step 9.
Don’t hesitate to ask for help. You don’t have to do this alone. There are many services to help people in need.
Step 11: Gratitude
Taking some time each day to remind yourself of all that is good in your life can change your experience. We often forget or take for granted the simple things in life.
During my worst years of fibromyalgia, just being grateful for a roof over my head, food to eat, help from my parents and the loving companionship of my cats and dog was all that I could muster. It didn’t seem like much or enough back then. But now, I can see how important those things were and am even more grateful for them than ever. That reminds me how important the things in my life now are.
Step 12: Redirect Your Attention
Sometimes, nothing will ease your anxiety. At those times, I will find something else to focus on. Maybe watch a funny movie. Work in my garden. Clean the kitchen. Watch a romantic movie. Take your kids to the park.
You get the idea. Make your own list of things to do to redirect your attention to in times of anxiety.
Step 13: This too will change
Sometimes if our current situation seems unbearable, it is helpful to remember that the only constant in the world is that everything changes. This can help to accept more fully what is in this moment. Knowing that it won’t last forever. Everything changes.
Remind yourself of other situations in your life that were difficult and that you successfully navigated. You will get through this also!
Step 14: Set an Intention
Setting an intention is a way of identifying what you want rather than focusing on what you don’t want. Form follows attention. Focusing on what you want, rather than what you don’t want, can be a game changer.
Make a list or create a vision board with all that you desire in your life. Refer to it often. Pray, create truth focus statements, affirmations, and goal with where you want your life to go.
Perhaps one of the most powerful intentions is to be calm, grounded and centered.
Many ways to diffuse anxiety
As you can see, there are many ways to diffuse anxiety. Add these suggestions to your toolbox on how to diffuse anxiety. Experiment with the suggestions above and see what is most helpful for you. Perhaps a combination of the above suggestions will be warranted. Different steps may be more helpful in different situations.
May you be calm, grounded and centered. 💕Bindu
Health, Wellness and Wholeness
Health, Wellness and Wholeness
Today, I would like to begin a new conversation around health by looking at the difference between health, wellness and wholeness.
Health is a state of the body.
When we talk about health, we usually mean the state of functionality of the body. Does it operate at a ‘normal’ level without pain, or at least minimal pain? When we seek to help our body function better, we look to physical treatments. Medications, herbs, massage, diet, exercise. Medical doctors, naturopaths, functional medicine practitioners.
The focus here is usually attempting to diagnose and change the biochemistry of the body. Often this approach to health is an outside in approach meaning we need to control the biochemistry of the body in order to feel healthy. We are doing something to our body to make it function properly.
Wellness expands our concept of health.
Along comes the wellness industry which redefines the concept of health. Wellness expands our definition of health to include the mind, emotions, lifestyle factors and searching for happiness in our lives. We engage in positive thinking, lifestyle modification, honoring our emotions. Perhaps finding work that inspires, re-evaluating our relationships. In addition to the physical modalities, we seek out counseling, therapy, life coaching.
Then emerges the idea of Wholeness.
The overriding name of my business is Integrative Wholeness. This idea expands the concept of health to include all dimensions and parts of who we are. It focuses on understanding our multi-dimensionality and bringing all parts of our multi-dimensionality into balance and harmony.
Integrative Wholeness embraces our physical body, our emotional body, our mental body, our energy body, and our spiritual body. The intent is to create balance in each dimension. When balance in each dimension is established the dimensions begin to resonate in harmony with each other. The soul, mind, heart and body are in alignment with each other.
Integrative Wholeness is also a process of meeting, greeting, embracing and integrating all parts of who we are. We each have a personality that includes parts of us that we deem acceptable. Yet there are parts of us that are wounded and/or considered unacceptable. These parts need to be accessed, healed and integrated. Some of these exiled parts are the innocent inner children who hold our joy, gifts and talents but were deemed unacceptable by those who raised us and/or our society at large. When we integrate these parts, we begin to feel more whole. We reclaim our joy and our passion for life.
It is this experience of integration that will create health from the inside out. When all dimensions and parts are in balance and harmony, health on all levels is the natural result. Your body will be healthy. Your mind will be clear and focused. Your emotions will be balanced. You will feel a connection with your spirit and God. You will be expressing your gifts and live abundantly.
