A Story of Transformation

A Story of Transformation

This week, I want to share a powerful experience that I had using the introspection I offered last week.

How focusing on my pain healed my pain.

In my search for health, early on, I spent 6 years at Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health as a resident staff member. My pain was very severe when I arrived there. We did yoga each morning.

When I shared the experience of my “pain”. They suggested treating pain as a sensation. A more neutral term. It was also suggested to breathe and watch the pain rather than react to it. Also to breathe into the pain.

I was doubtful that this would do any good, but decided to give it a try. It was certainly a new concept for me.

One day, my pain was particularly strong. Even off the yoga mat, there was a persistent pain that wouldn’t go away. I decided to take a warm bath. During the bath, I allowed myself to set with the pain and breathe into it as I had been instructed.

What happened after that changed my life.

It started with a memory of my Grandfather’s death when I was about 14. I was devastated by his death and wouldn’t even get out of bed for a few days. I was heart broken. The grief was overwhelming. I continued to breath and allowed myself to fully feel the grief.

As I continued to breathe the grief passed and I felt the love that my grandfather gave me. I was so devastated because he was one of the few people that I truly felt loved by and safe with. It was a great loss.

As I continued to breathe and watch my experience unfold, I got some insights about how my grandfather’s death impacted my relationships with men. It was only a year or two after his death that I began feeling an attraction to boys/men and then dating. I realized that for most of my life I had been looking for the unconditional love that I felt from my grandfather in my relationships with men. And that I had never really found that love.

Because of my grandfather’s unconditional love for me had I unconsciously set the bar really high. But at the same time, I was so desperate for love, that I would stay in a relationship that wasn’t right for me. Always hoping for that unconditional love. It never really came.

By the time the bath was over, the pain was gone. I had released the grief over my grandfather’s death and reconnected with the unconditional love that he had given me. I also had a new perspective on relationships with men that was much more healthy for me. I knew what unconditional love felt like and knew that was what was most important in a relationship.

This was a life changing event.

This is just one example.

My story above is just on example of the transformative power of listening to the body. It was the first for me and I was pretty blown away by the power of it. I now knew that I had stumbled upon a powerful tool for healing and transformation.

Over the last 37 years since this experience, I used this to help heal my body and resolve unresolvable issues in my life. Rather than trying to figure out from my mind how to resolve a problem, I engaged my body and released what was blocking resolution and getting insight and resolutions to the root of the issue.

I have used this to heal my relationships with my mother, father, siblings, men, co-workers and friends. All the while also resolving the pain in my body.

Here is a link to last week’s blog so you can try it.  

Weekly Practice

Take some time this week to explore connecting with your body. Take 15 minutes a day to spend focused on your body. It will help you repair your relationship with your body. Your body needs to be your ally rather than your enemy. It wants to be healthy. It wants you to be happy and fulfilled. Next week, I will talk more about listening to the body and hearing your own pain.

May you and your body become friends, 💗Bindu

P.S. Although this is a powerful tool, sometimes our subconscious mind blocks our ability to feel and release the emotions. In such cases a session with a practitioner can assist with the process. I am such a person having experienced this transformation personally and professional trainings to facilitate others through this process.

If you are interested, I offer a free Heart Healing Session. Just click here to request a session

A Story of Transformation

Please Hear My Pain Pt 2

Do you hear your own pain beyond the physical pain? 

Last week in Please Hear My Pain Pt 1, I talked about the need to feel heard and how other people couldn’t understand our experience.  This week, we are going to explore a deeper level of hearing your own pain.

Is your body talking to you?

The body holds an intelligence of its own, separate from your mind.  When the body is in pain, it is trying to tell us something.  For those of us with fibromyalgia, the body is literally screaming at us.   It may have something to say that we are not hearing. This does not mean we do not support the body on a physical level.   It means that we take into consideration our body’s input when making decisions about our health.

