Fibromyalgia and Adrenal Fatigue

Fibromyalgia and Adrenal Fatigue

Recovery from Adrenal Fatigue

Adrenal fatigue plays a role in fibromyalgia.

Our fibromyalgia bodies are tired.  They have no more get up and go.  Instead they have a strong lay down and rest need.   On December 3 2019, I shared an article about adrenal fatigue on Facebook.  In this post, I am going to take this further and specifically as it relates to men and women with fibromyalgia.

Our adrenals impact every system and function in our body.  When the adrenals go into fatigue state, the body needs rest to heal itself.  If we don’t respect what our body is telling us, we exasperate the problem.   For years, I thought I could push myself past the fatigue.  I succeeded in making my fibromyalgia much worse.  The greatest challenge in my life has always been to allow my body to rest when it needed rest.

Adrenal fatigue is cause by too much stress in the body over an extended period of time.

Some people come to adrenal slowly, some come into it early in their lives, some come to it in the way of a trauma that overflowed their stress bucket . . . the straw that broke the camels back. 

Sometimes the stress builds over time.  Other times, when we are born into a stressful environment, the stress is a constant from birth.  Often even when leaving a stressful environment, the internal stress lives within us in the form of cellular memories.    The only way to clear this stress is to neutralize the cellular memories.  This is a major cause of stress for men and women with fibromyalgia.  

There are supplements that you can take to support the adrenals, but these supplements are only a band aid and might give you a bit more energy, but they don’t resolve the underlying stress that is the original cause.

Let’s look at some possible underlying stresses on the body:

  1. Eating unhealthy foods.
  2. Eating the wrong foods for your body type.
  3. Not getting enough exercise.
  4. Not getting enough sleep, rest and play.
  5. Toxicity, both from external factors and internal factors such as metabolic wastes.
  6. Destructive cellular memories / unresolved negative life experiences
  7. Unhealthy beliefs / beliefs that limit you from your full potential
  8. Trauma (either or emotional or physical)
  9. Trapped and suppressed emotions.
  10. External life stressors including jobs, relationships, finances.
  11. Dissatisfaction with life.
  12. Structural misalignments.

This initial list reflects possible underlying stresses.

As these stresses continue, another level of stresses develops such as:

  1. Leaky gut
  2. Food sensitivities, food intolerances and food allergies.
  3. Insomnia
  4. Pain
  5. Mood changes
  6. Irritability
  7. Chronic infections (bacterial, fungal, viral)
  8. Feeling tired yet wired. 
  9. And most any symptom you have becomes a stressor in and of itself. 

The list goes on, but you get the idea.

In order to recover from adrenal, you must resolve the underlying stressors.

The underlying stressors are the ones in the first list.  All the items in the second list are simply symptoms caused by imbalances in the first list.  They then become the cause for the next layer of imbalances.  Often protocols work to address the symptoms rather than the underlying causative factor.  When you get multiple layers of symptoms on top of the underlying causes, it creates what is called Metabolic Chaos™

A comprehensive program to recover from adrenal fatigue takes some detective work.  Each person with fibromyalgia is different.  We each have different symptoms and we each have a different set of causes.   There is not a way to heal fibromyalgia.  Each individual must be assessed uniquely, and the recovery protocol must be unique to that individual.  It is always unique combination of the underlying stressors.

If you have worked with eating a healthier diet, lifestyle changes, stress reduction, inner work on your beliefs and attitudes, emotional healing, functional medicine and other modalities, but still have symptoms, you have not gotten to the bottom of the stress bucket.   You have not identified and resolved all the underlying hidden stressors.  It is as simple as that.

Support in recovery.

In my complimentary Discovery Sessions, I provide an evaluation of you and provide a blueprint with which to move forward.  To sign up for your complementary Discovery Session click here.  

In private work with individuals, we work together, step by step to identify and resolve all stressors and support the body in healing itself.  Some things you can do on your own, other things take some supportive expertise with the right tools to assist in the resolutions.  With this process you will steadily  move toward health and well being.  

Stay tuned. 


Discovering Creative Ways to Relax and Unwind

Discovering Creative Ways to Relax and Unwind

Discovering Creative Ways Relax and Unwind

Perhaps you have tried journaling and removing negative energy and situations from your life. Maybe you have tried various forms of yoga and taking in a nighttime routine. You have a stash of essential oils and all the diffuser jewelry and devices a person could think of. The problem is you still find that you need to relax more and escape the daily grind. If this sounds like your situation, then consider these methods of finding more ways to relax and unwind.

