Your Inner Radar

Your Inner Radar

Your Inner Radar


We all have an inner radar.

Our body was designed to survive.  Part of our inner survival mechanisms is to constantly be scanning our inner and outer environment and even other people.  This is called neuroception.

It is the way our nervous system listens to the world within our self and outside of our self.   Your nervous system is constantly perceiving the world inside and outside.

It is listening to what is happening in your body, heart, lungs, digestive system, your muscles.  Also, your emotional state and your mental state.

It also perceives what is going on around you.  Sights, sounds, smells, movement, and sensations.

Your nervous system also perceives other people and what is going on inside of them.

There is way more going on inside and outside than our mind can capture, understand, and integrate.


Why is this important?

Especially when it comes to our health and happiness. 

When your nervous system perceives a threat, it automatically responds to that threat.  Your fight or flight or freeze or shut down kicks in automatically.  Your body is preprogrammed to keep you safe and alive.

When your nervous system perceives safety, it relaxes and allows the body to relax.


Impact of trauma on neuroception

When we have been traumatized, the neuroception can perceive potential threats based on your past experience.

For example, a big burly man with red hair and a yellow shirt hurt you or traumatized you when you were young.   Your nervous system may send you into fight or flight or shut down any time you see a big burly man or a man with red hair, or the color yellow.

Even if there is no real threat in your current environment.  This leads to anxiety and stress even when there is no real threat.

This neuroception is also listening to what is going on in your body, so if you have suppressed emotions your nervous system will activate fight or flight or freeze or shut down almost continuously.

This is a factor in anxiety disorders and severe depression.


The question becomes, “What can we do about this?”

This is where mindfulness and practices that calm and balance your nervous system can be helpful.

Mindfulness is the practice of being present with what is really happening in the moment, in our environment and in our body.

So, if you are being mindful, you will notice your anxiety level rise.  You will also notice what is happening in the environment outside of you.  And you can evaluate your environment to see if there is a true threat or only a perceived threat that doesn’t exist.

If you have an ongoing mindfulness practice, your nervous system will be more grounded in the present and less likely to overreact.  If your nervous system is overreacting, the next step is to apply one of the practices that calm and balance the nervous system.    See my recent posts for simple and easy mindfulness practices.  And here are some other suggestions that may be helpful.

My preferred practice is to slow down and deepen my breath.  That will take the edge off anxiety and bring you into the present moment.

Other simple practices include:

  • Grounding yourself in the environment around you. Pick up a pen another object in your environment and focus on it.  The color, texture, shape, smell.
  • Placing your hand on your heart and feel your heart and your hand.
  • Self soothe through positive statements or mantras.
  • Bring to mind a positive experience.
  • Simply look around your environment. Is it safe? Is there any real threat?


You may have other ways to self soothe.

Be creative.  Ask your heart what it needs to feel safe.

Enjoy exploring ways that you can self soothe and calm your nervous system.  Self-care is essential in today’s busy world.

 

May you soothe and calm your inner experience, 💕Bindu

Finding Your Calm Grounded Center

Finding Your Calm Grounded Center

For the last several weeks, we have been talking about trauma and how it impacts us, our body, our emotions, and our mind.  

Today, we will explore some ways that we can rediscover and ground our self in a calm grounded center.  There are many ways to do this. As we are all unique, we must find what works for us.  

Over the last few weeks, I have offered a breath technique, the hug, and placing your hand on your heart. This is a wonderful starting place. Today, I’ll share another possibility.     

Another way to nurture a calm grounded center is to remember memories from your past where you felt loved, safe, secure, heard, respected. And the list could go on, but I think you get my drift. It could be anything that leaves you with a pleasant feeling inside. 

 

Here are some areas that you can consider:

1.        Who is a person or pet that you feel welcomed and/or safe with?

I have my three beloved cats who surround me with their love. And some close friends that I feel very safe with and can share my heart. 

2.      Is there an object that helps you to feel safe?

This could be a piece of jewelry, a teddy bear, maybe a warm cup of tea. Let your creativity have some fun with discovering an object that would help you to feel safe.

3.       Is there an action or activity that grounds you or brings you into a pleasant or calm state of body and mind. 

I love working in my yard and planting beautiful plants and watching them grow. I like to go for walks and appreciate nature around me or listen to an uplifting song or podcast. 

4.      Is there a place where you feel welcome and content? 

I love my home. I feel safe within my home. Being in nature helps me to feel grounded and content. And I love teaching my yoga classes which brings me great joy and connection with others. 

5.       What words can you say to yourself that give you comfort? Is there something that you can say to your inner child to reassure yourself?  What did you most want and need to hear as a child? Can you say those words to yourself. 