In Summary
I began on a search for health many years ago. I discovered that health was more that just the body. I also needed inner peace. I discovered that the path to health involved the process of healing and integrating all parts of myself.
This is my vision and what I am here to teach others. I invite you to listen, learn, evaluate and apply what feels right to you.
Wishing you peace, love and vibrant health,
Bindu
Embrace Yourself with Compassion
Do you have days were just getting out of bed
feels like you are pushing a boulder up a hill?
Those are the days when you have the opportunity to
embrace yourself with kindness and compassion.
It is not your fault.
You are doing the best you can.
And that is enough!
💗Bindu
Healing from the Inside Out
I often use the phrase ‘healing from the inside out’. The first time I heard it, I wondered what it really meant. I suspect that you also wonder that same thing.
Let’s start by looking at different health care models:
Allopathic Medicine.
Per the National Cancer Institute, allopathic medicine is a system in which medical doctors and other health care professionals (such as nurses, pharmacists, and therapists) treat symptoms and diseases using drugs, radiation, or surgery. Also called bio-medicine, conventional medicine, mainstream medicine, orthodox medicine, and Western medicine.
Green Health Care
A system of health care in which natural, alternative, and holistic practitioners address symptoms using natural herbs, supplements and other holistic modalities, which could include acupuncture, massage, aromatherapy, and many others.
Many of these practitioners work to alleviate symptoms while also exploring and addressing the deeper causes the the illness. It depends on the practitioner, their approach, perspective, training and expertise.
Healing from the inside out.
A system of wellness care that uses detective work to identify underlying cause of symptoms and then supports the body in healing itself. This is based on the understanding that the body heals itself. Your entire body was built from 2 cells joining together. Every function in your body was created from those two cells. If the human body is capable of that, then it is also capable of healing almost anything that goes wrong in the body.
It is also important to alleviate symptoms along the way. This is called smart or holistic symptom relief.
All three approaches have their place.
The patient or client needs to work with their practitioners to find the right balance of the three models. They each have their own pros and cons.
Let’s explore the Healing from the Inside Out model.
From my perspective, the body is designed to heal itself. When the body is exposed to stresses, it is designed to meet and resolve the stress and return to homeostasis. When the body is not healthy, it means that the body is not able to meet and resolve the stresses. This can be caused by many factors and in the case of chronic illness, it is that there are more stresses that the body can handle, and the dis-ease process has been initiated.
A common mis-understanding is the symptoms themselves.
Our society commonly see symptoms as something bad that needs to be gotten rid of. From the inside out perspective, symptoms are either a sign that the body is healing or a message from the body that something has gone wrong and we need to grab our detective hats and get to the investigation.
A symptom can be a sign that the body is healing itself.
When the body is healing itself, there will almost always be a symptom. You cut your finger and it become red, inflamed and sore. That is the body sending energy and healing chemicals to the cut. If you wash the cut, and keep it from getting infected, the finger will heal. Nothing else needs to be done. This is a very simple example, and yet often our symptoms are just that, the body in the process of healing itself.
Our symptoms may be the body telling us that something is wrong.
Imagine that the oil light came on in your car. Rather than putting more oil in the car, you snipped the connection to the light so that the oil light didn’t come on. Without the simple act of adding oil, you might very well burn out or freeze the engine.
Maybe your fatigue is because you aren’t getting enough sleep. Your heartburn is caused by eating too much of the wrong foods. Sure, you can take a medication or supplement to make the symptom go away, but without addressing and resolving the underlying cause, the health of the body may decline, the symptoms may reappear or show up in a different and perhaps a more serious problem.
From my understanding, this is what happens in our body when we use drugs, supplements and other tools to ‘stop’ the symptoms. Sometimes intelligent symptom alleviation is appropriate, but it is best used along with a deeper look and resolution of the underlying cause.
Finding a practitioner who is seasoned in supporting the body in healing itself
A practitioner who is skilled in assisting an individual to heal from the inside out will have many ways to inquire, identify and resolve the underlying causes of symptoms. As the underlying causes are identified and resolved, then the problematic symptoms simply go away.
