Self Reflection and Rebuilding Your Health

Self Reflection and Rebuilding Your Health

Self reflection is an important tool in the journey of rebuilding your health. 

Self-Reflection is a way to empower yourself to make your own decisions, based on knowledge, awareness, compassion and accessing your inner knowing.  Self Inquiry can be used to develop awareness, compassion, self-confidence and self love. 

The process of self-reflection is a powerful way to get to know yourself.  To become aware of your inner world of thought, emotions, beliefs, values, judgments, joys, fears, and much more.  It is an opportunity to meet yourself with compassion and caring.  By using self-reflection, you can become your own best friend.   You live with yourself 24/7.  No one on this planet can ever know you as deeply as you know yourself.  No one can ever love you as deeply as you can love yourself. 

Are you looking for love? 

The first place is to look within.  When you meet parts of yourself that you judge or push away, is an opportunity to embrace the part of yourself with compassion and acceptance.  By doing that, you will be giving yourself what you want and need most . . .  to be heard, seen and loved.  When you become your own champion, criticism from outside cannot harm you.  You will begin to draw to you love as a reflection of your own self-love.  

Developing self love reduces the stress that you feel every day.  Hidden judgments and self criticism create stress in the body.  This is an important hidden stressor that can keep your nervous system in a state of alert and alarm.  By developing self love, your nervous system can calm down return to balance. Anxiety and depression can be released; rest and sleep can be resorted.  

Self reflection can be done in many ways. 

Some people like to journal; some prefer silent contemplation and others deepen their own awareness through dialogue with a conscious listening partner.  Some people draw or use art, while others use music.  You can experiment with these techniques to see what works for you.  The most common is journaling and silent contemplation.

Self reflection through journaling. 

To experiment with journaling, get yourself a spiral notebook or, if you prefer, a nice journal.  Set aside some time each day where you will be undisturbed.  It can be as little as 15 minutes or as much as 30 minutes or longer.  Sit quietly for a few minutes and slow down and deepen your breath.  You can begin with a question or just write down whatever comes into your mind.  If you begin with a question, write down the question and then just jot down anything that comes to mind as you consider the question.  Do not hamper or edit the flow of your thoughts by throwing out anything, just write down whatever comes to mind.  Sometimes the most insightful and wisest thoughts are those that we might dismiss and being unimportant or silly or irrelevant.  Treasure each and every thought.  After a while of writing, you can go back through what you have written to see the treasures your consciousness has unveiled. 

Self Reflection through silent contemplation. 

This is my personal favorite.  You can begin by setting aside some time each day and finding a place where you will be undisturbed.  Sit quietly and slow down and deepen your breath.  In this method, you simply sit and watch the flow of your thoughts.  If you like, you can ask a question for direction and notice what thoughts come up.  You can deepen the inquiry by inquiring into the thoughts that come up.  Notice if you are judging the thoughts that come up.  If so, endeavor to let the judgments go and simply observe.  In this way, you are getting to know your inner self a bit more each day and by letting go of judgments, you are developing self acceptance and love. 

Self reflection through conscious dialogue with a partner. 

Conscious dialogue with a partner is also very effective.  In this technique, it is important that both parties are committed and aware of the process we are engaging in.  Find quiet place and a time where you will be undisturbed.  Slow down and deepen the breath.  Each person will take a turn sharing.  It is important that the listener not interrupt, share personal stories, or give advice.  Their role is simply to listen and if requested to feed back to the speaker what is being heard.  You can set a timer so that each person has a set amount of time to speak or be more free flowing. 

Enjoying the benefits of self reflection.  

You can use any of the methods above or devise one of your own.  You will find a wealth of knowledge and wisdom within through self reflection.  If you need help embracing yourself and would like assistance to discover the true beauty of who you are, reach out.  I am an expert in helping people to discover and embrace their inner beauty. 

May you know and love yourself,  Bindu


PS.  Stay tuned for my upcoming workshop.

Right Use of Positive Thinking

Right Use of Positive Thinking

  • Do you struggle with negative thinking?
  • Does the invitation to think positively seem like a hopeless endeavor?
  • Does positive thinking become another thing that you just can’t do right?

Tips on how to use positive thinking in a helpful way.   

