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Beyond Fibromyalgia . . . A Path to Wholeness

Beyond Fibromyalgia . . . A Path to Wholeness

The idea the we can recover from from fibromyalgia isn’t very popular.

Our medical system has no cure for fibromyalgia. Even holistic treatments often fall short of providing relief from fibromyalgia.

Back in the 90’s, after struggling with my health for 20 years, I first heard the word fibromyalgia. I was dumbfounded. Also excited. I thought that now that I knew what was wrong with me, I could get help. But the medical system didn’t have anything that helped. I had already began studying holistic health, so put my focus in that direction. Even though it took a long time, I have improved significantly and many of my symptoms are gone or mild.

Today I am inspired to share my approach to moving Beyond Fibromyalgia. 

Which is quite unique.

This is the result of result of my search for health over the past 40 years.  I scoured the medical approach and holistic modalities. This was quite a journey and carried me from one end of the US to another more than once.  Personally working with multiple holistic treatments and protocols and practitioners for 20 years.  Into a monastery for 3 years, and an ashram for 6 years.  10 years of training in wholistic modalities.  Experimenting with diet, exercise and lifestyle choices.  Many years of teaching and coaching others.  I felt like I was guided by a divine hand showing me the next step and the next for 40 years.

Out of all of this I have developed a very thorough systematic way of restoring health.  Based on what really worked and what didn’t. Blending modalities into a synergetic system of rebuilding health addressing all dimensions of our being, body, emotions, mind, spirit, energy and expression. Calling on the power of the body to heal itself.  

This is the system that I used to rebuild my health. And now it is time for me to bring it out into the world.

Below you will see an outline and short description of my system.  I hope it doesn’t feel too overwhelming.  Beginning in September, I will begin teaching group programs taking participants through the process step by step.  My hope/intention is to make the process affordable for everyone.   By doing this in groups you will have the group support throughout the process.

Beyond Fibromyalgia – A Path to Wholeness

Connect to Calm

The Integrative Wholeness Experience

The Integrative Wholeness Experience is designed to teach you how to remain grounded, calm, and centered in the midst of external or internal stress. Accessing your inner wisdom and guidance.  

Internal stress prevents our body from healing itself.  When we have stress from negative life experiences, trauma, unhappy work, and relationship challenges, our sympathetic nervous system is running the show and we do not have the ability to slow down, rest, recharge, and repair.  Or parasympathetic nervous system is keeping us buried in a state of fog and immobility.   This can diminish the effectiveness of any health-oriented protocol.

By grounding ourself in our calm inner Presence we can more easily navigate the ups and downs of the healing journey.  And you will learn how to neutralize triggers and trauma responses as they arise in your daily experience.  

Essential Care of the Body

      • The importance of self-care
      • The importance of bio-Individuality
      • Discover the right diet for your bio-individuality
      • Learn how to keep your body hydrated
      • Enjoy healthy movement for your bio-individuality
      • Use breathing practices to enhance wellness
      • Recharge through sleep, rest, relaxation, and play

The second essential component to rebuilding our health is taking good care of your body.  Without feeding your body the right food for your unique bio-individuality your food can actually contribute to ill health rather than improving health.

Likewise with exercise.  Moving your body is essential for your health and knowing what exercises and how much is right for you will support your healing process.  Doing the wrong exercise or even too much of the right exercise can work against improving your health.

Oxygen is the most important nutrient on the planet.  With our first breath we begin our life on earth.  With the last breath we leave our body. The quality of our breath between these two events contributes to the quality of your life and health.

Water is also an essential nutrient.  Your body is 70% water.  A well hydrated body has a greater ability to detoxify and support normal metabolism.

Rest, sleep, and play are essential to a quality of life.  When we are stressed, we become contracted.  That contraction reduces the quality of our health. Rest and play bring joy and delight into our system and relaxes the body. The right balance between relaxation and contraction is essential for good health.