Think Outside of the Box

The first way to find more ways to relax and unwind is to think outside of the box. The common ways to relax are to exercise, use yoga, color, meditate, and even to just breathe. You need to think outside of the box. Stop looking at the common methods that others use and look to what makes you happy and relaxes you. Don’t think about what other people will think of your relaxation techniques, just do them. For some this could be writing, knitting, crafting, gardening or even cleaning. Whatever works for you, do that. It is your stress, your relaxation, and your journey.

Be Comfortable in Being Alone

One way to find new ways to relax is to be comfortable with being alone. This doesn’t mean being lonely. It means being alone and being okay with that. Finding out about you and the person you are when no one else is there. This is usually the hardest part of finding more ways to relax, because you start to see what your issues are and where your stress may be coming from. You may experience anxiety, but through that anxiety you will find ways that help you relax and those may surprise you. Let the process happen and just take some evenings by yourself to discover what makes you happy and what relaxes you.

Look to Childhood Influences

Sometimes the simplest of things that we used to relax as a child can help us relax now. It may seem silly but think back to the things you found relaxing as a child or a teenager. You can even look to things you found relaxing in your early 20s. These things may still relax you and may have been forgotten over the years. Look to those and see what may still work for you, what holds and interest, and what you could apply into your life now.

The key is finding what works for you. 

They key to relaxing and unwinding is to keep it from becoming just another thing to do. For example, some people prefer to avoid the gym because paying a fee makes the gym a to-do list instead of a want to do list item. Make sure you are doing what you love and not what you feel you have to do.

Experiment with these ideas and let me know what you discover for yourself.  


Creating a Joyous 2019

Creating a Joyous 2019

Hello everyone, 

As I write this, it is December 31, 2018. The last day of the year as we prepare to move into the new year of 2019.

This day is also my birthday.  Each year on my birthday, I take time to reflect on the year that is ending and contemplate the upcoming year.  I look at where I am today and what I have accomplished and shifted in the past year.  I ask my heart for guidance in what I want to create in the coming year. 

2018 was a year of considerable growth and change for me.  Even though I have been coaching and teaching in the field of health and wellness for 40 years, in 2018 I committed myself to focus on coaching men and women with fibromyalgia.  Having struggled with my own experience of fibromyalgia for many years, I decided to share what I have learned to support others with fibromyalgia to begin the process of healing from the inside out. 

With this commitment, I launched a new website, Beyond Fibromyalgia, and became more active on social media.  My intention is to provide coaching via phone and skype to allow men and women to access me from anywhere on the planet.  I have been richly rewarded by meeting many of you on Facebook and have began to get to know you and feel your presence in my life. 

In 2019, I intend to add online and telephone group programs to my offerings to create more opportunities for individual and group support as we move forward in understanding fibromyalgia and how to rebuild our health from the inside out.  I look forward to meeting more of you in this format. 

In the next few days, I will post a survey to get your input on the upcoming programming.  I look forward to your replies. 

May 2019 be a year of great joy and unfolding for you. 

With Love,


5 Ways to Decrease Holiday Stress

5 Ways to Decrease Holiday Stress

The holiday season brings a great deal of joy and warmth along with it.  There’s something extra special about this time of year — but it doesn’t come without fault.  A great deal of added stress is seemingly dumped on our plates, and it can be hard to catch our breath.  The pressure of finding gifts, rushing around in the hustle and bustle to visit everyone, having people visit you, getting to see relatives you miss and even having to deal with those that aren’t always a joy to be around.

This season really can be enjoyable and heart-warming, even with the stress involved.  Walking into this time of year with a great mindset and some helpful reminders gets me through every year… and I’d love to share my tips on how I do this with you.

To reduce holiday stress, try these suggestions:

Remember perfect doesn’t really exist

Your cookies turned out like blobs. Your lights aren’t lighting up. Your kids just made a mess of your clean house moments before the guests are arriving. Surrender your vision of what perfect is and just let it go. The only thing the people in your life care about is being with you.

Don’t feel bad about saying “no.”

You can’t do it all. There’s no reason you need to go to every party and event from now through New Year’s. Decide which ones are most important to attend and politely decline the others. Spreading yourself too thin isn’t good for anyone, and it makes the time fly by faster, also. You’ll enjoy the holiday months better if they don’t whiz by in a blink.

Eat Mindfully

Make a plan before hand on how to eat mindfully.  When holidays come around there may be foods that you don’t normally eat or that upset your digestion or provide unwanted calories.  What will you choose without being too rigid with your diet?   Where will you hold the line so that you don’t go overboard?