Shortly after the movies “What the Bleep Do We Know” and “The Secret” came out, I was in the worst phase of my experience with fibromyalgia.  I was inundated with negative thoughts, feelings, fatigue and pain.


It isn’t helpful to use positive thinking against yourself.

It was around that time, that positive thinking was becoming popular.  It was said that my thinking created my illness.  People would use that against me in regard to having fibromyalgia.  Like somehow it was my thoughts that created it.  I felt blamed and criticized for having fibromyalgia.  That wasn’t the truth.  I could not think my way out of having fibromyalgia.  It had a power of its own, beyond the power of my mind.


You can’t make negative thinking go away with positive thinking.

There were times when my mind was very negative, and I would try to think positively.  But I just couldn’t do it.  It often became a war within myself that was very stressful, and I would judge myself for being so negative.  I found that by surrendering to negative episodes, having a pity party, and comforting myself, would help the negativity to pass more quickly.

And yet, it was too painful to allow the negative thinking and feelings to completely take me over.  I would read inspiring things and practice being kind to myself and balance my negative thinking with positive thinking.


The real power of positive thinking is to balance the negative thoughts.

I think balance is the real power of positive thinking.  Positive thoughts may never replace all the negative thoughts that come into our mind, but it can help to balance the negative thoughts with a positive perspective.  I had a teacher that said that positive thinking balances the negative thinking and leads to stillness of the mind.  That made sense to me.  I began to notice if I was obsessing negatively about something, if I would focus on something positive, it would lessen and sometimes neutralize the negative runaway train that I was on.  At other times, I had to surrender to the negative thoughts knowing that it would pass.


Use Self Inquiry

Sometimes it is helpful to understand where the negative thoughts are coming from.  Perhaps a parent, teacher or sibling said something negative about you. At the time, you adopted that thought as true.  You can now reevaluate that choice and ask yourself if you truly want to believe that about yourself.  You can choose what you believe.  You can chose to think positively about yourself and let go of the negative beliefs that you adopted as a child.


Be more aware of your thoughts.

Creating the intention to think positively also helps us to become more aware of our thoughts and . . . especially our negative thoughts.  That can be painful.  Especially when we just want the negative thoughts to stop.  It has been said that our negative thoughts and feelings are simply our old conditioning coming out.  By becoming more aware of our negative thoughts, we have a greater choice in how we think.   The negative thoughts might come up, but you have the choice as to whether or not to believe them.  To not believe them might feel difficult at first, but over time it becomes easier.  By just acknowledging them, they lose power over you.  

Think of a glass filled with water right up to the top.  The water represents the negative thoughts stored in your ‘data base’.  Then you drop a pebble, which represents a positive thought, in the glass and a negative thought spills out.  As you drop in each pebble/positive thought another negative thought/water spills out.  Eventually the positive thoughts outweigh the negative thoughts.


Choose your positive thoughts consciously. 

When practicing positive thinking it helps to consciously choose positive thoughts that feel true to you.  You might not be able to go from thinking that you don’t like yourself to I love myself in one fell swoop.  But you could each day, make a list of 1 thing that you like about yourself, one thing that you did really well, and one thing that you appreciate about someone else.  If you practice that each day, you will be adding weight to the positive side and feel good in the process.  It will also teach your mind to look for the good.  Which might be a new healthy habit!


In Summary

Don’t use positive thinking as a weapon against yourself.  But use it as a tool, to help balance the negative experiences, feelings and thoughts.  Use it as a way to rescript your old beliefs into new beliefs.  Always be compassionate with yourself and understand it is a process, not an event.  In that way, it can become a tool for growth and evolution.


Suggested contemplation for this week. 

  1. Watch your mind this week.
  2. What is the percentage of negative thoughts vs positive thoughts?
  3. Notice if you are judging yourself for your negative thoughts.
  4. Find some positive quotes or sayings that help you to feel uplifted. Read them a few times each day.
  5. Each night think of one thing that you appreciate about yourself, one thing that you did well during the day and one thing that you appreciate about someone else.
  6. Practice self-compassion for being human and learning a new skill.
  7. Notice if this helps balance the negative thoughts without going to war with them.
  8. Share your questions and experiences with this if you like.


May you find balance and inner stillness, 💗Bindu

5 Mindset Tips to Enhance Your Health

5 Mindset Tips to Enhance Your Health

The mind is a powerful tool.