Your body is a valuable resource

Often in the experience with fibromyalgia, we think of the body as the enemy.  The body has betrayed us.  What if the opposite is true?  What if your body is your friend?  What if your body is trying to guide you to improved health?  What if your body and inner knowing is trying to guide you to discovering a happier, healthier, more fulfilling life experience?

Are you listening?

Are you listening to your body?  Can you hear what your body is trying to tell you?  So often, when we feel pain, we look outside of ourselves for the solution.  In today’s society, we are conditioned to do that.  The doctor or alternative health practitioner is the expert on our illness.  We look to them for answers. We don’t understand that if we learned to listen to our body and understand what it is telling us, that we could unravel our own pain.  We don’t know that we are the expert on our own body and that our body is the expert on our health.

After a doctors appointment where I felt dismissed and misunderstood, I realized that in 15 minutes I was trying to convey how I felt.  I was with my body 24/7.  I was very intimate with my own body.  It wasn’t possible for me to communicate the depth of my experience with anyone else or for them to understand it.

At the time, I wasn’t sure what to do with this.  As I began to take more responsibility for my health and make my own decisions, I realized that I knew my body best and needed to be proactive about my health choices.

This doesn’t mean that we don’t work with doctors or alternative practitioners.  It does mean that we partner with them.  We can do our own research.  We can tell our health practioners what works and what doesn’t.  We can share with them our own insights and intuitions.  Sometime, we can resolve symptoms by ourself, just by listening to our body.

How can we understand what our body is trying to tell us?

The body speaks through the vehicle of sensation.  We can learn to communicate with our body.  By being present with the sensations/pain, we can begin to tap into the underlying wisdom of the body. The first step is to learn to be present with your body.  Here are some steps that you can use:

  1. Turn off music, phones, television and put a do not disturb sign on the door.
  2. Get yourself in a comfortable lying position on a firm surface.
  3. Slow down and deepen your breath.
  4. Begin to feel the weight of your body against the surface you are lying on.
  5. As you breathe, focus on letting your body soften into the support of the surface.
  6. Do this for several moments.
  7. As the body relaxes, take time to be present with the sensations / pain in your body.
  8. Notice the tendency to recoil from the pain/sensation or drift into thinking.
  9. When you notice this, focus on your breath and invite your body and mind to relax.
  10. Breathe in deeply and exhale with a sigh.
  11. Allow yourself to be present with the sensation.
  12. Repeat steps 7 through 11 until you can feel more comfortable with the pain/sensation.

As you remain present with the sensation, begin to explore it. Here are some questions you can ask to go deeper:

  1. Where is the strongest sensation?
  2. Is there a color, shape or texture to the sensation?
  3. Notice if you feel an emotion.  If so, allow yourself to feel the emotion.
  4. Ask the sensation if it has a message for you or is trying to tell you something.
  5. Notice the conversation that comes into your mind. What are you thinking about?
  6. Be aware of pictures or images that arise.

This process will begin to open the communication with your body.  Sometimes tension will release just by being present with it.  As you work with this, you can begin to create a healthy, loving, harmonious relationship with your body.  This is a first step in reconnecting with your inner wisdom.

Weekly Practice

Take some time this week to explore connecting with your body.  Take 15 minutes a day to spend focused on your body.  It will help you repair your relationship with your body.  Your body needs to be your ally rather than your enemy.  It wants to be healthy.  It wants you to be happy and fulfilled.

Next week, I will talk more about listening to the body and hearing your own pain.

May you and your body become friends, ❤Bindu

4 Essential Components to Rebuild Your Health

4 Essential Components to Rebuild Your Health

The body is designed to heal itself if given what it needs.  Rebuilding your health is an inside-out process.   It takes the detective work to identify underlying causes of your symptoms and creating solutions that are in harmony with your body’s needs.  This approach has provided me with lasting solutions rather than chasing symptoms.