Please don’t decide to starve yourself to compensate for the extra calories you had or are going to have at that holiday party. If you do slip up, forgive yourself and make a point to be more mindful. Don’t punish yourself for any mistakes. Just move forward with better decisions, no punishment involved.

Know that asking for help is okay

Let me repeat: you can’t do it all. Let family and friends help out when they offer. They can bring a dish, grab something from the store on their way, or help with the dishes. If you have to go to someone’s party and don’t have the time to make something, grab something pre-made from the store. There comes a time when we all need help and learning how to accept it will be incredibly beneficial for your sanity.

Fit in time for yourself

Women, in particular, spend less than 30 minutes a day on themselves. Go for a walk, get your favorite tea at the corner café and sit there in peace, rest, take a nap, read a book, take a bath, or make time with your best friend to just have one-on-one time without your kids tagging along. You’ll feel full again, which renews your mind and spirit like nothing else. We can’t give from an empty cup, as the saying goes.

Remember, the holidays are about joy. Find yours within, and you’ll be able to spread more of it around.  What makes you feel most joyful?

A Major Factor in Insomnia that Nobody Talks About

A Major Factor in Insomnia that Nobody Talks About

A major factor in insomnia is negative cellular memories. They act like a virus in the human body/energy system to steadily disrupt the mechanisms of the body to heal itself. 

Negative Cellular Memories

 I am sure you have been told it is all in your head. I heard that many times in my life. When we hear that, we tend to think that they are saying we should be able to control what is happening to us.  Obviously, that isn’t true, or we wouldn’t have the physical symptoms that torture us every day.

 However, there is a sub-conscious mind and an unconscious mind that does control what we think and do. And that is beyond your control.  Until it is not . . . keep reading!

 In our sub and unconscious mind are stored negative cellular memories. These memories have a negative element to them that is constantly sending a message to your nervous system telling you to stay alert and be prepared to fight or run. When this is going on in your subconscious memory, your body simply cannot relax enough to sleep. And the little sleep you do get isn’t deep and restful.

 What is a negative cellular memory

 We all have negative cellular memories. It is a fact of life. Every experience we have in our lives is imprinted into our cellular memory banks. Positive and negative memories are both stored.

 Negative cellular memories are the memories where you felt afraid, angry, unloved, threatened, ignored, neglected or hurt. We all have them. These memories impact our health when we were not able to resolve them due to the situation we were in.

 For example, you were constantly criticized by a parent.  It was not safe in your household to even stand up to the parent.  You were subjected to further abuse if you spoke back.  No resolution possible.  This is the kind of memory that undermines your self confidence, self love and your health.  It will interfere with your health and happiness until you can neutralize the energy.  

Science is now beginning to prove this.

 In his book, The Biology of Belief, Bruce Lipton, PhD, presents scientific discoveries about the biochemical effects of the brain’s functioning that show that cells of your body are affected by your thoughts.  This doesn’t mean that you have control over this.  Most of the ‘thoughts’ that we ‘think’ are happening beyond our conscious mind and the negative cellular memories are the driving force that keeps those thoughts in place.

 In his book, Love Your Disease, It’s Keeping You Healthy, Dr John Harrison, describes the process by which we internalize messages from our parents, siblings and others in the womb and our early childhood years. These subconscious messages form the basis of our identity and predispose us to illness.

 Even more detailed information is coming out now that indicates that how the individual interprets the experience can create specific symptoms in the body or impact specific areas of our physiology.  German physician, Ryke Geerd Hamer, spent years researching and documenting with great specificity the connection between trauma and physical illness. He calls his finding German New Medicine.  

Bummer! Now what do I do?

 This may seem discouraging or may even seem to condemn you to a life of misery. But that is not the case.  These ‘subconscious memories’ can be healed and resolved.  By healing them and resolving them, you can recapture the essence of who you truly are without the taint of your negative conditioning. When that happens, you can not only ‘heal’ your body, but discover joy and happiness and fulfillment from within. You can reclaim your power back from the events, situations and people who you gave your power to in your childhood out of a need to survive.

 This knowledge gives us the opportunity to explore, heal and resolve the impact our past experience has had on us.  With the proper tools, we can use this information to heal our bodies, our hearts, our emotions and our minds. 

Wow! How do I do that?

 I have studied and worked in this field for 35 years. I am not a doctor or psychiatrist. I have no medical credentials.  I am a woman who suffered from fibromyalgia for many years.  I was one who heard many times, there is nothing wrong with you.  Or it is all in your head.  I know the pain of that.  I know how helpless I felt and how you must feel when you hear that.  I even resisted and fought this line of thinking for many years.