It can assist with the process of rebuilding your health . . . or it can get in the way. I believe that the reason I have made so much progress in rebuilding my health is my mindset.  It pulled me through when the body couldn’t.  It also allowed me to keep believing that I could be healthy.

Below are 5 mindsets that will enhance your ability to rebuild your health.

1.  Never give up!

I really get that if you have been ill for a long time, you might doubt if you can really rebuild your health.  It is widely publicized that there is no cure for fibromyalgia by the medical community.  You have plenty of ‘evidence’ that says you will not be healthy again.  At best, you can mitigate symptoms and learn to live with it.

In my struggle to rebuild my health, I went through various phases.  I denied it.  I fought it.  I surrendered to it.  I was angry at it.  I gave up.  But then, a very wise person suggested to me some information about a supplement that was known to help fibromyalgia.  I tried it and got good results . . . temporarily.   But what I learned from that was there is always new information available.  That is one thing doesn’t work, there is always something else to try.

At that point, I made up my mind that I would always keep trying to rebuild my health.  After all, what else did I have to do.  I knew that if I didn’t keep trying, I would only get worse.  But If I kept trying, there might just be something out there that would work.

From that point on, I held the intention that I could rebuild my health.  I could be healthy again.  That made all the difference.  From that point on, my health did improve.  And continues to do so.

2.  Be grateful for the baby steps.

Sometimes, we can get so focused on one symptom that we miss the 5 others that have changed or improved.  It is important to pay attention to your symptoms and be grateful for the small baby steps. 

Perhaps you feel more relaxed.  That may be a huge step for you, but someone on the outside might not notice it.  Perhaps you feel better when you wake in the morning.  Perhaps, you don’t react as strongly to something that triggers a reaction in you.  Notice these small changes and know that they are signs that health is rebuilding itself from the inside out.

What I have noticed, is that sometimes a symptom has gone away, and I completely forget about it.  I can be so focused on what hasn’t shifted, that I completely ignore what has shifted.

I have a symptom inventory list that I provide for my clients.  Take an inventory of your symptoms and the intensity of them.  Periodically check back in with your list to see what has improved. What has gotten worse, if any.  What has gone away.  This helps you to have an objective view of where you are and what progress you have made.  You might surprise yourself.

If you notice a symptom getting worse, then some detective work is called for.  Perhaps you need to change your protocol.  Perhaps you are in a healing response or retracing experience.  A healing response is when a symptom temporarily gets worse as it is healing.  Retracing is when an old symptom reappears as the body is healing on a deeper level.

3.  Put yourself first.

Most of us with Fibromyalgia are caring people.  We want our family and friends to be cared for.  Sometimes we put their needs ahead of our own.  We push ourselves beyond what we can do to take care of others.

I call this the Eveready Bunny Syndrome.  We think we are like the Eveready Bunny who just keeps on going.  Unfortunately, even the Eveready Bunny’s batteries run out.  When those batteries run out you just cannot keep on going.

You must include yourself among those you love.  If you have fibromyalgia, chances are your battery has run out or is very low.  If you do not take care of yourself first, you will have nothing to give anyone else.  As your health improves, it will be important to watch this.  I know as my health improved and my energy started to come back, I was so excited, that I would push myself too hard and have a relapse.  Take care.  Be aware.  Make the choice to respect your body’s limitations and get the rest that you need.

4.  Have compassion.

Fibromyalgia is a difficult illness.  It is difficult for you and it is difficult for your loved ones.  You may be experiencing difficulties just getting through the day.  You may not be able to do all the things that you would love to do for yourself and your loved ones.  Your loved ones may find it difficult to see you struggling, to watch you pain.  Out of their love for you, they might say or do things that don’t work for you.

Compassion is the action of accepting and understanding the struggle that comes with fibromyalgia.  It is forgiving yourself for not being able to do all that you want to do.  It is forgiving your family members when they don’t understand how you feel and why you are so limited.  It is empathy and understanding.

One of the greatest gifts that I received from having fibromyalgia is compassion.  I grew to have compassion for myself as I struggled with this illness.  I grew to have compassion for my family as they struggled to understand and cope with what I was going through. 

Before I had fibromyalgia, I was a pusher.  I pushed myself and I pushed others.  Now, I listen to my body, my heart, others, and my soul and make choices from a place of love and compassion.