Quality sleep is also essential to good health.  That is when the body rests, restores, and rebuilds.  Healing trauma, negative life experiences and stresses in your life help the nervous system to unwind allowing for deep restful sleep.   Also the Integrative Wholeness Experience supports you in remaining calm in the midst of stress.

Care of the Mind and Emotions

      • All healing begins with Self-Love
      • Identify, manage and deconstruct stress
      • Embrace the power of your emotions
      • Open and heal the heart
      • Harness the power of your mind
      • Discover the core values that guide you

Much of this is covered in the Integrative Wholeness Experience.

When we have suppressed emotions and unhealed trauma, your cellular memories continuously send a danger signal to your nervous system which keeps you in fight or flight.

The mind jumps in and creates thoughts, stories, and belief systems to attempt to understand and explain the anxiety or depression that you feel.  This tends to slow down the true healing process and keeps you stuck in the uncomfortable known.

Trauma and negative life experiences are revealed and neutralized.  Reprograming the mind to a health life affirmative perspective.  Learning to embrace your emotions in a way that empowers rather than disempowers you.  

All done from a place of self love and compassion.  You will learn a process that will automatically heal trauma triggers and trauma responses as they arise in your experience.  

Identifying and Addressing Underlying Imbalances

      • Support the foundational body systems
      • Discover and deconstruct hidden stressors
      • Experience the art of healthy detoxification
      • Repair cellular damage caused by toxicity
      • Return body systems to balance and optimal function
      • Resolve inherited genetic susceptibilities
      • Restore the energy flow in the body.

When the body has been out of balance for an extended period of time, the biochemistry and energetic terrain of the body changes.  Even after correcting our lifestyle, stress reduction, trauma healing and spiritual connection, the body needs further assistance to return to an inner state of balance and functionality.

The foundational systems of the body include the neuroendocrine system, digestive system, and the detoxification system. By supporting these systems in the body, we can begin the process of rebalancing the biochemistry of the body.

In addition, it is important to identify toxins that are stored in the body tissues which undermine the healthy functioning of the body.    And finally, to repair damage the cells have sustained due to stress and toxicity. 

The body is fueled by energy that flows through the meridian system.  The meridian system feeds each system in the body and keeps the systems, organs and cells functioning normally.  There are many modalities that we can utilize to increase the flow of energy to improve your health. 

Reclaim your Life – Enhancing your Expression

      • Know yourself
      • Create your vision and personal mission statement
      • Effectively manage your life
      • Learn the art of conscious creation
      • Create healthy supportive relationships
      • Communicate effectively from the heart
      • Express your life purpose

Another aspect of rebuilding your health is knowing your true self and consciously interacting with the world around you, through work, family, and society.  Who are you?  What are the gifts that you are here to bring into the world.  How do you manage your time and finances?  Are your relationships healthy, fulfilling, and nurturing?  How do you consciously communicate in the world?

This benefits us in two ways.  First, knowing your core values and mission help you to channel your energy into fulfillment and satisfaction.  It also helps to pull you forward into health. 

The Journey

This may feel like a lot. And it is.  Yet your health and sense of inner peace will grow as you progress through the program.

I am excited and perhaps a bit scared.  It is a lot to take on.  Yet, I truly feel that this is my mission and destiny in this lifetime.  It has been a dream of mine for many many years.  Now is the time to bring it out into the world.

I am certainly open to any of your thoughts, questions and suggestions.  I am here to serve you.  

May you be whole, 💕Bindu

Start the Year with Powerful Intentions

Start the Year with Powerful Intentions

Start the New Year with Powerful Intentions 

I always love New Year’s Eve and New Years Day.  It is the end of the old and the beginning of a new year.  Also given that my birthday is on Dec 31, it is a new beginning for me as I move into a new year and celebrate the number of years I have been alive.  I take time to reflect on my life and what I have experienced over the last year and set intentions for the coming year.  