Supporting the body to heal from the inside out.
I spent a lot of years chasing symptoms with both allopathic medicine and green medicine. In order to fulfill my desire to completely heal myself, I needed to go deeper. I could manage my symptoms with supplements, but I couldn’t make them completely go away. My intention was to be symptom free. So I continued searching.
I studied wholistic health from many angles, including physical, emotional, mental, energetic and spiritual aspects. I am also very intuitive. By blending my studies with my intuition, I was able to identify and resolve the underlying causes of my symptoms and they began falling away.
Now talking with an individual, listening, and asking for questionnaires to be completed I can have a pretty good idea of the areas of stress. Then comes the work of identifying specifics and using the right tools to neutralize the stresses.
Healing from the inside out can seem to take longer and be more expensive than the allopathic approach, but in my experience the opposite is true. It embraces the whole being and becomes an experience of tapping into and neutralizing stresses that you never knew were lurking under the surface. These stresses impact you on all levels, robbing you of your vitality, inner peace and satisfaction in life.
The result of healing from the inside out is that you discover a new you that may be well beyond what you ever imagined possible. That is true healing.
Stayed tuned. Next week, we will look at the kinds of stresses that underlie the experience of fibromyalgia.
May you heal, 💕Bindu
Coming In September
Beyond Fibromyalgia . . . A Path to Wholeness
The idea the we can recover from from fibromyalgia isn’t very popular.
Our medical system has no cure for fibromyalgia. Even holistic treatments often fall short of providing relief from fibromyalgia.
Back in the 90’s, after struggling with my health for 20 years, I first heard the word fibromyalgia. I was dumbfounded. Also excited. I thought that now that I knew what was wrong with me, I could get help. But the medical system didn’t have anything that helped. I had already began studying holistic health, so put my focus in that direction. Even though it took a long time, I have improved significantly and many of my symptoms are gone or mild.
Today I am inspired to share my approach to moving Beyond Fibromyalgia.
Which is quite unique.
This is the result of result of my search for health over the past 40 years. I scoured the medical approach and holistic modalities. This was quite a journey and carried me from one end of the US to another more than once. Personally working with multiple holistic treatments and protocols and practitioners for 20 years. Into a monastery for 3 years, and an ashram for 6 years. 10 years of training in wholistic modalities. Experimenting with diet, exercise and lifestyle choices. Many years of teaching and coaching others. I felt like I was guided by a divine hand showing me the next step and the next for 40 years.
Out of all of this I have developed a very thorough systematic way of restoring health. Based on what really worked and what didn’t. Blending modalities into a synergetic system of rebuilding health addressing all dimensions of our being, body, emotions, mind, spirit, energy and expression. Calling on the power of the body to heal itself.
This is the system that I used to rebuild my health. And now it is time for me to bring it out into the world.
Below you will see an outline and short description of my system. I hope it doesn’t feel too overwhelming. Beginning in September, I will begin teaching group programs taking participants through the process step by step. My hope/intention is to make the process affordable for everyone. By doing this in groups you will have the group support throughout the process.
Beyond Fibromyalgia – A Path to Wholeness
Connect to Calm
The Integrative Wholeness Experience
The Integrative Wholeness Experience is designed to teach you how to remain grounded, calm, and centered in the midst of external or internal stress. Accessing your inner wisdom and guidance.
Internal stress prevents our body from healing itself. When we have stress from negative life experiences, trauma, unhappy work, and relationship challenges, our sympathetic nervous system is running the show and we do not have the ability to slow down, rest, recharge, and repair. Or parasympathetic nervous system is keeping us buried in a state of fog and immobility. This can diminish the effectiveness of any health-oriented protocol.
By grounding ourself in our calm inner Presence we can more easily navigate the ups and downs of the healing journey. And you will learn how to neutralize triggers and trauma responses as they arise in your daily experience.
Essential Care of the Body
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- The importance of self-care
- The importance of bio-Individuality
- Discover the right diet for your bio-individuality
- Learn how to keep your body hydrated
- Enjoy healthy movement for your bio-individuality
- Use breathing practices to enhance wellness
- Recharge through sleep, rest, relaxation, and play
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The second essential component to rebuilding our health is taking good care of your body. Without feeding your body the right food for your unique bio-individuality your food can actually contribute to ill health rather than improving health.