5.  Trust that everything is working for your highest good.

How can having fibromyalgia be a good thing?  This one can be a toughie.  During my worst years with fibromyalgia, I struggled a lot with it.  As one point, I adopted the possibility that there was a gift in what I was experiencing.  That having fibromyalgia was a wake-up call.  That it wasn’t a punishment.  I hadn’t done anything wrong.  I wasn’t bad.  It wasn’t my fault.

I took a good hard look at how having fibromyalgia was changing me and how I viewed myself and the world.  How it was changing the trajectory of my life.  How it changed my relationships with others.  How it changed my choices. 

I would have been in a very different place in my life if I hadn’t had fibromyalgia.  I am not sure I would have been any happier than I am now.  Probably not.  I probably would have more money and a different job.  I am pretty sure those things wouldn’t have given me the satisfaction and fulfillment that I experience now.  My values changed for the better.

I believe fibromyalgia can be a wake-up call to put your thoughts, emotions, and actions in alignment with a higher power.  In alignment with LOVE, peace and joy.

Yes, it is a rude awakening.  Perhaps it feels like you have been hit by a semi-truck full force.   But for me in rebuilding my health, I found a much better path than the one I was on.  A path that has brought me closer to myself, God, others and the world around me.  For that, I am absolutely grateful.

Contemplation for the week:

Embracing even one of these mindset suggestions, can pave the way for the others.  These shifts in mindset, can provide a more positive outlook on a devastating illness.  They can help you shift out of a victim mentality to feeling more empowered and in control of your life. 

For me, these mindset shifts made all the difference in the world.  They helped me to keep my head above water in challenging times and moving forward in unraveling my experience with fibromyalgia and rebuilding my health, reclaiming my life, rediscovering my joy and aligning with my purpose.

Self Reflection

Reflect on your current attitude about having fibromyalgia and consider the mindset suggestions above.  Notice if there are one or more that you would like to adopt.  Experiment with them.


May your mind be your ally in good times and bad, 💕Bindu

The Power of Intention

The Power of Intention

“Intention provides the template to a future not yet in manifestation”


For those of us with fibromyalgia and many other chronic illnesses, it can sometimes feel discouraging to work towards improved health.  We are told by the medical community that there is no cure, it is all in our heads, we need to learn to live with it, etc.


Set your intention

Years ago, my fibromyalgia was really bad.  It was so bad, that I could not imagine living my life this way.  I adopted the attitude that I could rebuild my health.  That attitude has been severely tested over the years.  At one point, I decided that I had to surrender to living with fibromyalgia for the rest of my life.  I thought I had tried everything.   Shortly after that, a friend suggested trying something and hadn’t heard about before.  It helped for a while, and more importantly, it opened a door for me.   I realized that new tools for healing were coming out every day and there was much that I did not know about.  I made a commitment to myself to always keep improving my health.  I am glad that I did as my health is greatly improved because of that.

By setting an intention to improve our health, we are telling God / Source / the Universe what we want to manifest.  We become co-creators with God / Source / The Universe, by setting the intention.  It can be amazing what shows up in one’s life after setting such an intention.


Asking the right questions

Along with setting an intention, is asking the right question.  How often do you ask the question, “Why do I feel so bad?” or “What’s wrong with me?” or “Why can’t I be healthy?”

What if instead you ask these questions, “How can I improve my health?”  or “Why is my health improving?” or “What’s new to learn about how to rebuild your health?”

If you only ask the questions about why you are not health, your will receive answers to those question, confirming that you are indeed unhealthy.  If you ask the question about how or why our health is improving, you will receive those answers.


“Ask and it shall be given”


Be conscious about what you ask, for that determines the answer you will be given.


Home Practice:

  1. Become conscious about your intentions. Are you thinking you will have fibromyalgia all your life and there is no way out of that?  Or are you willing to declare that it is your intention to rebuild your health?
  2. What questions do you ask? What kind of answers do you receive?
  3. Experiment with changing the questions and see what happens.


May your health and happiness grow,


8 Steps to Harness the Mind

8 Steps to Harness the Mind

Beyond Fibromyalgia – Harness the Mind

Beyond Fibromyalgia is a comprehensive system of healing and balancing all aspects of who we are, including our body, emotions, mind, expression, spirit and energy.

