Consequences of the Heart Wound Abuse
The consequences of the heart wound abuse can go in two different directions. We can become submissive, mousy, invisible, compliant, passive.
The other end of the spectrum is becoming like the abuser, becoming an abuser yourself. You keep the pattern of abuse in your family alive for another generation.
Sometimes the victim of abuse turns the abuse inward and repeats the programming of the abuser toward them self by being self critical, cutting, drinking, drugs, compulsive eating, addictions, and other self harmful actions.
We might become perfectionist as a defense mechanism against abuse, if I could just do it right, it would be ok. Or we might demand perfection from others. We might become controlling because that is the only way we feel safe. We might let others stomp all over us because we think we deserve it or are afraid of others abusing us if we don’t comply.
We might isolate our self because only then we feel safe. Or become demanding that our needs be met. We might marry an abusive partner or have an abusive boss or co-worker. We could be magnets for abusers. We might have anger issues that burst out uncontrollably.
As a victim of abuse your health will suffer. We could suffer from anxiety and depression. Without healing the heart would of attack, the fearful cellular memories will continuously broadcast a fear message to your nervous system. Your body will live in fight or flight all or most of the time. You will have difficulty relaxing and resting. You may be driven to be a workaholic. You may be afraid of being vulnerable and have a protective wall around you.
You will have lost your childlike wonder and curiosity. Your gifts will often be suppressed. Happiness is nearly impossible. You may have an autoimmune illness or other health problems.
Healing the Heart Wound of Abuse
Healing the heart wound of abuse means giving yourself the love and respect that you deserve. Being kind and gentle with yourself. Acknowledging the hurt, sad, angry, shamed and frightened parts of who you are and offering those parts acceptance and compassion.
Next week will be part 2 of Healing the Heart Wound of Abuse. For this week, reflect on the following. Notice what resonates with you.
I’ll also share my experience with and healing of my heart wounds of abuse another time.
6 Steps to Heal a Heart Wound:
- Acknowledge the wound. Realize it is there and tell the truth about it.
- Allow yourself to feel the emotions and the pain of the wound.
- Realize the coping mechanisms that you created to survive.
- Acknowledge the negative beliefs about yourself, others, the world and God that came out of the heart wound.
- Re-script the beliefs from life negative beliefs to life enhancing beliefs.
- Choose different actions and ways of being that are more life enhancing.
Introspection for the week:
- Are you a survivor of the heart wound of abuse?
- How has that impacted you and your life?
- What in the above description of this heart wound resonates with you? What doesn’t?
- How have your compensated in order to survive with the unhealed abuse heart wound?
- What healing of the abuse wound have you already accomplished?
- What still needs to be healed?
Rejuvenate
If you have heart wounds, the Rejuvenate program is a great place to start. The rejuvenate program is designed to help in the healing of heart wounds. When I began practicing yoga, relaxation, breathwork and meditation, I became more aware of my heart wounds and had the tools to unwind the wounds and reclaim my heart. Click here to find out more or see below.
Private Heart Healing Sessions
It is almost impossible to heal your heart wound on your own. You have build in protective mechanisms that were created to keep yourself safe and survive the experience. Those protective mechanism will block your healing unless you work with someone with enough experience to successfully navigate the inner landscape.
If you are considering one on one support in healing heart wounds, click here to sign up for a complementary Heart Healing Session. Or scroll down for more information.
May you heal your heart,
❤️Bindu
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- Healing your heart wounds
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