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Fibromyalgia and the Pain Body Pt 3: Breaking Free

Fibromyalgia and the Pain Body Pt 3: Breaking Free

by | Nov 4, 2023 | Emotional Health, Personal Growth, Self Care, Self Love, Spirituality

The pain body, is an integral part of fibromyalgia. It is the blend of destructive cellular memories, suppressed emotions, sub and unconscious negative beliefs that cause emotional pain, stress and contribute to physical symptoms. 

In order to heal the pain body, it is essential that you break your identification from it.  Otherwise, it literally feels like you are trying to kill a part of yourself.  Your defenses will come up and sabotage your success.

In order to break your identification with your pain body, we need to develop Witness Consciousness or Awareness.

To understand awareness, we must first understand multi-dimensionality.  Multi-dimensionality is the awareness that we are not one-dimensional linear beings.  It acknowledges that we are the sum of many parts.  The parts can be summarized in 6 dimensions:

  1. Physical – body
  2. Emotions – feelings, emotions
  3. Mind – thoughts, belief systems
  4. Expression – how we interact with others and the world
  5. Spirit – the spark of God, consciousness that is the enlivening of our existence, our connection with God, Consciousness, Spirit
  6. Energy – e=mc2 – meaning everything is energy

 

Why is this important? 

When we are disconnected from our spiritual essence, we can become “identified” with our body, mind and emotions.  We have forgotten that we are more than the body, mind and emotions.

When we have been subject to trauma, negative conditioning, or negative life experiences and haven’t resolved those experiences, they congeal into what is called the pain body.  The pain body feels separate from God and everyone else and creates a separate identity to keep itself safe.  The downside of this is that it also holds onto its pain.

In order to free our self from the pain body, we need to step outside of the pain body and view it from a detached perspective.  Stepping outside of the pain body is accomplished through Witness Consciousness.  Witness consciousness is the part of us who can step back and observe the body, mind and emotions.  It is intimately connected with our spirit.

 

How do we do this?

The biggest block to Witness Consciousness is the mind.  The mind is where we store memories of our past experiences.  It evaluates and creates conclusions about those experiences and makes decisions and forms beliefs based on that.  Many of those decisions and beliefs keep us stuck in pain and limitation.

To access Witness consciousness, we need to step outside of the mind.  There are many tools to do this.  I will provide a few here:

  1. If we connect to our breath and watch our breath, it creates a momentary gap in the stream of thought.  That gap is the doorway to Witness Consciousness.
  1. Deepening the breath. When we slow down and deepen the breath, that gap widens, and we come into greater connection with our body and Witness Consciousness.
  1. Pay attention to the current moment. Look around the room.  See the furniture, photos on the wall, other people, animals.
  1. If used correctly, positive thinking can quiet the mind. Our minds are habitually filled with negative thoughts and beliefs.  When we balance the stream of negative thoughts with positive thoughts, the mind can slow down and become less identified with the old negative thoughts and beliefs.
  1. Becoming aware of our emotions. Many of us demonize our negative emotions and suppress them.  Emotions means energy in motion.  By suppressing an emotion, we block the flow of energy and create increase tension and pain.  We also block our awareness.  By breathing and being present with our emotions, we can release the emotion.
  1. Intend to step into awareness. By using this languaging, you are speaking from the witness.  It encourages breaking identification with the body, mind and emotions.
    • Simply say, my mind is thinking . . .
    • A part of me is feeling . . . (insert emotion).
    • My body is feeling . . . (insert sensation)

 

The Benefits of Embracing Witness Consciousness – Awareness

By breaking the identification with the mind, and becoming more aware of our breath, body, emotions, the environment around us, we are entering the present moment and Witness Consciousness.

From a state of witness consciousness or awareness, and its natural connection to our spirit, we can receive answers to the challenges that we have from outside the mind, our conditioning, and our deeply held sub and unconscious belief systems.  This new awareness holds the key to healing and transforming every area of your life.

 

Awareness practice:

  1. Take some time each day, even 2-5 minutes to just stop and notice your breath. When you are at a stop sign, waiting in a line, or every time you open a door.    When you go to bed at night or when you first wake up in the morning.  Put a reminder on your phone.
  2. Pick any one of the steps above and take some time each day, even 2-5 minutes to practice it.

This begins the process of breaking the identification with the pain body and reclaiming your power. 