Here are the 4 areas that are essential to effectively rebuild your health:

1.  Essential Care of the Body

The body needs the proper food, rest, hydration, movement, relaxation, play, sleep, and breath to function optimally.  The body is designed to repair itself from daily functioning and even occasional stresses, traumas and accidents.  If any of these elements are missing, the body cannot properly repair itself.  If it cannot do that, then the wear and tear will degenerate the body at an accelerated rate which can show up as premature aging and chronic illnesses.

Another important element in the essential care of the body is to respect your unique bio-individuality.  Every body is different and needs a unique diet, amount of water, the right kind and amount of exercise, the right balance between work, play and rest, and even the right amount and timing of sleep.  Often these days we focus on treating a symptom or illness and disregard the bio-individual needs of the individual.   One size fits all approaches often don’t work.

A part of caring for the body is feeding it the right diet, exercise and rest.  But just as important is eliminating things that are stressful to the body, such as toxins from the environment, food, cleaning products, body products and more.  This reduces the toxic load that your body has to deal with and allows that freed up energy to be put towards healing.

2.  Care of the Mind, Emotions and Spirit

The mind, body and emotions are intricately linked.   You can be providing your body with excellent care, but if your mindset is negative, if you are dealing with a lot of negative emotions, if you have a history of abuse or traumas in your past your ability to rebuild your health will be compromised.

Working with a practitioner who is skilled in dismantling the mental and emotional components of an illness is a great resource.  I have found this is where the greatest and most effective healing is to be found.  In ancient, traditional and cutting-edge approaches, the connection between the mind, emotions and body is well mapped and can be identified and unraveled.

Modern research is showing that 80-90% of all illnesses are caused by stress.  Stress can come from many places.   The primary source of stress isn’t what is happening outside of us, but what is happening inside of us.  In his book, The Biology of Belief by Bruce Lipton, PhD, reveals how negative memories residing in our sub and unconscious data banks are a primary source of stress.  Identifying and resolving those hidden memories are an important component to rebuilding your health.

The spiritual dimension is also important.  It provides us with an inner sense of well-being beyond the body, emotions and mind.  It is a connection to God, our Higher Self and an increased connection to ourselves, others and the world around us.   Without that connection, our lives can feel empty . . . like something is just missing.  Feeling that divine connection is fuel for the energy that heals the body.

3.  Identifying and Resolving Causative Factors

When you have a chronic Illness such as fibromyalgia, it is because the body isn’t functioning optimally.  When the functions of the body are failing, it is because there is a toxic build up in the body and underlying imbalances in the energy flow and lack of communication within the body between the organs, cells and neuro-endocrine systems.  It would be like putting ill football players on a field littered with trash and with no direction or teamwork.  They would just run around in chaos and get very little accomplished.  That is what happens in the body.

The body’s innate repair system is not able to keep up with the degeneration that has happened.  It is important to restore the energy flow, detoxify the body, restore the microbiome, repair cellular damage, resolve inherited genetic susceptibilities and support the body’s systems to return to balance and optimal function.

If you have a chronic illness such as fibromyalgia, the imbalance hasn’t happened over night.  It has been building over time.  Perhaps your health declined slowly, or one event threw you over the edge where the body couldn’t recover.    Rebuilding your health is a process of reversing the degeneration that has happened with steady focus and commitment.

4.  Reclaim Your Life – Enhancing your Expression

To reclaim your life it is helpful, maybe even necessary to have a picture or vision of who you are as a healthy person.  What would your life look like if you were healthy?  What are your dreams and desires? What are your core values and mission?

For some, you can remember a time in your life that you were healthy.  For other, perhaps you have a vision of what you would like to be able to do or create with your life.  What is important about the vision is that it reminds you that what you are experiencing is temporary, that you can have a healthier happier life; that the work you are doing is your investment in a happier healthier future.    If you finding it is creating stress or tension between what is and what you want, remind yourself that acceptance of your current situation is but one step toward creating the future you want.