Likewise with exercise. Moving your body is essential for your health and knowing what exercises and how much is right for you will support your healing process. Doing the wrong exercise or even too much of the right exercise can work against improving your health.
Oxygen is the most important nutrient on the planet. With our first breath we begin our life on earth. With the last breath we leave our body. The quality of our breath between these two events contributes to the quality of your life and health.
Water is also an essential nutrient. Your body is 70% water. A well hydrated body has a greater ability to detoxify and support normal metabolism.
Rest, sleep, and play are essential to a quality of life. When we are stressed, we become contracted. That contraction reduces the quality of our health. Rest and play bring joy and delight into our system and relaxes the body. The right balance between relaxation and contraction is essential for good health.
Quality sleep is also essential to good health. That is when the body rests, restores, and rebuilds. Healing trauma, negative life experiences and stresses in your life help the nervous system to unwind allowing for deep restful sleep. Also the Integrative Wholeness Experience supports you in remaining calm in the midst of stress.
Care of the Mind and Emotions
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- All healing begins with Self-Love
- Identify, manage and deconstruct stress
- Embrace the power of your emotions
- Open and heal the heart
- Harness the power of your mind
- Discover the core values that guide you
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Much of this is covered in the Integrative Wholeness Experience.
When we have suppressed emotions and unhealed trauma, your cellular memories continuously send a danger signal to your nervous system which keeps you in fight or flight.
The mind jumps in and creates thoughts, stories, and belief systems to attempt to understand and explain the anxiety or depression that you feel. This tends to slow down the true healing process and keeps you stuck in the uncomfortable known.
Trauma and negative life experiences are revealed and neutralized. Reprograming the mind to a health life affirmative perspective. Learning to embrace your emotions in a way that empowers rather than disempowers you.
All done from a place of self love and compassion. You will learn a process that will automatically heal trauma triggers and trauma responses as they arise in your experience.
Identifying and Addressing Underlying Imbalances
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- Support the foundational body systems
- Discover and deconstruct hidden stressors
- Experience the art of healthy detoxification
- Repair cellular damage caused by toxicity
- Return body systems to balance and optimal function
- Resolve inherited genetic susceptibilities
- Restore the energy flow in the body.
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When the body has been out of balance for an extended period of time, the biochemistry and energetic terrain of the body changes. Even after correcting our lifestyle, stress reduction, trauma healing and spiritual connection, the body needs further assistance to return to an inner state of balance and functionality.
The foundational systems of the body include the neuroendocrine system, digestive system, and the detoxification system. By supporting these systems in the body, we can begin the process of rebalancing the biochemistry of the body.
In addition, it is important to identify toxins that are stored in the body tissues which undermine the healthy functioning of the body. And finally, to repair damage the cells have sustained due to stress and toxicity.
The body is fueled by energy that flows through the meridian system. The meridian system feeds each system in the body and keeps the systems, organs and cells functioning normally. There are many modalities that we can utilize to increase the flow of energy to improve your health.
Reclaim your Life – Enhancing your Expression
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- Know yourself
- Create your vision and personal mission statement
- Effectively manage your life
- Learn the art of conscious creation
- Create healthy supportive relationships
- Communicate effectively from the heart
- Express your life purpose
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Another aspect of rebuilding your health is knowing your true self and consciously interacting with the world around you, through work, family, and society. Who are you? What are the gifts that you are here to bring into the world. How do you manage your time and finances? Are your relationships healthy, fulfilling, and nurturing? How do you consciously communicate in the world?
This benefits us in two ways. First, knowing your core values and mission help you to channel your energy into fulfillment and satisfaction. It also helps to pull you forward into health.
The Journey
This may feel like a lot. And it is. Yet your health and sense of inner peace will grow as you progress through the program.
I am excited and perhaps a bit scared. It is a lot to take on. Yet, I truly feel that this is my mission and destiny in this lifetime. It has been a dream of mine for many many years. Now is the time to bring it out into the world.
I am certainly open to any of your thoughts, questions and suggestions. I am here to serve you.
May you be whole, 💕Bindu
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