 

May you grow in awareness, 💗Bindu

What if . . .

What if . . .

by | Oct 20, 2023 | Care of the Body, Care of the Mind, Expression, Healthy Living, Self Care, Self Love, Spirituality

What if . . .  ???

For those of us who are challenged with fibromyalgia and other chronic illness, we can feel like a victim to our circumstances.  We might fight the illness and the symptoms and want them to go away.  That is perfectly natural and normal.

Consider for a moment that there might be a higher possibility.  What if having fibromyalgia or another chronic illness is a wake-up call.  An opportunity to look beyond the illness to underlying factors contributing to the illness.

This doesn’t mean that we don’t want the symptoms to go away.  It does mean that rather than only treating the physical symptom, we might need to look deeper to fully rebuild our health.

 

The Wake Up Call

There are many possibilities that your wake up call might be asking for.  Here are a few examples:

  • Empower yourself in a relationship that you have been giving your power to another person in an attempt to feel more loved or safe.
  • Let go of childhood or societal conditioning to move into a more satisfying or empowered expression of your highest potential.
  • Begin to love yourself more and take care of yourself rather than to give all your energy to others without taking time to rest and recharge.
  • Take care of your body and provide it what it needs to heal and thrive.
  • Heal traumas or emotional wounds that are festering inside and blocking your inner peace and fulfillment.

 

My wake up call:

In my case, fibromyalgia was a huge wake up call and sent me on a journey of personal and spiritual growth that has changed me completely from who I was before.  I held onto a lot of repressed emotions and a lot of should’s and have to’s.  I was a very weak person and would let people walk all over me.  I was so desperate for love, that would stay in unhealthy relationships.  I wasn’t living my truth or my full potential.   Spirituality was an unknown word to me.  

Today, I am a force to be reckoned with.  I am strong.  I own my power.  I speak my truth.  I have found that by loving myself, I don’t need love from outside, yet attract loving people into my life.  I take great care of my body.  I love the work that I do.  I am content with myself and my life.  I have goals that I am working toward, and yet am at peace with where I am at.  My health is greatly improved.

I cringe when I think of what my life might have been like if I hadn’t broken out of the mold I was born into.

 

Are you ready?

If any of this resonates with you, then I congratulate you.  I welcome you to this incredible journey of healing and evolution.  I am here to support you in this journey.  

 

Introspection for this week:

Take some time this week to ask within to get some ideas about what your wake up call is.  Here are some questions you can contemplate:

  • What is your inner self reaching for?
  • What are your unfulfilled desires?
  • What success have you had in moving forward?
  • What is holding you back?
  • What are the obstacles in your way?
  • What support do you need?

 

May you reach your highest potential and live a fulfilling life.

💕Bindu

Compassion is . . .

Compassion is . . .

by | Oct 14, 2023 | Emotional Health, Inspiration, Self Love

Compassion for yourself

Opens the doorway to heal your heart

Releasing the pain of the past

and opening to a new future

filled with light, love, and abundance

in all areas of your life.

Compassion for others

opens your heart

creates connection, love and inner peace

within yourself, in your family

and in the world.

May compassion open and heal your heart, 

💕Bindu 

Unraveling the Pain Body

Unraveling the Pain Body

by | Oct 13, 2023 | Emotional Health, Self Love, Trauma

Reclaiming Your Innocence 

Last week, we talked about the pain body and how it was an important factor in fibromyalgia.  This week, we are going to explore how to break the cycle of the pain body.  Freeing our self from the pain body is an essential piece in rebuilding our health.

But it isn’t in my head, it is in my body!

The pain body is part of the energy body.  It is not the mind, although the pain body feeds negative messages to the mind.  The pain body also feeds negative stress messages to the body via the nervous system, keeping the nervous system in fight or flight that doesn’t allow the body to rest and repair.

If my post last week was reminded you of times you were told it is all in your mind, that is truly not the case.  The pain body isn’t the mind.  You don’t have conscious control over it.  It controls you from a sub and unconscious level.

Acknowledgment of the pain body and our health

Dr Bruce Lipton explores this in his book entitled, The Biology of Belief.

Dr John Harrison also explores the pain body in his book, “Love your Disease: It’s keeping you Healthy.   In his book he revels the connection between physical and emotional symptoms and deeper traumas and childhood conditioning.  

The ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) study was done by the US Health Organization, Kaiser Permanente, and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention which also verified the connection between physical illness and childhood experiences.  