That vision is what will pull you through the healing process into health.  Rebuilding your health is a process, not an event.  It is a journey that will be filled with victories and challenges.  You will have good days and bad days.  It is during these times, that the vision of a healthy future can keep you going.

In Summary

The journey to full health can be an amazing journey of learning to love yourself and your body.  Of creating a healthy loving relationship with your body and rediscovering your intuitive knowing and inherent gifts and unique energy signature.  It can be a process of unraveling all that holds you back and keeps you stuck in life; whether that be your health, finances, career, or relationships.

My mission is to assist women with fibromyalgia who which to undertake this journey.  I hope you will join me.  Together we can create a supportive community of women committed to rebuilding our health, reclaiming our lives, rediscovering our joy and aligning with our purpose.

May you be healthy, ❤Bindu

Fibromyalgia and Trauma

Fibromyalgia and Trauma

The Connection Between Fibromyalgia, Trauma and Negative Life Experiences.

Modern research shows that 80-90% of all illnesses are caused by stress.  For women living with fibromyalgia, this is exciting news.  This knowledge provides a whole new arena to explore and add to our toolbox of healing protocols as we rebuild our health.

The ACE Study

The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study conducted by Kaiser Permanente and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention demonstrated an association of adverse childhood experiences (childhood trauma) with health and social problems across the lifespan. In the study participants were asked about different types of childhood trauma that had been identified in earlier research including physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, physical neglect, emotional neglect, exposure to domestic violence, household substance abuse, household mental illness, parental separation or divorce or an incarcerated household member. The ACE study found that:

1.  Adverse childhood experiences are common

2.  Adverse childhood experiences often occur together

3.  Adverse childhood experiences have dose response relationship with many health problems.  As researchers followed participants over time, they discovered that a persons cumulative ACEs score has a strong, graded relationship to numerous health, social, and behavioral problems.

4.  About 2/3 of the individuals reported at least one adverse childhood experience and 87% of the individuals who reported on ACE reported at least one additional ACE.

Cognitive and neuroscience researchers have examined possible mechanisms that might explain the negative consequences of adverse childhood experiences on adult health.  Adverse childhood experiences can alter the structural development of neural networks and the biochemistry of neuro-endocrine systems and may have long-term effects on the body, including speeding up the processes of disease and aging and compromising immune systems.

 Stress is the Leading Cause of Illness

Modern research is showing that 80-90% of all illnesses are caused by stress.  Stress can come from many places.   The primary source of stress isn’t what is happening outside of us, but what is happening inside of us.  In his book, The Biology of Belief by Bruce Lipton, PhD, reveals how negative memories residing in our sub and unconscious data banks are a primary source of stress.  Identifying and resolving those hidden memories are an important component to rebuilding your health.

When we have a negative life experience, the memory of that experience lives on in our sub-conscious and unconsciousness data banks.    If the memory has not been resolved satisfactorily, that memory constantly sends a stress message to your nervous system.   When this happens, your nervous system is constantly gear up for protection, fight or flight.   This leads to an imbalance in the nervous system.

The Nervous System

The nervous system is made up of the sympathetic nervous system and the parasympathetic nervous system.  The sympathetic side, revs us up, gets us going, helps us to move effectively throughout the day.  It also helps us to handle any unexpected stress.  The parasympathetic side helps us to unwind, rest, relax and sleep.  This down time allows our body to naturally detoxify, heal and regenerate.

When we have unresolved negative cellular memories, the sympathetic side of our nervous system is running all the time do to the ‘danger’ messages that the memory is transmitting.  We are in constant fight or flight, waiting for the next ‘attack’ to happen.  Our body does not get the rest, relaxation and sleep that we need to detoxify, heal and regenerate itself.

Importance of this for women with fibromyalgia

If you have fibromyalgia, chances you are have unresolved negative childhood memories.  Sometimes these memories are apparent and obvious when we consider our childhood.  Sometimes, they are more subtle.  A negative memory can be stored as the result of how you interpreted an experience, even when abuse was not happening.  We can even inherit negative cellular memories from our parents and ancestors.

