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Fibromyalgia and the Pain Body Pt 3:  Breaking Free

Fibromyalgia and the Pain Body Pt 3: Breaking Free

The pain body, is an integral part of fibromyalgia. It is the blend of destructive cellular memories, suppressed emotions, sub and unconscious negative beliefs that cause emotional pain, stress and contribute to physical symptoms. 

In order to heal the pain body, it is essential that you break your identification from it.  Otherwise, it literally feels like you are trying to kill a part of yourself.  Your defenses will come up and sabotage your success.

In order to break your identification with your pain body, we need to develop Witness Consciousness or Awareness.

To understand awareness, we must first understand multi-dimensionality.  Multi-dimensionality is the awareness that we are not one-dimensional linear beings.  It acknowledges that we are the sum of many parts.  The parts can be summarized in 6 dimensions:

  1. Physical – body
  2. Emotions – feelings, emotions
  3. Mind – thoughts, belief systems
  4. Expression – how we interact with others and the world
  5. Spirit – the spark of God, consciousness that is the enlivening of our existence, our connection with God, Consciousness, Spirit
  6. Energy – e=mc2 – meaning everything is energy

 

Why is this important? 

When we are disconnected from our spiritual essence, we can become “identified” with our body, mind and emotions.  We have forgotten that we are more than the body, mind and emotions.

When we have been subject to trauma, negative conditioning, or negative life experiences and haven’t resolved those experiences, they congeal into what is called the pain body.  The pain body feels separate from God and everyone else and creates a separate identity to keep itself safe.  The downside of this is that it also holds onto its pain.

In order to free our self from the pain body, we need to step outside of the pain body and view it from a detached perspective.  Stepping outside of the pain body is accomplished through Witness Consciousness.  Witness consciousness is the part of us who can step back and observe the body, mind and emotions.  It is intimately connected with our spirit.

 

How do we do this?

The biggest block to Witness Consciousness is the mind.  The mind is where we store memories of our past experiences.  It evaluates and creates conclusions about those experiences and makes decisions and forms beliefs based on that.  Many of those decisions and beliefs keep us stuck in pain and limitation.

To access Witness consciousness, we need to step outside of the mind.  There are many tools to do this.  I will provide a few here:

  1. If we connect to our breath and watch our breath, it creates a momentary gap in the stream of thought.  That gap is the doorway to Witness Consciousness.
  1. Deepening the breath. When we slow down and deepen the breath, that gap widens, and we come into greater connection with our body and Witness Consciousness.
  1. Pay attention to the current moment. Look around the room.  See the furniture, photos on the wall, other people, animals.
  1. If used correctly, positive thinking can quiet the mind. Our minds are habitually filled with negative thoughts and beliefs.  When we balance the stream of negative thoughts with positive thoughts, the mind can slow down and become less identified with the old negative thoughts and beliefs.
  1. Becoming aware of our emotions. Many of us demonize our negative emotions and suppress them.  Emotions means energy in motion.  By suppressing an emotion, we block the flow of energy and create increase tension and pain.  We also block our awareness.  By breathing and being present with our emotions, we can release the emotion.
  1. Intend to step into awareness. By using this languaging, you are speaking from the witness.  It encourages breaking identification with the body, mind and emotions.
    • Simply say, my mind is thinking . . .
    • A part of me is feeling . . . (insert emotion).
    • My body is feeling . . . (insert sensation)

 

The Benefits of Embracing Witness Consciousness – Awareness

By breaking the identification with the mind, and becoming more aware of our breath, body, emotions, the environment around us, we are entering the present moment and Witness Consciousness.

From a state of witness consciousness or awareness, and its natural connection to our spirit, we can receive answers to the challenges that we have from outside the mind, our conditioning, and our deeply held sub and unconscious belief systems.  This new awareness holds the key to healing and transforming every area of your life.

 

Awareness practice:

  1. Take some time each day, even 2-5 minutes to just stop and notice your breath. When you are at a stop sign, waiting in a line, or every time you open a door.    When you go to bed at night or when you first wake up in the morning.  Put a reminder on your phone.
  2. Pick any one of the steps above and take some time each day, even 2-5 minutes to practice it.

This begins the process of breaking the identification with the pain body and reclaiming your power. 

 

May you grow in awareness, 💗Bindu

What if . . .

What if . . .

What if . . .  ???

For those of us who are challenged with fibromyalgia and other chronic illness, we can feel like a victim to our circumstances.  We might fight the illness and the symptoms and want them to go away.  That is perfectly natural and normal.

Consider for a moment that there might be a higher possibility.  What if having fibromyalgia or another chronic illness is a wake-up call.  An opportunity to look beyond the illness to underlying factors contributing to the illness.

This doesn’t mean that we don’t want the symptoms to go away.  It does mean that rather than only treating the physical symptom, we might need to look deeper to fully rebuild our health.

 

The Wake Up Call

There are many possibilities that your wake up call might be asking for.  Here are a few examples:

  • Empower yourself in a relationship that you have been giving your power to another person in an attempt to feel more loved or safe.
  • Let go of childhood or societal conditioning to move into a more satisfying or empowered expression of your highest potential.
  • Begin to love yourself more and take care of yourself rather than to give all your energy to others without taking time to rest and recharge.
  • Take care of your body and provide it what it needs to heal and thrive.
  • Heal traumas or emotional wounds that are festering inside and blocking your inner peace and fulfillment.