Science is just now beginning to acknowledge the connection between the mind, body, emotions, energy body and physical illness.  Yogic theory, Chinese medicine and Ayurveda are just three of the ancient methodologies that have known this connection for hundreds of years.

That said, let’s explore how to neutralize the pain body.

 

Part 2:  How do we break the cycle of the pain body?

Component 1:  Awareness.

Being aware of the concept of the pain body is a first step.  Being able to observe yourself and your patterns, reactions, habits, emotions, thoughts, fears, triggers.   Knowing yourself very well.

Component 2:  Dis-identifying with the pain body

The second essential component in breaking they cycle is dis-identifying with the pain body.  When we identify with the pain body, we think the pain body is us.  If it dies, we die.  From this perspective, there is very little chance in breaking the cycle.

By developing Presence or Witness conscious, we can dis-identify with the pain body.  The pain body is only a part of who we are.  A very dysfunctional part.

There are other healthy parts of who we are, but they have often been suppressed, exiled to banished.   This happens when we are raised in an environment where we had to behave or act in a certain way to be safe, receive love, be accepted.  Yet when we banish those parts, we feel incomplete.  Our aliveness, joy, excitement dies with them.

Presence or witness conscious is engaging the part of us who can witness or observe all parts of who we are.  Awareness practices can help to build our Presence / Witness Consciousness.  This enables us to dis-identify with the pain body and allow for an environment where healing can take place.

Component 3:  Identifying the Parts.

Once we have awareness and are beginning to dis-identify with our pain body, we can begin the sorting and reclamation process.  We need to be able to feel the suppressed emotions.  Not all at once, but over time.  We need to become aware of our negative thoughts and belief systems.  Reconsider them and be willing to change life negative thoughts and beliefs to positive life supportive thoughts and beliefs.

We need to identify and heal traumas from our past; not just on a mental level, but on a cellular and energetic level.  If you work on the mental level only, you will have a different perspective on what happened, but the negative emotional and cellular memories will still create ongoing drama and trauma and negative experiences in your life.

Component 4:  Reclaiming our Banished Parts

The fourth component is reclaiming our suppressed and exiled parts.  The deepest and most rewarding work is reclaiming our wholeness.  All parts of us are valuable and part of the whole.  If we approach our healing thinking that we must never feel negative emotions or have a negative thought, we are fooling ourselves.  Even our so-called negative parts are there for a reason.  They are normally protective parts, protecting an exiled part or banished part.

Perhaps we have banished a part that feels sad or frightened.  Or we have banished a part of us who loves to play, sing and celebrate.  Or the part of us who is clear and direct.  Or the part of us who just knows stuff without knowing why or how.   The part that is naturally joyful for no reason.  The part that loves unconditionally.  Or the part that was hurt or abandoned.  The part that was traumatized, physically, sexually or emotionally.  The part that sees angels or talks to animals or plants.

We are a kaleidoscope of parts.  To be whole and beautiful inside and out, we need to reclaim all of who we are.

Fifth Component:  Love unconditionally

All our parts need more love, not less.  Our exiled or banished parts are hiding because at some point in our life, they were unloved and rejected.  We have both “positive” and “negative” parts that have been banished.  Loving a part doesn’t mean we like a part.  It means we can be compassionately present with that part.  Just like you might be compassionately present with an angry child.

In order to be whole, we need all parts.  When we encounter and can be compassionately present with all our parts, they integrate, and we experience wholeness.  We feel complete.   A deep sense of wellbeing ensues.

In this process, we also reclaim our power.  When we have the ability to love and accept all of ourselves, all of our parts, we no longer seek love and completion from the outside, from another person, place or thing.    We no longer give our power to something outside of ourselves.   We are free.

We are free to love and to live fully.  We can be in a relationship, not from need, but from enjoying our partner or friends’ company and companionship.  We can work at the career of our choice, feeling fulfillment from within and loving the opportunity to serve and support others.   Our fears won’t stop us, and our bliss can guide us unhindered. 

The need of a loving support system

Trying to heal your own pain body is a difficult endeavor. The pain body has built in protections. You often need skilled outside support to help unravel the pain body.

As I mentioned last week, I am working on a group program for women who would like that support. I am looking to launch it in January next year. Stay tuned.

 

May you love yourself more fully each day,💗Bindu