 Be creative with this exploration

This is just a very short list of the possible external places, people, events and activities that can assist in returning to a balanced state. Use your creativity to discover what works for you. As you discover what works for you, consider how you can integrate them into your life.

I understand that overcoming trauma is a long-term process. Many times, it may feel like you are not making any progress. Yet every kind word, grounding breath or hug takes us one step closer to recovery. 

May you feel welcome, safe, and loved, 💕Bindu

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Psychological Symptoms Related to Trauma

Psychological Symptoms Related to Trauma

Trauma impacts our psyche and contributes to behavioral challenges

First and foremost:

  • Shame
  • Self Doubt

Shame and self-doubt causes the biggest challenge for trauma survivors. Strong feelings of shame and strong tendencies toward self-doubt keep us paralyzed and can keep us from moving forward. We can feel like we cannot trust ourselves and don’t know what’s safe and what isn’t safe.

 

Psychological and behavioral issues related to trauma include:

  • post-traumatic stress disorder
  • anxiety disorders
  • panic disorders
  • phobias
  • feeling jumpy
  • eating disorders
  • addictions
  • substance abuse issues
  • risk-taking behavior
  • self-mutilation or self-harm
  • suicidal ideation and attempts
  • depression
  • dissociation
  • paranoia
  • chronic rage
  • chronic shyness
  • explosiveness and reactivity
  • chronically passive
  • isolating
  • difficulty sleeping, sleep disturbances, nightmares,
  • flashbacks
  • intrusive thoughts
  • intrusive imagery
  • intrusive emotions
  • avoiding situations
  • avoiding relationships
  • reoccurring looping thoughts
  • mind racing
  • survivor’s guilt

You may have a few of these, or many, or even none. These symptoms aren’t proof of having a traumatic experience in your past, but if you’re carrying unprocessed trauma, most likely, you’re going to be showing one or more of these psychological symptoms and signs.

 

Trauma lives in the body and causes these kinds of issues.

We have to live with the symptoms until we can process the trauma. Carrying a load of unprocessed trauma taxes our body, our health, and limits how much we can be active and engaged and confident in our own lives.

 

Continue with the practices from last week

The Breath  

Notice your breath. Breath in for 2 counts and out for 4 counts. Or in for 3 counts and out for 6 counts. The idea here is to have the exhalation be twice as long as the inhalation. it’s ok if the exhalation isn’t twice as long. Just let it be longer than the inhalation.

The Heart

Simply placing your hand on your heart and feel the connection between your hand and your heart. You can increase the effectiveness of this by saying something kind to yourself. Even something as simple as “I hear you.”

The Hug

Place you right hand under your left armpit. And your right hand on your left upper arm. Gently squeeze . . . giving yourself a hug.

Daily Practice

Can you commit to 10 minutes per day to use these simple tools? Play around with them and notice how your body responds. Which works for you? You can combine them as well, using the Breath with the Heart and the Hug.

You can begin to bring your nervous system back into balance. The results may be subtle or obvious. With consistent practice over a period of months you will notice a difference. What have you got to lose? 

 

May you reclaim your heart.  💗Bindu

Trauma and Physical Symptoms

Trauma and Physical Symptoms

Trauma Symptoms and the Nervous System

Symptoms from trauma can be caused by chronic dysregulation of our nervous system.  This can impact us in two areas, physical/somatic and psychological.  In this post, I will talk about the physical.  Next week we will look at psychological impact.

Chronic dysregulation of the nervous system affects hormonal processes, metabolism and pain perception.  Which in turn can contribute to physical symptoms such as.

  • GI issues, like irritable bowel syndrome, digestive issues, bloating, cramping, pain.
  • Gastritis, which is an inflammation of the lining of the gut.
  • Headaches, especially migraines, are common.
  • Cardiac issues, including cardiac arrhythmias– these can also be caused by other organic issues, but are frequently seen in people with trauma histories.
  • Musculoskeletal issues, like fibromyalgia and chronic pain
  • Chronic fatigue
  • Respiratory issues like asthma and reactive airways
  • Dermatological issues like hives, rashes.
  • Autoimmune diseases, psoriasis, Crohn’s disease, celiac disease, lupus.
  • Rheumatoid arthritis and osteoarthritis.
  • TMJ– temporomandibular joint, your jaw, and the tendency for it to lock.
  • Restless legs syndrome.

Sound familiar? 

There’s more, but this is an overview to give you a sense of how far-reaching these symptoms can be.  Symptoms are different for different people depending on their lifestyle, genetics, the type of trauma, and other factors.

Keep in mind that there can also be physical causes for symptoms, so it is good to explore that possibility also with a competent health care provider.