The mind is a powerful tool when aligned with the heart and the soul.  But without this connection, it can become a deficit rather than an asset.

We have positive thoughts and negative thoughts. The thoughts we repeatedly think influence our emotions, our body, and our life experiences. There has been much talk in the world these days about positive thinking. By balancing the mind with the heart and the spirit, it can can uplift us and enable us to become more healthy, productive and fulfille.

Here are 8 steps to re-engage the mind as part of the whole.

  1. Hold the mind in the right perspective.
  2. Implement the steps to heal the body.
  3. Implement the steps to heal the heart.
  4. Gain awareness of your mental patterns
  5. Feed your mind healthy and nutritious foods.
  6. Shift negative mental patterns to positive life affirming mental patterns.
  7. Discover your innate core values
  8. Align your thinking, words and actions with your innate core values.


1.  Hold the mind in the right perspective.

The mind is a powerful tool for the heart and the spirit.  It is designed to take in, store, organize, and analyze information.  Through this process it can also offer solutions to challenges based on the data it has stored.   The mind does not in and of itself access the higher wisdom on the heart, spirit and divine wisdom.  That information needs to be accessed by the spirit and heart and fed to the mind.   If the mind is used as a tool managed by and in harmony with the heart and the spirit, it can be very resourceful and valuable tool.  But if the mind loses touch with the heart and spirit, it can become a fearful or demanding tyrant, standing in the way of all that your heart and spirit need to truly soar.

In our society, we tend to give the mind a higher accord than we do the wisdom of the heart and the spirit.  When we do that, we are missing part of the picture and are operating on the mind alone.  The mind will always base its advice on past experience whether good or bad.  The mind is also more closely linked to the ego and can easily see itself as a separate being and have difficulty seeing and taking in other perspectives and will even need to defend itself and its perspective.  We need to understand the true purpose, strengths and weaknesses of the mind to most effectively utilize its gifts to us.

Developing the ability to detach from the mind and witness it from the perspective of the heart and soul is the first step in truly harnessing the power of the mind.

2.  Implement the steps to heal the body.

If the foods that we feed our body are in harmony with our bio-individuality, our body chemistry is balance and the brain and body is receiving the nutrients that it needs to function properly.   Then the mind will be clear, focused and able to carry out its duties efficiently and effectively.   

If the bio-chemistry of the body is imbalanced through improper diet, poor exercise and other negative lifestyle habits, then the mind can be confused, cloudy, unsure, inefficient and ineffective.  Positive thinking will be challenging, connecting with guidance of the emotional and spiritual dimensions with be hampered.

Healing the body is an important step in healing the mind.

3.  Implement the steps to heal the heart.

The mind is subtly aware of the feelings and images stored in the heart.  When the emotional dimension is filled with negative cellular memories, the mind is impacted by these and tends to create stories to rationalize the feelings and actions generated by the negative cellular memories.  These stories get in the way of seeing a situation clearly and even thinking in a positive life affirmative way.

By healing the heart, we are also freeing the mind from the impact of the negative cellular memories.  When the emotional dimension is open and free and the energy in the body is moving freely, the mind is also more open, alert and in the present moment.   The mind can better hear and follow the messages of the heart and spirit when the heart is free and clear of static from suppressed emotions and negative cellular memories.

Healing the heart simultaneously supports healing the mind.

4.  Gain awareness of you mental patterns and beliefs

The mind and your beliefs are part of the lens through which we perceive the world.   Our thoughts and beliefs also direct the interpretation of the events, people and situations in our lives.  Those perceptions and interpretations impact the quality of our experience of life.  If we have a trusting positive perspective of life, we will have a positive experience of life.  If we have a negative untrusting perspective of life, we will have a negative experience of life.

We can use positive affirmation to assist in changing our perspective, but until we are fully aware of the underlying beliefs.  Saying affirmation can be like putting icing on a pile of shit.  It still doesn’t smell or taste so good.

Through introspection, journaling and meditation, we can become very familiar with our minds and our thought processes.  Through non-judgmental observation of our mind and the experience it creates for us, we can begin to understand the connection between the thoughts and beliefs and the impact of them on our life experience.  From disassociation with the mind, we can be free to be in a position to let go of the thoughts and beliefs that no longer serve us.  From this perspective, we can then begin to consciously choose our thoughts and belief systems.