While this may leave you feeling hopeless or helpless, rest assured that is not the case.  There are natural holistic tools that can help you to identify and neutralize these memories.  Mentally coming to terms with a negative childhood is important, but that does not necessarily neutralize the negative vibration of the cellular memory.  There may still be work to do in the sub and unconscious to fully neutralize the memory and its impact on your nervous system.

If you feel stressed, pressured, overwhelmed, fatigued and cannot sleep, there is a good chance that you have some negative cellular memories that need to be addressed.  Even with wonderful care of the body, until the cellular memories are neutralized you may very well still be struggling with your health.

Unraveling and neutralizing the matrix of memories, emotions and associated beliefs is challenging. In my own experience and in working with clients, I find that deep breathing is essential to consistent progress.

Sign up for my free mini course Connect to Calm, which provides a guided breath awareness experience to begin the process.

Coming next week.

Next week, I’ll be talking more about hidden negative experiences and their impact on your health from different perspectives including modern research and ancient traditions.

Until then, take a deep breath,

Bindu

The Power of Breathing

The Power of Breathing

Breath is Life

The most important nutrient that we take in every minute of every day is air.  Breath is life.  Your life begins with the first breath in and ends with your last breath out.  Without breath/air, you would cease to be alive in 3-4 minutes.  You can live for up to 3-4 months without food and up to a week without water, but you cannot even live 5 minutes without air.

Breathing and Life Energy

Modern research shows that slowing down and deepening our breath shifts us from the stress response to the relaxation response.  Slowing the breath down slows the heart, normalizes blood pressure, increases blood flow to the digestive system, deepens sleep, increases energy, focus, concentration, and memory.

Conscious movement of breath can be applied to achieve a state of relaxed vitality so that optimum health is reached and maintained.  The breath is one of the few body systems that is both voluntary and involuntary.   We can use the training of breath as a tool to achieve heightened energy and awareness and to resolve specific problems such as lowering blood pressure, stop smoking, and lower stress.

The Natural Breath

Have you ever watched a sleeping baby?  Its little tummy moves outward easily and fully as it breaths in air.  This is how we all breathed as a child, fully and deeply.  A full deep breath will bring in as much as 2 quarts of air with each breath, which includes energy, oxygen and other nutrients for the body.

For a minute place your hands on your belly and inhale slowly, and deeply letting your abdomen expand like a balloon.  Let the abdomen fall as you exhale slowly; you are releasing old stale air.  Inhale easily; feel your abdomen expand again.  Press the air out as you contract, as you pull your belly toward the spine in while exhaling.   How do you feel?

Reversing the effects of stress through deep breathing.

The abdominal breath is a first step in reestablishing healthy breathing. Here are some of the benefits:

  1. Increases the flow of oxygen to the body
  2. Exercises, relaxes and strengthens the diaphragm.
  3. Massages the abdominal organs
  4. Releases toxins from the body
  5. Helps the body to relax and release tension.
  6. Release trapped emotions from the body.
  7. Grounds and centers you.
  8. Breaks up the constant flow of thoughts.

This week’s practice

This next week, experiment with the following practices and notice what happens. 

  1. Upon waking in the morning, before you get out of bed, place your hands on your abdomen and take several slow deep abdominal breaths. You can stop after several breaths or continue for 5-15 minutes.
  2. Several times a day take a belly breathing break. Stop what you are doing and place your hands on your belly.  Take several deep belly breaths.  Don’t force, just do what is comfortable for you.  Once complete, stop for a moment and notice the difference.
  3. Before you go to sleep at night, place your hands on your belly and take several deep abdominal breaths. Then let your breath find its own rhythm and pace.  Continue to watch the breath for a few minutes.  If you have difficulty falling asleep, break up the flow of thoughts by bringing your attention to the breath.

 

Until next week, happy breathing.   ❤Bindu