In the early 80’s when I had just begun my search for healing, my sister gave me a recording of a song entitled, Learning to Love Yourself is the Greatest Love of All, by George Benson.
As I listened to it, I cried and cried. It so touched my heart. I could see how far away from loving myself I was.
For years, this became my theme song. If I broke up from a relationship and was devastated, I asked myself, “how can I love my self more.” If I am so devastated by the end of this relationship, then I need to learn to love myself more.
If I had a failure in my life, or things just weren’t going my way, I asked myself, “How can I love myself more.”
It took a long time and a lot of heart breaks and failures in my life, before I could truly love myself and hold myself with compassion. But I have arrived. I still have my moments of self judgment, but they no longer have much of a hold on me; sometimes just fleeting thoughts. Sometimes they grab me and I hold myself with self-compassion and work through it. Reminding myself that is only my shame talking and that isn’t who I am.
I wish this for you also.
May you Love Yourself more and more each day.