5.  Feed your mind healthy and nutritious foods.

Just as there is healthy food for the physical body and the emotional body, there is healthy and unhealthy food for the mind.   Imagine spending your time engaging in uplifting, life affirmative positive activities and thought processed.  You have just fed your mind healthy food.

If we are constantly feeding our mind negative thoughts and images, we are fueling the negative beliefs and thoughts within ourselves.  If we feed our minds positive uplifting thoughts and images we are feeding the positive thoughts and beliefs within ourselves.

What we are feeding the mind with come back to us in our experience.  Just as if you sew the seed of a dandelion, you will get a dandelion.  If you sew the seed of a rose, you will get a rose.

We need to use discrimination not only on what we open ourselves to, but also in evaluation of what we see and hear.  We need to consciously decide if that is something that we want to believe in or not.  We actually do have that choice.  We can choose what we believe and what we do not believe.

6.  Shift negative mental patterns to positive life affirming mental patterns.

So far we have set a stable foundation through holding the mind in the right perspective, balancing our bio-chemistry, healing the heart issues, gaining awareness of our mental patterns and beliefs, and using discrimination on what we feed our minds.  With this foundation in place, our work with the next step will be more fruitful and enduring.

Awareness is a key factor in shifting our mental patterns.  We have been building that awareness through the first 5 steps; awareness of our thoughts and how they impact how we feel and what we experience in our lives.  Discrimination is another key factor.  Through awareness, we are able to begin to build the power of discrimination.

We use awareness and discrimination to evaluate our experience, our feelings and our belief systems.  We use choice to decide what to expose ourselves to and what thoughts and beliefs that we want do adopt.  We can begin to explore different ways of thinking and seeing how they feel to us.  We can begin to crowd out negative thoughts and beliefs with positive ones.

7.  Discover your innate core values

You innate core values are those that are in alignment with your Heart and Soul and with your Purpose or mission here on earth.

Discovering your innate core values is a result of the previous steps.  As you move through the first 6 steps, you will begin to naturally align your thinking with the thoughts and belief systems that are in alignment with your heart and soul.  You will feel when you are out of alignment with your Self, your heart and your soul.  You will begin to naturally be drawn to thoughts, values and beliefs that are in alignment with your heart and soul and purpose on earth.

8.  Align your thinking, words and actions with your innate core values.

Once you have gotten in touch with your innate core values, you will be drawn into alignment with those values on all levels, body, emotions, mind, expression and spirit.  Your thoughts, actions, feelings and expression with naturally come into harmony and alignment.

This is a large piece of what I term as Integrative Wholeness.  No longer are your thoughts in conflict with your feelings, words and actions.  “Everyone’(meaning the different aspects of you) is on the same page and working together harmoniously to manifest the life of your dreams and fulfillment in all areas of your life.

Benefits of harnesing the mind.

When we harness the power of the mind and align it with the wisdom of the heart and the soul, the mind becomes a powerful tool for good in our lives and in the world.  When you have this alignment, you become a very powerful individual and can begin to manifest your heart and soul centered desires that bring peace and fulfillment on all levels.

Enjoy your exploration of the mind. Until we meet again, may your thoughts reflect your inner beauty.


The Power of Meditation

The Power of Meditation

What is meditation?

The word meditation likely brings up many images or ideas about what that word means.  The truth is that it means different things to different people.  With that in mind, let’s take a look at meditation.

When most of us think of meditation, we think of stopping the mind, a meditation technique (such as watching a flame or repeating a mantra or watching the breath), or of a state of constant bliss.  In truth, these things are part of meditation, but they are not the whole picture.

For me, the goal of meditation is awareness; awareness of our thoughts, our bodies, our emotions, and our spiritual essence.  Meditation is a practice that builds and enhances awareness.  That is its true purpose, to build and enhance awareness.  And that is exactly what it does.

Meditation is not connected to or owned by any religious or spiritual group although many religious and spiritual groups include meditation in their practices.  Therefore, meditation, in and of itself is non-denominational.

Meditation is a balancing tool.