 I was so determined to heal myself, that I made it my life purpose and my life mission.  I searched and explored and learned and experimented.  Over time, I learned to use this information to help me to rebuild my health.

 Several years ago, working with The Healing Codes process discovered by Dr Alex Loyd, changed the trajectory of my life.  For most of my life, I felt like I had a ball and chain attached to my leg.  I felt like I was moving through molasses in doing anything.  Life was just plain hard. And even when I did succeed at anything, it was never sustainable, and I would always find myself right back in the same hole of despair.

 After working with a Healing Codes Coach for about 4 months, I felt a shift.  It was as though someone unlocked the ball and chain and the molasses went away.  The memory that was connected with this was simply the memory of my depressed mother’s energy that I had absorbed from conception through early childhood.  Once that ‘cellular memory’ was neutralized, the cloud of doom that had always hung over my head was clearing.

Insomnia is one of the things that has improved tremendously for me.  I generally have a good nights sleep now and wake up feeling refreshed in the morning.  This is a far cry from tossing and turning all night or waking after two ours of sleep and unable to get back to sleep.  Waking up in the morning feeling like I had been hit by a mac truck.  Wishing I could just die because I didn’t want to face another day of pain and fatigue.  

This put me on a different path to healing from what I had been on.  I understood more clearly the impact of my upbringing and began to focus more on healing my relationship to that.  I found that using the Healing Codes was a powerful component to my recovery program.  Now I blend re scripting my childhood conditioning and healing emotional wounds with giving the body essential care, supporting my body to detox, supporting my body in re-balancing and repairing itself, and expressing my purpose in the world.  Life is getting better all the time. 

 Now, to answer your question . . . . How use this knowledge to rebuild our health.

There are many approaches to resolving cellular memories.  I have discovered that it is most efficient to blend the approaches.  Some work strictly on the cellular memories themselves. Some work on the mind.  Some work on the emotions.  Some work through the body.  I have found that working on the mind, emotions, body and cellular memories together create the quickest and most in-depth results.

The mind holds negative beliefs that we adopted.  The emotional body is filled with trapped and suppressed emotions that we didn’t feel safe enough to experience.  The cellular memories hold the energetic imprint.  The physical body holds the symptoms and sensations of the matrix created by the mind, emotions and energy body.

I have created a free mini-course called “Six Steps to Resolve Hidden Stressors to Enhance your Health” that introduces you to the process.  I would suggest starting with the mini-course and continue reading my blogs to educate yourself about the process.  By practicing the suggestions in the mini-course, you can begin to identify and neutralize cellular memories.

 In some ways it is a simple process, but some find it difficult because the psyche creates a defensive boundary around the ‘wound’ to keep you safe.  That same boundary can make it tricky to access the ‘memory’ to neutralize it.  If you get stuck help is available.

 Honestly, after 30 years of struggling with my health, embracing this focus has helped me to improve my health like nothing else has.  Rather than chasing symptoms and taking volumes of supplement (or drugs) to manage the symptoms, many of my symptoms have disappeared to never return.  Others are improving.  Once upon a time, fibromyalgia had me by the throat.  I felt powerless against it. Now, I feel like I am in the driver’s seat.  I have hope that I can heal fully and completely.

 I sincerely hope, in my heart, that others will join me on this journey.  I am here to support anyone that would like to learn how to apply this to their own lives and reclaim their health.

 So, sign up for my free mini-course and get started today.  Ask for help if you need it!

 From my heart,


5 Stages of Moving Beyond Fibromyalgia

5 Stages of Moving Beyond Fibromyalgia

My goal in life was to move beyond the experience of fibromyalgia.

As I moved through my experience of living with fibromyalgia, with that as my goal, I noticed 5 distinct phases that I went through.  They were, in essence, 5 steps of empowering myself in relationship to fibromyalgia.  These steps are:
  1. Understanding Fibromyalgia
  2. Living with Fibromyalgia
  3. Managing Fibromyalgia
  4. Healing Fibromyalgia
  5. Life beyond Fibromyalgia.

Understanding Fibromyalgia

In the simplest of terms, fibromyalgia is an experience of multiple physical, emotional and cognitive symptoms including (but not exclusive) to widespread pain, heightened and painful response to pressure, fatigue, sleep disturbance, joint stiffness, difficulty swallowing, constipation and irritable bowel syndrome, bladder abnormalities, numbness and tingling, brain fog, depression, and anxiety.  The exact symptoms and severity of symptoms vary from individual to individual.  Fibromyalgia is estimated to affect 2-4% of the population and effects 9 women for every man.  The term “fibromyalgia” literally means “muscle and connective tissue pain”. There is no cure for fibromyalgia.  Fibromyalgia is not fatal.  My experience is that the symptoms do increase over time if not managed and addressed properly.  Diagnosis can be difficult and even after diagnosis, finding a practitioner that truly understands fibromyalgia is rare.