 

This may seem discouraging, but there is hope!

As we release our trauma, our nervous system becomes more regulated. That allows the body to rebuild your health from the inside out. Sometimes the dysregulation becomes a habit that the body naturally defaults to.

I have experienced great improvement in my physical and emotional health from my focus on healthy my trauma. One of the greatest blessings is that I sleep really well which also has reduced my pain and fatigue.

You can begin now.  Here are some simple tools that can begin to regulate your nervous system.

The Breath  

Notice your breath.  Breath in for 2 counts and out for 4 counts.  Or in for 3 counts and out for 6 counts.  The idea here is to have the exhalation be twice as long as the inhalation.  it’s ok if the exhalation isn’t twice as long.  Just let it be longer than the inhalation.

The Heart

Simply placing your hand on your heart and feel the connection between your hand and your heart.  You can increase the effectiveness of this by saying something kind to yourself.  Even something as simple as “I hear you.”

The Hug

Place you right hand under your left armpit.  And your right hand on your left upper arm.  Gently squeeze . . . giving yourself a hug.


Daily Practice

Can you commit to 10 minutes per day to use these simple tools?  Play around with them and notice how your body responds. Which works for you?  You can combine them as well, using the Breath with the Heart and the Hug.

You can begin to bring your nervous system back into balance.  The results may be subtle or obvious.  With consistent practice over a period of months you will notice a difference.  What have you got to lose? 

May you regulate your nervous system.  💗Bindu

 

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Fibromyalgia, Trauma and Shame

Fibromyalgia, Trauma and Shame

Do you ever feel like you can’t do anything right?

Do you feel like nobody likes you?

Do you criticize yourself?

Do you fail to stand up for yourself?

Do you ‘what if’ yourself related to past regrets?

Are you ashamed because you have fibromyalgia?

 

These are all symptoms of shame.

And shame is one of the symptoms of trauma.  Shame is a result of trauma.

Guilt says we have done something wrong.

Shame says that we are wrong, that there is something inherently wrong with who we are.  We don’t deserve respect.  We don’t deserve love.  Sometimes that we shouldn’t even exist.

Childhood Shame

Childhood shame is particularly invasive.  Especially if we had a parent who physically, mentally or emotionally abused us.  Or neglected us.  

The shame becomes part of our identity.  It influences every aspect of our lives.  Our careers, our relationships, our sense of family, our parenting.

It can seem that nothing goes quite right no matter how hard we try.  If something does go right, it doesn’t last. 

Adult Trauma

Even adult trauma can create the wound of shame.  We can feel that an accident or illness is our fault.  That we did something wrong or could have prevented it.   That is where the “if only’s” come into play.  

That isn’t real.  It isn’t your fault.  

Moving Beyond Shame

I think that shame is one of the most difficult things to overcome in our lives.  But with patience and persistence we can over come shame or at least take the edge off of it.  And most importantly, not let it control our lives.

First and foremost, we need to acknowledge the shame.  Recognize that there is a part of us who feels undeserving, unlovable and simply wrong.

The next step is to embrace that part of yourself with compassion.  To give that part what you didn’t get as a child . . . unconditional love.  Even the part that can’t fully love and accept yourself needs compassion.  

Simple tips to help in healing shame

There are some very simple tools that can help to heal shame.

1.  Simply place your hand on your heart. Feel the connection between your hand and your heart.   If you like, you can add your other hand.  And breathe.

2.  Find a phrase that is comforting to you.  It might be “I love you”  or “I forgive you”  or “I understand” or “I hear your pain” or “I am sorry you hurt so bad.”   Or another phrase of your choice. 

3. Think about what you most wanted to hear as a child.  Or what you would like to hear someone say to you now.  Say that to yourself.  

4.  Place your right hand under your left armpit.  Then place your left hand on your right upper arm.  Give yourself a gentle squeeze, a gentle hug.  

These might not seem like much, but your body, your nervous system and your heart doesn’t distinguish between who is giving the love.  If you gently hug yourself, that counts.  If you say, I love you to yourself, that counts.   The physical touch is particularly a good way to offer love to yourself. 

The Importance of Patience

If you are just beginning to express loving compassion to your wounded heart, it might not trust it in the beginning.  Your inner child has not learned to trust.  

Practice accepting yourself as you are with all your fears, anxiety, crazy, and idiosyncrasies.  You are unique.  You are special.  You just don’t remember that yet.  

When the shame arises, remind yourself that it isn’t who you are, just a wounded part that needs love too.  

My upcoming programs are a great way to receive support from a loving community of like minded individuals.  Stay tuned for more information. 

May you know that you are loved, 💗Bindu

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