Meditation is particularly helpful in balancing the mind.  Think of thoughts as activity in the mind.  Then think of no thought as inactivity of the mind.  As you go through your day, your mind thinks thousands of thoughts.  Some of these are conscious and chosen, but many are unconscious and habitual.  Some thoughts are positive and life enhancing; some are negative and work to lower the quality of your life.   As most of our thoughts are unconscious, habitual and negative thoughts, so we need to bring more focus to chosen thoughts, a chosen focus and/or positive thoughts.  If we want to create balance between activity and inactivity we need to focus on inactivity.

How many of you have tried to stop the mind?  It really doesn’t work.  The mind is like any other organ in the body.  It has a job to do and its job is to think, just as the heart’s job is to pump blood and oxygen through our body 24/7.  So, to try to stop the mind is a losing endeavor and we can become caught up in fighting with the mind, which is not helpful when “meditating.”

That is where a meditation technique comes in.

A meditation technique initially allows us to redirect our focus away from the thoughts in the mind to the meditation technique, thereby breaking up the chain of thoughts. This helps us to become more detached from our thoughts.  Initially when we sit to meditate, we will often lose our focus very quickly.  At this point, most of us berate ourselves for losing our focus.  But not to worry, losing your focus is part of the process.  The important thing is that as soon as you notice that you have lost your focus, you simply bring your focus back to the technique.  It is as simple as that.  This has a twofold purpose.  Becoming aware that you are thinking again and have lost your focus builds awareness.  Bringing your focus back to your technique begins to balance the mind.

What is the best meditation technique?

There are many meditation techniques and you may wonder which the best technique is.  We are going to bring our idea of bio-individuality to meditation just as we have with all the other topics we have discussed.  The perfect meditation technique for you will be the one that works the best for you.  Period.

But, where to start?  What meditation technique will work the best for you?  Consider how you process life.  Are you more visually oriented, mentally oriented or tactile (sensation) oriented?  If you are visually oriented, you might want to choose a visual meditation technique such as gazing at a candle flame or imagining a particular image.  If you are mentally oriented, you might choose a word, affirmation, or mantra that resonates with you.  If you are tactile oriented, you might want to choose a sensation such as feeling the breath moving in the body or other sensations in the body.

Experiment with different techniques and see which one works the best for you.  How do you know if it works?  You will notice an increased sense of relaxation or calmness or balance.  As you continue your practice, you will notice periods of stillness or quietness followed by periods of activity.  The periods of stillness or quietness increase, you will notice a detachment from your thoughts and even from the meditation technique.

Transcending the technique.

Once you can remain the detached witness, the meditation technique becomes less important. You can use it as a tool to get you to the place of detachment, stillness and quietness.  Once there, simply enjoy that state as long as it lasts.  When you lose it, employ your meditation technique until you are again detached.  This will lead to a greater and greater sense of witness consciousness, where you are aware of the thoughts, sensations and feelings oscillating with periods of stillness or inactivity. 

At this point, you are aware of the polarities of activity and inactivity.  You become more aware of the stillness that exists within you at all times, a stillness that is there throughout the cycles of activity and inactivity.  And eventually you realize that the stillness is your spiritual essence.  That it is always with you, has always been with you and will always be with you.  It is you.  Then activity and inactivity doesn’t matter.  It isn’t you.  You can simply watch it play out from a detached perspective.

Letting go of control; reclaiming conscious choice.

This might seem like losing control and in a way it is.  You stop trying to control things in your life.  You have greater awareness of your thoughts, emotions, sensations, and spiritual essence.  As your awareness increases, you have the ability to consciously choose rather than to unconsciously react to happenings within you and in your world.  You become more aware of how your thoughts, feelings, words and actions impact you and the world around you.  As that awareness increases, you begin to make more and more choices that will bring you back to a place of balance, calmness, relaxation, peace and harmony.  Once you have tasted balance, peace and harmony, you will want more of it.  It will become more important to you than other things that you thought were important that actually pull you away from inner peace.  It is a journey, not an event.

In truth, meditation is very simple, but not always easy.  It is helpful to have a teacher or group to assist you on the journey.  Believe me, the mind will draw you away and it is helpful to have someone or a group to pull you back. 

Contemplation for this week.  Be aware of the following this week:

  1. Are my thought primarily negative or positive?
  2. How busy is my mind . . . just notice the busy-ness.
  3. Am I able to redirect my mind to thoughts of my choosing?
  4. How do I naturally relate to the world? Visually, mental, or sensory?
  5. Try sitting for 5 minutes each day just watching your breath.  What happens?

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