 

My wake up call:

In my case, fibromyalgia was a huge wake up call and sent me on a journey of personal and spiritual growth that has changed me completely from who I was before.  I held onto a lot of repressed emotions and a lot of should’s and have to’s.  I was a very weak person and would let people walk all over me.  I was so desperate for love, that would stay in unhealthy relationships.  I wasn’t living my truth or my full potential.   Spirituality was an unknown word to me.  

Today, I am a force to be reckoned with.  I am strong.  I own my power.  I speak my truth.  I have found that by loving myself, I don’t need love from outside, yet attract loving people into my life.  I take great care of my body.  I love the work that I do.  I am content with myself and my life.  I have goals that I am working toward, and yet am at peace with where I am at.  My health is greatly improved.

I cringe when I think of what my life might have been like if I hadn’t broken out of the mold I was born into.

 

Are you ready?

If any of this resonates with you, then I congratulate you.  I welcome you to this incredible journey of healing and evolution.  I am here to support you in this journey.  

 

Introspection for this week:

Take some time this week to ask within to get some ideas about what your wake up call is.  Here are some questions you can contemplate:

  • What is your inner self reaching for?
  • What are your unfulfilled desires?
  • What success have you had in moving forward?
  • What is holding you back?
  • What are the obstacles in your way?
  • What support do you need?

 

May you reach your highest potential and live a fulfilling life.

💕Bindu

Fibromyalgia and the Pain Body Pt 1

Fibromyalgia and the Pain Body Pt 1

Fibromyalgia, Chronic Illness and the Pain Body, Part 1

The term the Pain Body was introduced by Eckhardt Tolle several years ago.  The pain body is the accumulation of suppressed emotions, negative thoughts, unhealthy beliefs and destructive cellular memories within one’s body or energy field.  It is what I call the Fibromyalgia Matrix.  The pain body keeps us trapped in the past and interferes with our health and happiness.   It blocks our ability to feel positive emotions and sabotages our attempts at creating a better life for our self.

 

The pain body is self-perpetuating

The pain body is like an entity in and of itself and strives to stay alive and functional.   It loves conflict and drama.  The conflict, drama and negative emotions triggered feeds it.  The bigger the drama the greater the banquet.    It will attract those situations to itself and then revels in the drama and negative emotions.

 

The Pain Body is a major factor in fibromyalgia. 

The pain body is behind chronic depression and anxiety.   Suppressed emotions give rise to the feeling of depression. When you suppress a negative emotion such as sadness, you are also suppressing the ability to feel positive emotions and end up feeling depressed.

 

Suppressed fearful emotions don’t go away.

Suppressed fearful emotions live within us sending a constant message of danger to the nervous system.   It keeps the body in fight or flight mode, always feeling threatened and the need to fight or run away.  The nervous system stays in a sympathetic (on) status and doesn’t know when or how to shut down.  This give rise to insomnia, chronic fatigue and feeling crummy.  When the body doesn’t get the rest it needs, it doesn’t heal, detoxify recharge and rejuvenate the body.  You end up with multiple chronic symptoms with no seeming cause.

 

The Pain Body becomes our identity.

These patterns become so normal that we don’t differentiate between us and the pain body.  You might say that we become identified with the pain body.  It becomes us.  It becomes our identity.

One commonality between women with fibromyalgia is that many of us feel a strong need for people to hear our pain.  And we often feel defensive when others try to help us.  This is the pain body talking.  It wants to be heard, but it doesn’t trust others.  It also has a commitment to staying alive and well in its misery . . .  even though another part of you wants to be alive, happy and healthy.

Pretty nasty picture.  Yet it is real.  And it keeps us in a state of misery and pain.  Can you relate?  I sure can.  I lived it for many years.  I was a pro at being miserable and in pain.   It is such a relief to be out of this pattern.  You can too.

 

There is hope.  You can healing the pain body.

My post next week will show the 5 stages of healing the pain body.  Stay tuned.

 

Healing the Pain Body is an important part of rebuilding our health.

I have been asking myself this last year why I focus to much on the emotional, mental aspects of rebuilding our health.  As I wrote the post, I received my answer.  We can do all the right things on a physical level to rebuild our health, but without addressing the pain body, our health and especially our happiness will be compromised.

Let’s focus next year on healing the pain body!

Next year I am rolling out online group programs that will provide education, training and support in healing the pain body and the physical body.  One of my goals is to make the healing work that I do available to women and men with fibromyalgia at affordable rates. The group online programs will do that.

I am working on a program that I hope to launch in January focused on resolving trauma. Stay tuned.

 

 

May you experience increasing health and vitality, 💕 Bindu

Send Love Back

Send Love Back

I adopted this many years ago when I was in an abusive situation. 

I had to rise above the abuse. 

I had to love myself enough to set healthy boundaries.

I had to love myself enough to get out of my abusive situation. 

And . . . 

I could do that with love. 

Love for myself. 

And as much love and compassion for the other as I could muster.  

No name calling. No blaming.  

Just, it is time to go.  

I leave you with love.  

Maybe I didn’t tell them that.  

But that was my inner mantra and mindset. 

It enabled me to leave with dignity.

It enabled me to leave with no regrets.

I did the best I could in the situation. 

I wasn’t perfect at this, 

But good enough. 

And that was enough.

I carry this in my heart now.  

My heart is opening wide to myself and others.

It feels good.

It feels new. 

It is unfamiliar yet comforting. 

May you give and receive love.

💕Bindu