This last year has been very powerful for me.  Though I have been rebuilding my own health for many years, in the last few years I have been reaching out to support others wanting to do the same.  I feel a calling to share what I have learned and experienced with others with similar challenges that I have overcome.  I want something good to come out of my years of pain and suffering and to help others rebuild their health in a shorter time frame.  

“Coming out” has been a challenge for me in that it triggered all of my self-doubt.  Yet my inner intention and my commitment to my path has led me forward . . . so here I am.    

As I look back at 2022, I am very grateful that I listened to the inner voice that drew me past my fears and self-doubt.  I feel so grateful to be connecting with those of you on my mailing list and who are following me on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, LinkedIn and Instagram.  My heart feels so full when I see your comments and likes and know that I am contributing to your ever-unfolding wholeness. 

 

The Power of Intentions 

I would like to share with you the power of Intentions.  Too many times at the end of the year we create resolutions.  We make a commitment to lose weight, exercise more, clean up our diet and more.  But too often these resolutions fall by the wayside and we end up beating ourselves up for “failing” once again.  And maybe we have even given up making resolutions.  In seeing this pattern in myself, I made the switch to creating Intentions instead of Resolutions. 

An intention is like putting your deepest heart felt desires into a balloon and then sending that balloon into the heavens knowing that your prayers will be answered.  Resolutions have the feeling that I have to do it.  I have to make it happen.  

 

What is the difference between Intentions and Resolutions?  

Resolutions.  In my thinking, a Resolution is a goal created from the mind and enforced by will power.  It is a decision to do something to achieve a specific external result.  Underlying this is the desire to feel a certain way.  The resolutions are often fueled from our dislike of our self or our situation.  And yet the feeling part is often unconscious and/or accompanied with other unconscious desires to maintain status quo.  It is aligned with the do/have/be paradigm.  The paradigm that says, If I do this, then I will have this result and then I will be happy, peaceful, fulfilled, etc.   

Intentions.  Intentions are more aligned with the be/do/have paradigm.  When we create intentions, we connect within and identify what we want to feel, to be.  We create our intention around that.  From committing to our beingness, our true self, the actions of what we need to do flow from within and have the support of our higher self.  We feel inspired to take action because our actions are coming from a place of love and purpose. 

 

 Examples of Intentions 

Here are two of my Intentions for 2023 and how they work for me to inspire me, rather than to try to “whip” me into shape.  

I am home.  I have come home to my Self.  I am peaceful, harmonious, and present.  I am love, I am powerful, I am confident, I am fully alive.  

When I read this, I feel inspired.  I look forward to being this more consistently in my life.  It reminds me of who I truly am.  I feel inspired to take time to sit quietly with myself, to reconnect with myself, to be with myself.  Or to simply take moments during the day to take a deep breath and reconnect to my inner Self.  

I could have created a resolution saying that I am going to sit and meditate every day.  But that may or may not happen.  But starting with the intention, I will draw to me the actions and resources that will bring me closer to my desired state of being.  

 

I am enjoying ever increasing dynamic health.  I lovingly care for my body, heart, mind and spirit.  My body, heart, mind and spirit are harmonious with each other and in alignment with my highest good. 

When I read this, I relax.  It reminds me that, yes, I want dynamic health.  Yet, I want to be loving with myself and honor all aspects of myself.  I want my body, my heart (emotional body) my mind, and my soul to work together for my highest good rather than to be at war with each other.  

For those of us living with fibromyalgia or other chronic health challenges, we can create disharmony with our body.  We can sometimes think the body is the enemy.  We forget that our body is suffering too.  Our body wants to be healthy. 

 

A guide to creating your own Intentions 

Begin with some self-introspection.  Identify where you are in your life, what is working for you and what you would like to change.  As you consider your intentions, work through the following questions:  

  1. Think about where you are in your life. What are your greatest challenges that you would like to move beyond? What are the external changes that you would like to create? 
  2. Why do you want to achieve this new experience? What is your motivation behind this new creation?  What are you feeling that you want to change?  These are often negative emotions. 
  3. What do you want to feel when you have achieved your goal? This is the most important question.  Do you want to feel happy, peaceful, confident, free? 
  4. Take some time to connect to the feeling that you want to experience. Visualize yourself in that feeling.    What might your life look like?   What are you doing?  What do you need to do to move toward that state of being?  