Treatment for Fibromyalgia

Generally treatment for fibromyalgia is management of symptoms via medications and lifestyle management.  In the holistic arena you will find acupuncture, herbal treatments, “miracle cures”, chiropractic treatments, diet and exercise recommendations galore, and many countless modalities. Personally I think that rather than focusing on treating or healing fibromyalgia, we need to focus on healing the individual.  I believe that the underlying cause of fibromyalgia can be different for each person so the idea of healing or treating fibromyalgia or the individual symptoms may bring some temporary relief, but do nothing to create permanent or lasting change.  Treating symptoms can also detract the attention from identifying the underlying cause and thereby making real progress.

Living with Fibromyalgia

Living with fibromyalgia is a difficult endeavor.  In my experience, the symptoms can change radically from day to day, leaving me unsure of what I would be capable of accomplishing on any given day.  Fibromyalgia can impact every area of your life including career, family, relationships, hobbies, finances, and self-esteem. It is difficult if not impossible for someone who does not have fibromyalgia to understand what you are experiencing.  Many times I heard, “it is all in your head”, “everyone experiences pain”, “you’re just too sensitive”, or “just get over it”.  People rarely understood why I couldn’t keep up with everyone else or often had to say, “I am just going to stay home” simply because I needed to rest.  Many times, I would push myself to do more than my body could handle, and end up in extreme pain and miserable.  Truthfully, it took me years of suffering before I understood how to live with fibromyalgia.

Managing Fibromyalgia

Slowly, I began to listen to my body and understand the limitations that it imposed on me.  When I fought the limitations, I suffered.  As I learned to respect my body and the messages it sent me, I began to be able to manage my symptoms so that they were tolerable and that I could maintain a consistent level of functionality.   By listening to my body, I found foods that were more supportive and exercise routines that worked for me.  I discovered how much sleep I needed and what would disturb or enhance my sleep.  I found the kind of regular schedule that would support me in keeping the symptoms at a tolerable level.  I discovered what kinds of activities I could engage in and others that I needed to avoid.  I could tell when my emotions and anxiety were spiraling out of control and learned ways to pull back to take care of myself.  I found tools that helped my body to relax and release pain and tension. As I listened, I began to hear more.  I became aware of unresolved emotional experiences and how to release them.  I learned to listen to my mind and become aware of the kinds of thoughts I fed to myself and then slowly rescript my inner dialogue.  I learned to how to take care of myself the times that I was severely depressed.  I learned how to take my power back and communicate effectively with other. I think I have learned more from listening to my body than from any book I have ever read.  Although, the outside information was valuable and if I asked for it, I would receive information that was helpful to me.  I found that most medications did not work for me.

Rebuilding Your Health

Once I accepted the limitations that fibromyalgia imposed on me and learned to manage my experience, I was in a more stable position.  From there I could begin to research and experiment and look for the underlying cause of my symptoms. I had the belief that I could heal myself and I needed/wanted to do that.  With this approach, I have been able to root out the underlying causes of my fibromyalgia and put myself on the road to healing.  Finding the underlying cause was one step, applying the needed protocols to my life a second step and then re-balancing, detoxing and rebuilding my body was the third step. Out of my own experiences, I have pulled together the tools and methods that work most effectively as well as an understanding of how to evaluate others as to how to guide and support their exploration.

Life Beyond Fibromyalgia

Fibromyalgia can be an all-encompassing experience.  It can become the center point of our life.  While dealing with fibromyalgia, it can be helpful to remember that it isn’t the whole of our life.  We need to find outlets for ourselves and our expression that bring love, peace and enjoyment into our lives while on the journey to healing.  We also can look beyond the experience of Fibromyalgia and see or envision ourselves whole, healthy and fulfilled. As a result of having fibromyalgia I explored areas of myself and experiences in my life that have brought me great peace, contentment, empowerment and inner strength.  I am a more whole and complete person as a result of my illness.  I have learned a great deal about human behavior, health, wellness and spirituality.  I have found my own unique voice and each day give way to my authentic self.  This is a result of the inner work that I did along the way. I am grateful for this and love the person who I have become.  Healing all parts of myself, physical, emotional, mental, expression and spiritual, became the journey.  That journey will continue as I grow and evolve.