Take the information from these introspection and create I statements.  “I am” is the most powerful statement.  It calls into being whatever follows that statement.  It also calls the experience into the present moment rather than putting it into the future. 

As you work with creating the “I am” statement, listen to your body and heart to see how they feel when you say the statement.  If you feel uplifted and encouraged, it is a good statement.  If your feeling drops, play with the statement until you feel uplifted.  You might want to say, “I am moving toward improve health” rather than “I am healthy” 

Let your heart be your guide.  Your heart knows what is in your highest and best good. 

 

I wish you much love, peace, joy and improved health in the coming year. 

💗Bindu

Anatomy of a Heart Wound

Anatomy of a Heart Wound

In the last few newsletters, I have mentioned the 6 steps to heal a heart wound. In this article I will explore the anatomy of a Heart Wound so we can better understand the importance of the 6 steps to heal the heart wound.

We need to progress through all 6 steps of the heart wound to clear all dimensions.

 

1.    Cellular Memory

This show ups as images and memories of the event. In the case of very severe heart wounds the memories are suppressed and hidden away as a protective mechanism. When the wound it too painful or frightening, or if we are shamed by what happened, we are protected by hiding the memory.

 

2.    Suppressed Emotions

Every heart wound has an emotional component. Whether it be fear, anger, sadness, grief or shame, these emotions get suppressed and live on in your emotional body. Until those emotions are released, you will always be at the mercy of them, showing up when you lest expect them. Until you can bring up the memory with no or little emotion around it the heart wound isn’t fully healed. These emotions are the gateway into the wound.

 

3.    Conditioning

Our heart wounds are born out of not getting our needs met in one way or another. When we have a need, as a child, we ask for what we need. A baby cries when they are hungry or need a diaper change. A child falls down and scrapes a knee and reaches out to the parent for comfort. A child who has suffered a loss, whether that be a pet, friend, parent or family member will reach out for love and assurance that all will be well. A toddler may try to take off a coat when they are too hot. A teenager might begin to pull away from a parent to test their independence as the approach adulthood.

If these needs are not met or if the child is punished for expressing the need, the child is conditioned by the parent as to what is acceptable and what is not. If suppressing their own needs to please a parent or care giver, that behavior can carry into adulthood. Stories and belief systems will be built around that.

 

3.    Stories

As long as the heart wound is not fully healed, the cellular memories and suppressed emotions live on in your body. You will feel their effect subconsciously and that is very uncomfortable. In order to live with this discomfort, we tell stories about why we feel the way we feel and act the way we act to rationalize what we are subconsciously feeling. This is a protective mechanism to avoid feeling the pain that is held in the cellular memory and emotional body. Eventually we think those stories are who we are.

We often make excuses for those who didn’t meet our needs. Or we think that something is wrong with us for having the need in the first place.

Additional stories are build around the conditioning. My needs aren’t important. I must take care of others and put their needs before mine. I cannot ask for what I need. I am not important. I am unworthy of love, comfort and assurance.

 

4.    Beliefs and Belief Systems

Out of the stories and conditioning, we develop beliefs and belief systems. Beliefs are what we tell our self about our self, others, life or God. The longer we hold onto a belief the more deeply ingrained that belief comes and the more power it holds over us. This is another brick or many bricks in the wall of protection that we build around our self.

 

5.    Coping mechanisms

At this point, we have placed our self in a box. We have suppressed our natural needs, gifts and expression. We do not feel fulfilled by life. A new layer of coping mechanisms appear.

Coping mechanism are actions that we take to avoid feeling and to pretend that life is good. They can be self destructive actions like compulsive eating, alcohol addiction, sex addiction, cutting. They can be avoidance actions such as being a perfectionist, over achiever, grandiosity, or over controlling. They can be mitigating actions such as people pleasing, hiding, isolating, memory losses, emotional breakdowns.

If we try to change the coping mechanisms without going through the 6 steps, it becomes a frustrating experience of repeated failure. More beliefs are built around the coping mechanisms and our failure to change them. ie. I am over emotional. I am successful. I am a looser so why try. I am a loner.

6 Steps to Heal a Heart Wound:

This anatomy of a Heart Wound give rise to the 6 steps to heal a heart wound. If you miss any of the steps, you will still be compromised by the Heart Wound. You might feel better. You might function better in the world.

But a part of you will still be in pain. And that pain is often hidden. We disclaim, abandon and exile the wounded parts of our self. We believe these parts are bad and often that was part of the conditioning that came along with the heart wound.

To fully heal a heart wound we need to embrace those abandon parts. Give them the loving attention that they needed at the time of the heart wound. Once the parts are embraced and healed, they can integrate back into a more complete expression of who we are.

 

The 6 steps to heal a heart wound are as follows.

  1. Acknowledge the wound. Realize it is there and tell the truth about it.
  2. Allow yourself to feel the emotions and the pain of the wound.
  3. Realize the coping mechanisms that you created to survive.
  4. Acknowledge the negative beliefs about yourself, others, the world and God that came out of the heart wound.
  5. Re-script the beliefs from life negative beliefs to life enhancing beliefs.
  6. Choose different actions and ways of being that are more life enhancing.

These 6 steps aren’t necessarily linear. We need to allow our psyche lead us in unravelling the quagmire of cellular memories, suppressed emotions, conditioning, beliefs and belief systems, and coping mechanisms.

 

The Untouched Blueprint of our Authentic Self

We have with us an untouched stillness that holds the blue print of our authentic self. That authentic self is who were were meant to be and includes our core values, gifts and talents, creativity and authentic expression. To re-access that part of our self is to become fully alive and expressive again.

 

Incomplete Healing

I have coached many people who have done years of psychotherapy. They normally have dealt with the stories, beliefs and belief systems, conditioning, and coping mechanisms. But it is my experience that until the suppressed emotions and cellular memories are addressed, they aren’t fully free and the heart wounds aren’t fully healed.

The emotions and cellular memories are held in the limbic brain and in the cellular body and are usually untouched by cognitive only therapies. In my own experience sitting with my emotions and allowing the memories to surface has brought about healing that could never be done on a cognitive level.

I have also coached people who have done a lot of somatic work, releasing cellular memories and emotions from the body. But if they have not explored their belief systems, conditioning, stories and coping mechanisms and re-scripted them they can still remain relatively dysfunctional in the world.

There is a third group of people who have used spiritual practice to resolve trauma by transcending, yet transcending an experience doesn’t heal it. They too need to work through the 6 steps of healing.

Any one of the 6 steps that are ignored can compromise your happiness, health and healing.

Coming Next Week

Next week, I’ll focus on Part 2 of Healing the Abuse Heart Wound. I wanted to provide this background before proceeding to that.

May you be thorough in your healing, ❤️Bindu

Rejuvenate!

Discover a nurturing experience that supports you in:

  • Healing your heart wounds
  • Rediscover your authentic self
  • Nurture and love your body
  • Discover inner peace
  • Release pain and tension
  • De-escalate anxiety
  • Reduce depression
  • Improve sleep
  • Increasing self awareness
  • Build self care and self love

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  • Feel accepted however you show up
  • Feel heard and understood
  • Share the burden of your pain
  • Experience a safe space for healing
  • Ask any questions that you have
  • Receive guidance in healing the heart
  • No pressure or hard sells
  • Experience unconditional love
  • Reclaim hope
  • Receive support

The Power of Awareness

The Power of Awareness

A lot of what I teach is awareness. Perhaps it would be helpful for me to describe what I mean by awareness and why it is so important.

What is Awareness?

We are very complex beings. We are multi-dimensional. By multi-dimensional, I mean that we have a physical body, emotional body, mental body, energetic body and a spiritual body. Within each of these dimensions are many energies and processes that function to give us the experience we have. Most of these processes and functions go on behind the scene and beyond our conscious awareness.

That is part of the grand design of a human being. Our heart beats without us needing to do anything. Our lungs breath without us knowing how this happens. We feel things, emotionally and energetically. Our mind thinks without our volition. We have cellular memories of our past that are subtle images playing continuously. All this and more is going on in the background creating what we experience moment to moment. Most of this we are not consciously aware of.

When we build awareness, we are choosing to bring into awareness some of these “programs” running in the background. We become more aware of our thoughts, emotions, physical sensations, energies, memories and soul.

 

Why is Awareness Important?

Awareness is important because it is these background happenings that create our experience of life. By becoming more aware of what is going on behind the scene, we can and will change the experience of our life. We can become the co-creator of our experience rather than the victims of our past and our conditioning.

Does this sound intriguing? Interesting? In my experience, becoming more aware has been a wonderful experience for me. I have changed and evolved in many ways that I could never have imagined. With increased awareness, we can impact our physical health, improve our relationships with others, improve our mood, get better sleep, enjoy life and more. We will experience a fullness of life that isn’t possible without increased awareness.

That is all I will say for today. But I will continue with this in future posts.

May your awareness grow,

❤️Bindu

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5 Steps to Break the Cycle of Stress

5 Steps to Break the Cycle of Stress

 Stress is a major factor in illness.

Stress is an important factor in the vast majority of illnesses, both directly and indirectly.  Stress can have a negative impact on just about every part of your body.  It can suppress your immune function, cause a heart attack or stroke, increase your risk of cancer, delay wound healing, promote inflammation, cause you to gain weight, impair your memory, cause depression, exacerbate diabetes, and worsen your sexual function . . . just for starters.   Stress also makes you age faster even at a genetic and cellular level.

Life is becoming increasingly difficult

A lot of people are feeling that life is increasingly difficult as our world seems to be spiraling out of control.  We watch helplessly as parts of our globe descend into madness and terrorism, and our governments seem increasingly unresponsive to individual needs.  Our lives have become more complicated and we are constantly bombarded with information through television, printed materials and the internet.  Rather than having quiet family time in the evening, our families are scattered doing different activities.

Stress comes from what is going on inside

Stress comes not only from what is going on in your life, but even more important from how you react to it.  When you practice simple stress management techniques, on a regular basis, you can be in the same job, the same environment, even the same family but react in more constructive and healthful ways.

Stress management tools assist us in reducing stress. 

Stress management techniques assist us in responding to the stresses in our lives in a detached and constructive way.  Rather than reacting to events in our lives with fear and contraction, we can respond to them with awareness, love and creativity.  There are many stress management techniques that can be applied and even become our habitual way of being.

We can address stress through physiological techniques such as breathe management, exercise, yoga and relaxation techniques or through psychological techniques such as meditation and conscious introspection.   These techniques assist us in releasing accumulated stress and tension and bring about a greater awareness of how we create stress and tension through our mental, physical and emotional reactions to events in our lives.

Deep breathing provides instant stress reduction. 

Breathing techniques are one of the quickest and easiest ways to break the cycle of stress.  If you slow down and deepen your breath, you will automatically become more relaxed.  When you breath slowly and deeply, it initiates a relaxation response in the nervous system and helps you to become more aware of your reactions. 

Awareness is a key component in reducing stress.  

This week, take some time to contemplate the following:

  1. What are the things in your life that cause you to feel stressed?
  2. What do you do when you feel stressed?
  3. Observe yourself over the next week and notice your stress level, what causes you to feel stressed and what you do when you feel stress.
  4. Consider health ways to address your stress, such as exercise, journaling, breathing, talking it out with a friend.
  5. Experiment with addressing your stress in new ways.

Share your questions, successes and thoughts below.